is there a difference between coming and having an orgasm?

i've never orgasmed during sex. i can make myself orgasm by masturbating and have been able for a while. when my boyfriend and i are having sex, numerous times throughout while it feels really good i'll feel myself getting even wetter, like i feel warmth like more come is coming out but i know it's not me orgasming. my boyfriend says he's seen my come before.

so is there a difference? what is the difference?

 

Huge difference... You can do either without doing the other.

BTW... when you tell your boyfriend something like that and he dismisses what you say as wrong, you really should be questioning if its the right place for you.

 

SO True.

Also, I recommend practicing by yourself. Once you reach orgasm, you will KNOW the difference. If you know what you like, you can guide him there. If he isn't willing to comply, he isn't worth it---IMHO.

Good luck, dear.

 

tell my boyfriend like what?

 

i do know the difference, i just don't know what "cum" is, if i'm doing it and why i do it if i'm not orgasming.

 

Whatever it was that led him to respond with this...

As for the difference... Keep in mind this is from the perspective of watching it from a males pov.

A woman can cum and get sexual release... she hits a peak, cums and feels relaxed... She will tense up during, maybe shake a little, then relax...

An orgasm, happens when sexual stimulation continues past that point to where where her mind melts... simplistically speaking...

Her whole body will flush and get hot (sometimes in waves across the skin that you can watch), every muscle in her body will tense and vibrate, things caught between her thighs (like heads) can almost get crushed, and it continues until the sexual stimulation ends... sometimes from them passing out (but not always) after which, she can't walk right because her muscles are all rubbery and wore out.

For the woman's perspective, I can't really help you... lol

 

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That shits not funny man, there should be warning labels....

 

I think that cum - as a noun, is the wettness that comes out. Cum as a verb, is orgasming. I've heard that it's pretty common for some girls to cum from clitoral stimulation (masturbation or tongue), but not vaginally (cock sliding, dildo). It doesn't mean that you won't cum from cock at some point, it just sounds like you've only got close so far. At least it's fun to work at.

 

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"her legs are pressed up against my ears so tightly that I don't hear her father come into the room"

 

The difference between coming and orgasm is:

When you say "coming" I assume you mean vaginal lubricating fluid.

I think you are at what the stage of either "excitement" or plauteu phase, if you believe the medical books as a source of reference.

From a mans perspective I noticed that both me and my partner where "saturated" by a water being excreted out of our skin ( feel like saying sweat, but sweat I dont think is correct because its not really through physical exertion ), followed by: here heart was beating very fast I don't doubt it was maybe around 200 beats per minute.

So not only was she wet through the vagina, but also her whole body, hair saturated, body everything very much like getting out of a sauna after 10 minutes.

dialated pupils.

I think her breathing was fast also but its not something I distinctly remember.

I didn't enter her until maybe 5 hours later, so please note that penetration was not mostly involved to produce the orgasm.

After I entered her it wasn't long that I felt her keegals muscles around my penis, and spasmodically, rythmically and uncontrollably contract - its this intense pressure around my penis that sent me through the roof - ohh god the feeling was just too much !!!

I must admit it was quite shocking to have that happen, your mind senses something strange happening and doesn't quite know what to do.

So I just went with it ....

During her orgasm I dont know what happened - I have little recollection of what actually happened next.

I felt like I was fused together with her not a separate entity, together as one in the same, inside her warm, very intense pleasure like nothing I had ever experience before.

Yes it was unpresidented.

Its an out of body experience or mental blackout I felt love for my partner, trust, euphoria, contentment, relaxed.

Its like being born in that your wet but without the shock of cold and the comfort and security of your mothers womb.

After the orgasm you just awaken as if from a dream, feeling like euphoria, love for your partner, and somewhat surprised at how much time as transpired.

I remember watching the steam off our bodies and how wet we both were.

She looked happy.

 

YES I think there is a huge difference between "coming" which to me means fluid from the Bartholins Glands that secrete a fluid from the walls of your vagina.

Very intense oprgasm from what I know myself is when your totally saturated with sweat, like you just hopped out of a sauna, you experience involuntary spasmodic contractions, its not something you control - your totally out of control of your body.

Your heart beats very fast a guy can hear it in your chest as it beats it really is that loud like a tiny drum in side your chest cavity.

Your drenched in what appears to be sweat but there is little or no phyiscal exertion, its all a reaction to foreplay after a very long time for me it was 5 hours plus of foreplay.

For a guy you or I felt like I was inside her but also part of her one in the same fused together and in a trance like state, out of body experience its truely amazing, its probably the safest and most relaxed you will ever feel.

When it ended for me all I felt like I had awakended from a dream its was so peaceful and i felt content, relaxed, euphoria, love for my partner, it makes you feel very close to your partner, and its such an emotional experience.

I hope that helps you understand what it was like even though I cant know what it was like for her.

G.B.

 

Actually, "coming"...or more precisely, "cumming", is a commonly used term for "having an orgasm". "Coming" could be different if you really wanted to be grammatically anal, lol. Like, "I'm coming to your party this weekend", "This CD comes with an autographed picture", "The time has come for us to change the world...", etc, etc. But "cum" as the noun may refer to both semen and the female ejaculate(and/or vaginal juices that ooze/flow out of you when you orgasm).

I don't know what your boyfriend saw... Could you clarify this for us? Did he see your cum before? Or did he see you cum? If the answer is the former, then the chances are he might have been referring to your vaginal juices. Or maybe you actually squirted female cum from your urethra. But if he saw you cum, then he would have seen or felt your vagina actually contract from an orgasm.

All the best.

 

Noun: cum (not come) is the vaginal fluid (and/or male ejaculation fluid.) For females, you can have/make cum without having an orgasm, and can see it. It's clear to slightly white depending on where you are in your cycle and per person. Your cum increases, usually with sexual arousal, but it's also just the normal fluid your vagina makes day to day.

Verb:cumming is often used in place of saying orgasm. "I'm cumming!" meaning, "I'm orgasming!" Just sounds better, sometimes, LOL. Not every woman has an orgasm, unfortuantely.

 

I used to have the same problem, I think with me I was always too nervous to fully let go before, and scared of getting it everywhere for some reason, because I know when I get off, I really get off and make puddles, and I would actually unknowingly hold myself back from reaching orgasm. For me, I can feel myself get wetter and wetter, and I know that means that I'm getting closer to the big orgasm, it like comes in stages. Maybe he's just not doing it for long enough, or you're just not comfortable enough to let it all go? Just a suggestion. I have to really be focused and pretty much push it out to be able to get off when I'm having intercourse though, not sure why. If I'm using my toys I don't have to work so hard. It's very weird. It also makes it a lot easier for me if we are watching porn, keeps me more focused.

As for the second part, there is a big difference, for females anyways. I can be absolutely soaked without having reached an actual orgasm, but when a female comes it's the same substance from as far as I know, it's just a huge difference in feeling. My ex and I used to argue about the same thing, he'd say I was lying about not getting off just because there would always be a huge wet spot afterward.