How do I console my ex?

Long story short, I stupidly got into a long-distance relationship with someone who is very insecure and emotional. After only one month, he already "loves" me. Problem is, all I ever really wanted was a buddy for sex and drinking, who's in town for more than two months a year. Unfortunately I found out that he intends to wait "years and years" before having sex (his words) and that he's never had a drink in his life and doesn't wanna try!

Two days ago, I gave him an ultimatum:

1 - He puts out within 6 months.
2 - He lets me have a one-night stand with someone else while he gets over his emotional bs.
3 - I walk.

Now here's the real problem. I ended up breaking up with him and it hit him very hard (again, it's been only a month since we've know each other, wtf). We're supposed to meet tomorrow just as friends. He wants me back though and I'm so tempted to say yes just so I can relieve his pain - of course, I would have to find a sexual outlet behind his back if I can't convince him into having sex soon. I'm not comfortable having an affair. What's the best course of action to end this mess?

 

i would cancel your plans tomorrow. theres no point in drawing it out if its not what you want or if it will put you in a situation where you feel like you should get back with him just to make him feel better...just cancel and make a clean break, it may seem harsh but its always the best course of action in the long run

 

dump his ass. but laugh at him first...

every man likes sex and beer.

 

Needy and greedy....gonna cling to your ass like dingleberrys on a bear's butt. This guy has major issues...run!

 

There may be nothing really wrong with your "friend". However, he is NOT the right guy for you!

If you are looking for a FB to drink and mess around with, go and look for the right guy to do that stuff with. A FB who wants to wait for years is really not whom you are looking for.

Nuff said. Move on and cancel ASAP. He needs a different kinda guy and you do, too!

KD

 

He's just not your kinda guy. Let him know. He'll find it tough, but he'll get over it once he realises that you're not meant for each other.

 

If he's declaring his love for you then he has issues, but nobody should laugh at him for that, however I do suggest you move on quickly because it'll just get worse. If it's this bad now, imagine how it'll be in a few months! You two are totally uncompatable so just finish it. And you should tell him your exact reasons aswell, don't be nasty with it, just be straight forward and matter of fact. Good luck!