no one ever taught or helped me in how to deal with my emotions, and indirectly caused me to suppress them. now im almost 20 and have just begun to discover myself and feel like im 5 years behind the game, blowing my youth trying to figure out all this stuff i should have awhile ago, and yea. this world, western world at least, moves way too fast. no wonder so many people turn to pills and substances to drown themselves in, or put off what needs to be confronted today for another day, cause ones own pace is no matter what too slow
its all part of growing up,becoming a man,showing restraint,control.living and learning.everybody goes thru it,no one can tell you how to feel.emotions are hard to figure out,you cant just up and tell yourself to be happy when you're not.and no-one tells themselves to feel down,it just happens.as you get older you'll lern whats important and what isnt,what to dwell on and what isnt worth dwelling on,but you're still young and learning.you have a long way to go,just do your best . be nice to yourself and others.volunteer somewhere you can make a difference ,even if its just to talk to a lonely person,you might make a difference in that persons life
you're only 20. my mom is 40 and she is just discovering herself now. So it could be worse. Keep working on you and things will be fine. you have not blown your youth I promise
im 20 too and i can relate. dont worry is all i can say. i know that doesnt help, cus it doesnt help me!
oh wow, i know exactly what you mean too about feeling behind the game. and it sucks. good luck anyway.
I started my personal growth seriously at 30. I read every book on male low self esteem, and the two books that really stood out as being truly helpful were "The Choice Theory" W. Glasser and "Emotional Intelligence" D. Goleman both are exactly the info I needed to feel liberated and grown up. At around 33. lol You aren't behind, you're way the fuck ahead of me.
At 45+ I seem to have more questions than answers. Be thankful that you are aware that you HAVE emotions. Many people tend to ignore them or write them off as one of life's MANY annoyances. I sought therapy when I was about your age and have gone back and forth from time to time for some adjustments and fine tuning. Finding your path and your voice both take time. Good luck with the journey; it's a ride that's well worth taking.
wow, you all really just helped me out. i posted this awhile ago and hadnt check it, but all your words really did make a difference, i guess i felt like i was the only one doing this cuz no one ever wants to talk about this stuff. thanks so much, and goodluck
