Should I tell him this?

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by SortofInnocent, Mar 20, 2011.

  1. SortofInnocent

    SortofInnocent Guest

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    There is a guy I have been dating and sleeping with for 6 weeks. He is 33 and I'm 27. We've been friends since August and have worked together for a year and a half. Thing is he doesn't know that I was a virgin when we first slept together. I can tell that he does not think I was, especially considering I was the aggressor that night and I am in my late-twenties. I'm hoping that our relationship will continue to develop and I'm nervous that one day I will have to tell him that I was a virgin.

    I want to know what guys would think if they found this out about a girl they were dating? Would you be mad that she didn't tell you?
     
  2. InvisibleLantern

    InvisibleLantern Member

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    If you were like any other typical first-timer he probably already knows. :-o

    I don't see any reason not to tell him though, it's understandable why somebody would be hesitant to share that information their first time. I mean, not telling him you were a virgin is a mistake you can only make once LOL.

    Unless you ever lied about not being a virgin. In which case if it makes ya feel better then tell him.
     
  3. SortofInnocent

    SortofInnocent Guest

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    I really don't think he knows though. I've never lied about it either. He likes to tease me about things he thinks I've done with guys in the past, but I never really reply to that because I haven't done anything, he just assumes. He asked me once when my last relationship was and I told him the truth. It was high school, 12 years ago. He said he didn't believe me. I never even kissed that guy, but I didn't tell him that. For some reason I want to tell him I was a virgin, but I don't know why.
     
  4. GLENGLEN

    GLENGLEN Banned

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    Tell Him, Guys Are Chuffed To Know They Have Just "Broken In" A Previously

    Unridden Filly...:2thumbsup:



    Cheers Glen.
     
  5. InvisibleLantern

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    First of all, Glen there has the right idea. (most) guys would be absolutely thrilled, and your man will probably only be upset that he never got the chance to brag about it.

    Honesty is obviously best whenever possible, and hopefully that is something that he will respect.
     
  6. Bonkai

    Bonkai Later guys

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    Umm not trying to sound contradictory for the hell of it, but not all guys feel that taking a girls "V" is a good thing or should I say something that they should have taken.

    Well if you have been sleeping with this guy for 6 weeks telling him now would probably not change much, far as the progression of your relationship. Especially if it's something you feel you need to get off your chest, don't let it fester, I'm sure he'll take it well after all you two have already done the deed.
     
  7. jiangpan2033

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    If he really loves you,you should tell him .women's first time is quite important for a man .If he just stays with you for temporary fun ,you'd better not
     
  8. jangehei

    jangehei Banned

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    I think u should tell him if u really love him.
     
  9. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    should have told him about 6 weeks ago. at this point, it doesn't make the slightest difference, does it?
     
  10. Sleeper

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    Well he might appreciate it but he if he isn't looking for commitment you may not want to mention it. I guess it would depend on your intentions of the relationship. Taking someone's virginity is sometimes seen as a big deal.
     
  11. knotdirty

    knotdirty Over the Rainbow

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    If you think you could really care about this guy, you need to be honest with him.
     
  12. lost1975

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    Being honest with your partner is important..but i agree with "underwear" ..it's something you should have been honest about 6 weeks ago and really makes no sense to tell him now. If it still bothers you and you can't get over it...tell him after the wedding lol.
     
  13. Lostthoughts

    Lostthoughts Thostloughts

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    lol.. He would be insane to actually get mad about something like that.

    If you want to tell him, tell him. If not, don´t.
     
  14. nic22

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    I wouldn't care one single bit. Im not sure why it would matter. If a girl came up to me and said fuck me...but im a virgin. Id be like so lets go!:auto:
     
  15. The Imaginary Being

    The Imaginary Being PAIN IN ASS Lifetime Supporter

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    try one of the following:

    1. let him take your anal virginity
    2. a bottle of ketchup and a 'the first 100 times didn't count look'
    3. become a born again virgin. then have sex.
    4. eat prunes.
     
  16. Charmed262

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    I say tell him if that is something that you want to do.
     
  17. Telepath

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    tell him, to make it special between you 2.
    don't keep him out the loop if you really think you could stay a long time with him.
     
  18. dark suger

    dark suger Dripping With Sin!

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    Seems to me that u quite like not telling him and playing this little game so why don’t you continue with that. If u really cared u would have told him, he probably won’t really care anyway.
     
  19. Shizzle

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    Just tell the dude, its not going to make much diffrence. i can understand if u hadnt slept with the man yet, and u was scared to tell him in case he didnt want to do it. but shit hunny, the deed is done. whats the worse he can do? its not like he can give it back to u?
     
  20. BIIman63

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    I think he'd be quite impressed.
     

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