Hi everyone. Girl here and I've been in a relationship with my bf now for three months. We moved a bit fast at the beginning. He's 25 I'm 21. When we first met he said he had a roomie who he messed around with. Later on I find out they were in a relationship for over a year and a half and he dumped his ex bf to be with me. He denies this when I confront him about it. Well when I was on vacation I found out that he hooked up with his ex twice. A friend told me he saw them hanging out a few times while I was gone and saw them at the ihop one day early am. Mind you that his ex has not contacted him these last few months and my bf was the one who tracked him down. We got in a huge fight over this and he says he still doesn't know who he is but that he loves me and he didn't hook up with his ex. I don't know what to do. Part of me wants to run from him as far away as possible another part believes it when he says he was experimenting. Anyone have any experience in this part. Is he bi, gay or just curious.
i would leave him. let him figure himself out u are too young to have to worrie about any one elses shit
I'd say, the dude is curious. As in being "very curious". If you are into monogamy, guarantees of future marital/relationship bliss, etc., you may want to reconsider your present status in this relationship. If you love the guy and want him to enjoy more than just one aspect of his sexuality, adopt the view that you do not own him. Bi or not, he may be looking elsewhere for fun, too. You are free to accept this or move on. KD
I say dump him if he does not know who he is. At 21 you should not have to worry about his or anyone elses shit. Form the sounds of it you have enough to worry about. Respect and honestly are the two major key factors that make a relationship work. If he can't do those two things than he is not worth your time. I agree with mrpwonder find someone that will respect you. Just remember to follow your heart.
so he's bi - it's natural in my book. Encourage him to talk about it - it's not the end of the world and if you love him then see how you can incorporate his bisexuality into your relationship. Mayb a 3sum or something with another guy. Good luck - look on it as discovering a new and exciting dimension to your sex life Simon :sunny:
If he's lying to you, ditch him. There is no relationship without trust, and if you're not in an open relationship, and by hooking up you mean having sex, then he's not worth your trouble because he's honestly not worth much.
well not sure that I'd agree - having been a bit in this situation myself. If u have a strong relationship, and he is genuinely bi, then the urge could be driving him to cheat and lie. I agree a relationship w/o trust is no good, so maybe you both have to talk; but maybe hasving this 3sum mightg make everything a bit clearer too - so long as you at least talk afterwards. Just my thoughts............ Simon :sunny:
