I'm single and pregnant and I'm looking for any advice or support to help me feel better about this... I'm yearning for the second trimester to get here so i don't feel constant twinges of nausea and extreme fatigue. Mostly i need a better way to beat boredom... I left school 9 hours away, on the other side of the province to get away from the baby's father because I was under too much stress trying to get through to him and I know better than to expect change from an alcoholic who doesn't want to change. So, I'm home with my family and friends and waiting to hear from social services which i'm not proud of it but I'll probably be on assistance until I'm ok with sending my little one to day care I like to knit and crochet and sew, I'm also an artist and was going to art school until I had to leave. But, I've had a really hard time finding motivation to do much more than lay down, watch tv or be on the computer... I can't help but miss the baby's father even though I know I'm better off doing this on my own... and being tired all the time and stuck at my mother's(half an hour drive away from the city where I lived before going to school) where all my friends are... I've always had that maternal instinct and seeing pregnant women or babies always made me think i couldn't wait until it was my turn, but now that I'm pregnant and i know there's a little one inside me, i can't help but want to fast forward until i can hold my little one in my arms... any advice or words of support would be nice right now, I'm just trying to get through a difficult time to be happy and healthy so i can have a healthy baby. (I'm 9 weeks 3 days into my pregnancy,couldn't get my ticker to work )
I am not in exactly the same situation but I can relate with you. I've got a nephew that I take care of for the most part with my mother, but mostly alone as she works. My sister is a heroin addict and is rarely home. I'm not single but my boyfriend lives far away and is in school so we haven't seen each other much. I also feel very bored for most of the day (I haven't much else to do but tend to the child's needs; he's 19 months old). I feel stuck at home and am not in college where all my friends are. However, since you're fatigued a lot, why don't you try knitting or crocheting in bed or get an easel and a stool so you can sit and paint (i'm not sure what type of art you do) or sculpt or draw? Try doing things to make yourself feel good. Take bubble baths, listen to music you like and even put headphones on your belly for the baby once you get a baby bump. Sometimes I feel tired but going for a walk or sitting at the park feels nice- just getting some fresh air. I go stir crazy plenty and going out helps with the boredom whether you're alone or not. Feel free to PM if you ever need to talk to someone Hope things look up for you, hun.
raising kids is a process every step of the way. you'll aclimate just in time to meet your next challange. im not being cynical, its a great blessing.
Hey, i'm a single mom too. I just wanted to post here to let you know i'm in a similar boat. Don't have time to type much else now.
Have you thought about joining a community where you can get lots of help in raising your family? I have been raising children that were not my own for several years now, we are just one big extended family and its great.
