BF doesn't want sex but will jack off to inet porn

Discussion in 'Masturbation' started by Tokin Hippy Chic, Mar 19, 2011.

  1. hitman73

    hitman73 Member

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    Sounds like a crap situation. Im afraid i cant offer any advice that really could be seen as helpful. But i will try.
    If you can get him talking about his fantasies find out what they are and act it out for him.
    Also, when he is relaxing watching tv or whatever he does walk in in your sexiest stuff, or naked and ravish him. Suck him, fuck him. Do the works to him that any other guy loves, show him you are interested in his body and eat him up.
    If that doesnt do it, its a lost cause im sorry.
     
  2. nic22

    nic22 Banned

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    I have to say its over. No offense, but Id say hes not attracted to you. Time to move on and find some that cares and wants to bang you.
     
  3. Allwaysafterme

    Allwaysafterme Guest

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    OK let me give you some guy perspective. First off he is a jackass, if you are willing he should be putting out. It's not you, so try not to let it hurt your feelings. What's going on is he can have a new fantasy, a different experience every time. He's gotten into this thing where he has created this very full, elaborate sex life with himself. Trust me, he's masturbating every day. So is he worth the bother? That's up to you, but here is what you can do to get things going again. First, restart sexual communication. Find out his fantasies watch porn with him,get him to tell you who and what turns him on. Don't judge or get mad. Give him the ability to talk about any perverted thing he likes. Next, make sex with you more thrilling then anything he can create in his head. Go out to eat then when you are at the table reveal that you are not wearing panties. Sneak onto a golf course at night and do it. Go skinny dipping. Take him to an adult toy store and both of you buy something you want but are embarrassed to admit to. If its erotic, then do it. In bed, get some new techniques. Oral of course, is always good but add a prostate massage or toy. Get tons of lube and give him a mind blowing hand job. Tie each other up.
    I'm guessing if you do this, he's gonna be so charged up by you he will be returning the favors.
     
  4. Allwaysafterme

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    Oh and one more thing. Get him talking about masturbating. Tell him you will talk about whrn you masterbate ( make it up if you have to) DONT judge even if you get mad, tell him you know he does it a lot and you want him to keep doing it but you want to watch or have him cum on you ( even if your asleep) tell him you want to wake up with sticky hair. The goal here again, is to get the fantasy out of his head and into your sex life.
     
  5. BIIman63

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    I love porn too but it's time for you to enjoy the real thing. Ultimatum time. I've been alone for a long time so I can justify, but I'd much rather be acting out my fantasies!
     
  6. papa wolf

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    Wow , I think you need to sit down with him and be honest . And try to get him to be the same with you . Lay your cards on the table and tell him him that while you enjoy some parts of the relationship the sexual part isn't working for you . You have to find the truth here cause it doesn't seem like he is going to tell you what is really up with him .

    It's obviously not a plumbing problem like Glen Glen said if he is jacking off to porn on such a regular basis . In my opinion as a man , either he is just selfish and complacent . Or has some kink , fetish , or attraction that he perceives to be outside the mainstream far enough , or embarrasses him enough, that he either can't or won't share it with you . Or he is not into you sexually for some reason like boredom or lack of stimulation .

    If he is watching porn he has a normal to high sex drive . And in my opinion jump at the chance to watch it with you per your request . To have the real thing and porn together . It would help if you knew what kind of porn he watches . I suspect the clues are there , and you're either missing them or are reluctant to see them .

    What I don't understand is how do you know he is watching all this porn when you're away ? Computer history trail maybe ? Or have you witnessed it ?

    In any event you have to tell him how you feel ,and find out the truth about where he stands in your relationship . Or this will go on like this forever . You deserve better , If he is not willing to change these things , or be honest with you about it . Good luck with it . I hope he gets the message and you figure it out .
     
  7. Cherea

    Cherea Senior Member

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    Why not?
     
  8. The Imaginary Being

    The Imaginary Being PAIN IN ASS Lifetime Supporter

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    star in a porno.
     

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