Is trust issue able to be fixed?

I am in the relationship where we have trust issue AND the situation my bf family hates me. the reason is ridiculous actually, he is from very old fashion asian family so they choosed this girl for him as a wife. thats the reason why his family hates me. cuz they think that i am controlling him and misleading him.

top of it, we had this trust issue that i caought his lies (most of them are related with female problems.) i am trying so hard to move on.. its hard actually. now he saying , im the only one for his life and i can see he really love me. but deep inside i can see my anger, I resent him. my anger hits me so hard time to time.

how can we fix this anger issues and trust issue

 

I suggest taking a break from each other for a while so you both can sort out what's going on in your own lives. Trust issues are tough and most relationships don't worry when there are trust issues so there really is no solution to it, except to see if you can't live without each other.

 

It depends on the issue(s). Overall I think that trust can be regained, people can be forgiven, but the memory is always gonna hurt.

 

I know what you mean, but i think forgiving and trusting is different thing.. whenever the situation comes with requiring trust , eventho i forgave him. . i just cant help doubting on him. ..

 

I would make the choice, either he is friend or he is enemy. You will react appropriately to either one, but you must choose or you are just wasting time.

 

Trust is something that is earn not given lightly.

 

why would you want to stay with a liar anyways?

 

If your brother was a liar, would that fact prohibit your affection?

 

would you screw your brother?

 

No, but what prevents us from extending a familial type devotion to our partners well being? People lie because they feel it preserves some kind of good in them, not because they intend to hurt. Lying represents an incapacity to deal with the truth.

Further is screwing someone license to deny them the most common and simple courtesy you would extend to a stranger. The idea of the special relationship is an attempt to make guilty. We set a high standard yet that standard is not backed with the same level of devotion. We expect a lot and are willing to give little in return, willing to throw that "special" person under the bus when they don't fulfill an expectation.

 

Exactly. You must either commit to your partner or end it. Neither of you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who isn't fully in it, or worse, someone who is resentful.

Agreed completely, the lies were probably reasonably justified in his mind at the time of lying, and chances are good the intention was never to cause you pain. Have you never lied yourself? I'm sure if you have, it wasn't out of malice, but rather a misguided attempt at making a situation better.

No one is perfect, so don't expect your partner to be, and don't necessarily end it at the first sign of imperfection.