Hello, I'm new here (as you can probably tell) and was seeking some advice for this situation. Anyway, I guess I'll get right down to it. I'm a pretty shy person, it takes me a long time to be comfortable around new people (there are people I've worked with for almost a year that I don't feel comfortable talking to.) And there is my problem, I'm not sure if I could coax myself to come out even if I really wanted to. But that leads me to my other problem, I'm not entirely sure its something I want to do. I've always felt that these kind of things are things that other people didn't really need to know about, but I'm getting to a point in my life where I'm starting to get real nervous of people I know just finding out on their own. And another reason I was thinking about it is that someone I work with when talking with another co-worker tends to make a lot of anti-gay comments, and that usually makes me a bit uncomfortable around them. But hes a real nice guy, and though I cant be sure, I think he would be reasonable enough to stop doing those things (at least around me) if he knew. And now on to my third problem, half of my family is very intensely christian. Though I'm pretty sure they would be OK with it, again I cant be sure. They seem to base their life pretty heavily on their beliefs, so like I said its really something I cant be sure about (when I got my pet snake, my aunt didn't want to see it because its the creature that tempted Eve or what have you to eat the forbidden fruit...) Anyway, I guess I've typed far more than I intended... Oh, but one last thing, I have a friend that's gay, but he doesn't know about me yet (or maybe he does, I really don't know), should I talk to him first?
I'd say talk to your friend first, he has his own similar experience you may learn from. As far as you worrying of what people would think, would you rather people like you for what you're not or hate you for being who you are? (though i doubt anyone will actually hate you for that reason, although christians can be unpredictable in these matters)
Bubba, I'd damn sure talk to your gay buddy before I would with your snake/devil aunt. Please don't take offence but yer aunt is completely ate-up. I'm thinking if you were to tell auntie dear about a preference for penis she'd be thinking that damn pet snake had worked it's evil ways on you.
Hey, thanks guys for the advice (Although I'm still not quite sure what Fresh was getting at?). I guess I never made that connection either yarapario, but I could totally see that happening.
Oh, I don't know its just some thing in the Bible I guess, where Adam and Eve were in the garden of Eden and the "Serpent" showed up and tempted Eve into eating the forbidden fruit because he said it would make here closer to God or some such. Or at least I think that's how the story goes.
Well I hate to double post, but its truly an update so... Anyway, I talked to my friend last night about this, and he understood (I figured he would, haha) and we talked for awhile. Anyway, he suggested that I do what he did, and that is basically live my life how I want to live it, and if anyone asks, just tell them the truth. I think I like this idea, just the notion of not having to try and hide it from people has set me at ease. Plus it was great to talk about it with someone who actually knows who I am. Anyway, thanks for the help, I guess I just needed that extra little push from someone to finally share it.
Good for you Bubba, Hang around this forum and share your thoughts and feelings! Your experiences may be just what the next guy is looking for. Glad things are going well for you.
Live how you wanna live man. If someone has a problem tell um to fuck off. It's your human experince.
Well thanks guys. But now unfortunately I've got another situation forming that's troubling me. This guy I know, we've been talking a lot (last night and tonight) about a lot of stuff I would have never talked about with him before (or anyone that I knew before for that matter). And anyway, I think I might be starting to have feelings for him, but I'm not sure if its real or just because he's allowed me to be so open for the first time? Either way, I think I need to give some time to the situation, because sometimes figuring these things out is a little over my head. But I haven't said anything to him at all yet, and probably wont until I'm sure. EDIT: Uhg...so I joined one of those dating websites the other day. And really just got around to answering some of the questions they use to find people for you when I got out of work this morning. So after answering like 100 questions, I browsed my "matches" and I noticed that the guy I'm talking about is on there and a 79% match for me... I'm not sure how reliable these sites are...but...I don't know.
