Anyone else feel like this?

I honestly feel I'm never going to meet anyone! Sounds very dramatic I know but i really do feel it's not going to happen for me.
I'm not looking for sympathy or anything, I just would like to know if anyone else feels like this?
I live in quite a posh town in England, people are very liberal, gays aren't hated or anything but i still never meet anyone.
So how do people who live in homophobic areas cope?
I'd like to hear how people feel who live in these places...or even people who live in busy vibrant cities and still feel alone.

Guess i just want to be assured I'm not alone in feeling like this

 

well I've never been very active in the Uk - mostloy outside the country but from what I come across online there are loads of LGBT, gay and bi groups throughout England.

Whereabouts are you in England Crikeycharlie - there must be some bars, clubs, saunas not too far away from you.

Sure you're not alone - I assume you're gay since you posted here.

I'm sure Pineman & others will have more ideas for you,

Simon :sunny:

 

The Americans say that you want to grab the bull by the horns...

At times, there is no other way of dealing with the problem.

A dear friend once complained along the very same lines. We lived in San Francisco, CA and there were tons of cute, available and willing guys around. Yet, he was alone, and worse off; he was lonely.

His Prince Charming was not going to come knocking on his door. So, we went out together and a few very qualified dudes started hitting on him. He was shocked. They noticed him AND were interested in him???

I kept on slightly teasing him, saying that he should not be taking it all too personally. They just thought he was cute and wanted to have some fun. Well, I was only partly right. Quite a few dudes were really looking for a quick romp only. A week later or so, he was already dating...

Just as Si69 said... get going. Post a profile on some of the portals and show some interest... You'll be surprised.

If you want to have things you have never had, you have to do the things you have never done

KD

 

There is a gay club here, though it is more of a lesbian club! So I never go...and plus I don't have anyone to go with. If it was a busy place I'd think about going alone but it's so quiet in there I'd just get very self consious and feel like dying lol!

I've put a profile on 3 dating sites, very little success, no dates...not even many messages!

I have tried to put myself out there but it just isn't happening, that's why I was asking how others deal with it...it really doesn't do much for the old self esteam haha

 

well you have to persevere with the dating sites - some are useless and some work - trial and error, just do the free ones first and often you can insert an email address into your ad to avoid the ones where people can't respond to you unless youre a 'gold' member etc.

Dare I ask where u are - what is your nearest town?

Simon :sunny:

 

how old are u do u go to school or maybe at work use that to find some one who maybe gay or who can be like ur hag and who can go to the gay club with u

 

or you could go to another town, a gayer town

 

I'm 25 so I'm working now. I do often think about moving to a city close by, but that's a tricky thing to do when you got to find a job and somewhere to live very quickly, and I'm not sure if I could leave my family and friends, it isn't that far to go but it would be hard not seeing them every day and moving somewhere where I don't know anyone.

 

Are you sure this isn't you?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IyhHC0k0Bs"]YouTube - The Only Gay In The Village 3

 

It isn't but I do have the same shorts as him though lol!

 

What I meant was that you should visit the other town that has a larger gay population like on a weekend or something. You know just to scratch ya gay inch.

 

typo i meant itch