Wife refuses head

Hi. I'm new to this and was wondering if anyone can help. I'm married now for 25+ years and in all this time my wife has refused point blank to give head. I do everything for her, eating pussy, rimming- anything just to give her pleasure. She tried once or twice with a flavoured condom but it was crap. I'm at the stage now that I would think of looking elsewhere although I have never "played away" before. I just want to experience what it's like. It looks and sounds wonderful. Any suggestions welcome.

 

Maybe get a device that she can assist with its delivery?
That way, not cheating, different aspect of sex, and maybe if she sees how good that it makes you feel .......?
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stop giving. play her game.

 

Did you ever try finding out why she doesn't want to do it? Some women don't like the concept of licking and sucking on something that's also used to urinate. Others have some weird preconception that it's degrading.

If that's the case, don't pressure her but talk about it. Try to figure out how she feels and WHY, make her see that you want to understand and hear her reasons. After all everybody does it and there's nothing shameful about any part of human anatomy.

Then try cream or chocolate or some other food that she really likes and you can spread over both of you. Make it fun. Start with just licking each other a few times and then go from there. Don't expect to get a BJ the first time you do it. Give he time to adjust and relax, make sure to tell her you enjoy it, even though the first few times won't be the best. Doing it when you're freshly showered might just do the trick.

Also don't make her kneel in front of you, but lie down instead.

Oh and don't threaten that you'll find someone else if she doesn't try. That'll end in tears, resentment and no sex instead of a good time.

If she doesn't want to try or even talk about it, than you have some serious issues.

Good luck

 

I agree with some of your ideas.

I'm not sure a discussion would be effective. After all they have been married 25 years, if they haven't figured it out by now, odds are they never will.

On the other hand-I like the clean out of the shower idea, and maybe a surprise chocolate treat might do the trick.

good luck op.

 

Thanks for your advice, but I've tried everything. I would never threaten her with going with someone else. I am always clean, never would I expect her to "go down" if I wasn't. I have asked her why she isn't into it but the reply is always "I don't want to" but yet she loves it when I go down on her (as do I)
It's not as if she has had a bad experience in that area as we are together since school days and I am the only one she has had and she is the only one I have had. Help!

 

The problem is that you were wearing a condom at the time. If you've been married for 25 years and you've both been faithful, lose the condom for oral sex.

 

A few questions for your consideration:

Does she give you handjobs? Has she ever watched you masturbate? Has she ever tasted your cum? Could it be that she doesn't want to taste it? What about just giving you a little kiss on the head?

If the answer is no, you can try that. It might help.

 

Sounds like she is shelfish. Head is just a part of making love--as in I give my man head EVERY time we have sex. It is because I love him, and expression of caring.
My advice-----this is awful, but find a woman to do that for you. Then you will know how great it can be and you will find out that a woman can have total control over a man in that area.

 

In answer to lunarverse, I had to wear a condom or she wouldn't even try. Nothing to do with me being with anyone else. She give handjobs and tit wanks but WILL NOT GO DOWN ON ME. Does this mean that she doesn't give a care for my feelings or desires? I'm at a loss at what to do as I don't want to be unfaithful but would love to experience oral.

 

every night while she's asleep, slip your dick in her mouth for a couple seconds. slowly start leaving it in there longer and longer. eventually, she'll subconsciously start wanting it, and won't even know why.

or maybe she'll wake up, panic, and start biting. i dunno.

i could watch this thing for hours.

 

Tee hee haha!

 

Maybe your dick stinks, try washing it.

 

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Second thread...LOL. thanks!

I actually agree with underwear's method!

Or, tell her you REALLY want to experience oral, or you'll "head" somewhere else to experience it before you DIE!!! If she still won't do it, she is dang selfish and I'd say save up some money for a quickie hooker BJ.

Or, maybe tell her you won't do xxx until she gives you a blowjob. You're sort of down to the wire, now, since she is so resistant.

You need to show some alpha male.

 

Dude, are you kidding? You wasted 25 years with this woman! However, as long as she loves it in the ass I'm fine with that.

 

agree with most of whats said here...

but you know what... if the girl does not want to give it a go, then its not the be all and end all.. gee man, you have been with her for 25 years, to say ur thinking of getting it from someone else is just raw... if you love your wife you will take her as she comes, if she dont want to suck cock then she dont want to, end off

Look, my best friend has been with her husband for 10 years, it was only a year ago that she first ever gave him or anyone head... she would always ask me for advice (he never ever ever asked for her to give him head) anyways she told me she didnt want to try it through fear (i guess fear of the unknown) also the thought of it would make her feel sick... she didnt no why she felt like that but she would gag at the thought.
anyways in the end she tryed it just to see if she did like it... she didnt, so she wont do it again.. yes she tryed, but even if she didnt try her husband never once asked her to do it as he knew she didnt want to do it. he would never ever expect his wife to do something she didnt want to do.

so anyways, give the wifey a break, one day she might change her mind

 

I totally sympathize, OP...the ring went on and the BJs stopped over here, too. It's only been a year and four months for me, but I find myself wondering just how I can express the following sentiment without hurting her feelings:

Bitch, you're crazy if you think I'm going to go the rest of my life without getting my dick sucked!

 

File for divorce if you want blowjobs that badly, because you will end up looking elsewhere for it.

 

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