20 year old having a non-sexual relationship with a 14 year old.

If it was good enough for Jesus to fuck his 14-year-old mother to engender himself it's good enough for everyone.

 

A lot of replies so far from seemingly so-far-non parents.

If you think you are going to have a great deal of control over your teenage daughter, good luck with that.

If she wants to see this guy, she's going to see him, family craps on about it too much and she's just going to hide it from them...its dead easy


The flip side is that this 20 yr old is going to be so whipped, if things go sour, being that age, easy for her to go to the cops and have him charged for simply just grabbing her butt...and plenty of witnesses to testify thats very likely to have happened. And very likely to happen if she finds out he's doing older girls.

Hell hath no fury like....

 

if there's nothing sexual about it, not unethical. but not particularly smart either (all the comments about legal entanglements are a mass of arguments why you should not, in the hypothetical imperative sense).

 

You can say she's not a child all you want, but it's a lie.

She is a child, and it is sexual, or you would not be holding hands, which in this situation IS sexual, and you would not break up with a REAL girlfriend because you had a non sexual friend.

She's a child, and while a 14 year old can function just fine as an adult, and can have sex, and can drive a car, and can think reasonably abstractly, that does NOT mean they're ready for a sexual relationship with someone over 20 fucking years old.

Not acceptable. If I where her dad, you'd be looking at the business end of my shotgun.

 

Sounds like a perp on To Catch A Predator.

 

He's naive,stupid or a troll. Maybe all three.

 

update.

well we decided to be in a courtship phase for the remainder of that year. three months ago we went to this awesome costume party (huge more than a thousand people, multiple dance halls, various live bands, she made her costume and I made most of mine) and it became really unbearable to not call our relationship a relationship. so we danced and I asked and we are now "boyfriend" & "girlfriend". though physically we haven't escalated much, though this part of us is very hard to control.

Just so you know her family is more or less cool with me. (at the dance her father introduced me as her boyfriend) After seeing a year and three months worth of good intentions, they know I'm not some fly by night guy, I'm here with my whole heart that without reservation I love their daughter and try to treat her right. On the flip side we are never with out supervision of some sort. it's very touching how much her parents think of me; we have all become so close, it feels so right and traditional.

the man becoming part of the girl's family.
homecoming is coming again, though I am so glad our first dance to together was such a great event!!!

 

Love - is not just Lust, and it very easy to be drawn into a World of cynicism and criticism – Care and Affection is a feeling not a choice still, if the care is such then consideration and maturity in your actions needs to be maintained though I wouldn’t necessarily state “sometimes if you love someone so, then you have to let them go” it may need to be held in mind, should things develop Be bold in your conviction, be thoughtful of the situation though also enjoy the experience Love, can be all - meThinks

 

My advise is to stop seeing this girl. Yes I understand there is no sex involved. But all you need is just 1 big mouth to start saying something and you will find yourself in mountains of trouble. Back off and don't be an idiot.

 

im sure someone said this but.....i cant say this without being mean but dude fucking forget about that 14 yearold. shes fucking 14 bro, u have a nice legal and EXPERIENCED women not a damn child.

that shit is just fucking gross lol

 

update

she's fifteen turning sixteen in (about 5 months oddly feel uncomfortable being too specific)

we've been bf gf since july 2011. we had our first kiss at the muppets movie. I didn't want us to kiss until we weren't with her parents so I have been putting off kissing until later (i figure when she's sixteen her parents will allow me to take her to homecoming and whatnot) so we were just eskimo kissing. And I like to tease her, by kissing her cheeks, and stroking her ear and she just goes for it and kisses me. We kiss a few more times before it becomes to high risk.

I don't know where to put this....I want to talk about it because I can't talk to anyone in the real world...I was afraid I was putting too much expectation on the first kiss but

now I see all my memories of the muppets on various t.v.s Each one reflecting the laughs I've had at the swedish chief, or times I've sang the rainbow connection to myself. I see all these t.v.s stacked, like a pyramid. Step by step I walk over these memories and on top my gf is there and we kiss, we have our first kiss.

I told that story to her and we kissed again and she told me that I was her first kiss. We haven't frenched yet (obviously there is no need to rush, I mean we only started kissing a week ago) I wanted her first kiss to be beyond perfect, I don't know, I hope it was. The first 4 people I kissed I never saw them after the night or some cases weekend of the incidences (my real first kiss not included in the four is tied to a horrible reality of my life). I am glad she will not have that sadness. Just like becoming bf/gf we kissed because it became too unbearable being together without it.

 

just be careful bro, Circumstances can be different for different people but I personally wouldn't have anything to do with a situation like that. Nobody is going to stop you (accept the police if her parents don't approve) all I'm saying is do it for the right reasons. She doesn't need you to take care of her, she has parents for that. A relationship is an equal partnership of people whom have common goals and compatible personalities.like I said, circumstances.. just assess the future.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mvZgwtpPmLY"]blues brothers - sell me your children - YouTube

 

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To some extent I think the maturity of both parties plays a factor. But regardless, I think 14 is too young. I find it strange that a man would be emotionally satisfied with someone little older than a child. Unless the feeling was driven by an innate response towards the age group, in which case I'd pity the fellow and recommend searching for a partner with a little/big fetish.

 

Too young.
She is a child, and you're an adult (even if you're emotionally immature).
Even at 16, she's still not considered an adult - I would wig too if my 16 year old was dating a man 6 years older than herself.
At least let her finish high-school.

Her parents have every right to be concerned, I don't even know this girl, and I'm concerned for her welfare.

 

I know exactly how you feel as I am in the same situation. We are only human and we can't help who we fall for I have been with my 14 year old girl for a year nearly and yes it took people a while to adjust to me going out with such a young lass and she was getting some very horrible names at school mainly from a old friend of hers but once our friends and family accepted that we are together and nothing and nobody is gonna stop us.

In the UK the legal age for sexual intercourse is 16 and she understands that I refuse to even sleep in the same bed as her until she comes of age. You need to make sure that ur girl understands the risks and concequences if anything does happen before the legal age as she is a teenager still she is discovering womanhood and she may want to do more than just footsies.. Yes I suppose kissing is ok but don't make it a statement if you understand what I mean by that.

As long as 2 people love each other that's all that should matter. yes age is just a number but just be careful about the people you tell as if the wrong person(s) find out there could be a whole heap of trouble involving the police and the criminal justice system. I hope the 2 of you are very happy together and I wish you a good future