What do you think about porn?

Do you mind that your boyfriend watches it? If he does?
Do you get jealous? How do you get over something like porn?

 

I am more likely to watch porn than my boyfriend is... but neither of us watch it because we are too busy constantly banging. And we live in a one room RV so I would know if he was watching it...

But my last boyfriend watched porn and it wouldn't have bothered me, but he hid it and lied about it and that was just annoying and pointless.

It was actually pretty funny because I found some porn and he was like "oh, I don't watch that anymore" and I was like "I don't care" and then he threw them in the trash, but like two days later they were back in his closet in plain sight... I never even asked him to get rid of them so I am not sure what his thinking was.

 

I just commented on a similar thread in the relationships forum.

My views on porn are kind of confused, I guess...

I had a boyfriend that was addicted to porn...it kind of freaked me out. I'll watch it on occasion, but my boyfriend now doesn't watch it at all. I'm glad for that just because it can cause viruses on the computer and it's so fake! I was thinking about getting some of those porn films aimed for couples that could *spice* things up a bit, but overall, I don't find those free porn sites necessary and I am glad my boyfriend finds them unnecessary, also.

 

Honestly, I'm a bit disappointed. Nothing in the world of porn seems to get me excited. I'm not particularly visual (infact I'm very auditory, which makes the fake moans in porn offputting) and it just seems...a bit lame. I spend the time wondering what the girl is thinking and what her tattoos mean and finding it all that kind of awkward that makes you do that nervous laugh, and there's barely anything of what I, as a straight woman, would like to see. I don't find a load of muscles and cocky boyish comments very hot, and the rest seems to be heavily made up girls pretending to be 19 and having fun. Gay porn may do the trick, but obviously my boyfriend wouldn't be too into that. Basically, porn made me feel flat.

All this may have something to do with the fact that I'd never watched any until last year. I just...hadn't. I lived off my own fantasies and real life. Porn was all surrounded in a bit of mystery, and it's been a total letdown. Still, I keep an open mind. Maybe I'll find something that works for me. In the meantime, I'm thankful the reality is a million times more exciting!

 

I take a very anti-porn stance, and I am lucky to have found a partner that does as well.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jmr3nJWqB1o"]YouTube - trucks - it's just porn mum

 

I will PM you in a minute. :love:

 

Odon...I...er...I found what I was looking for. Heh it was on another website all along. Well what do you know? No need to go to the bother of PMing me now. Phew, bet that's a relief...Yeah I love this stuff. Infact I love chicks. I might even be lesbian. :leaving:

 

Chicken.

 

Porn is NO big deal..The majority is for male entertainment purposes: so much blow job action, etc; women showing off for the camera.
There is also porn made (by women) for the tastes of women a lot of sensuality amongst other stimuli for her pleasure; there is also porn for couples.

Personally, watching others getting into a pleasurable experience is erotic, turns me on.

 

I'm genuinely curious since I'm having trouble formulating an opinion on the subject as to why you have a 'very anti-porn stance'.

As a question for everyone, aren't romance novels sort of like women's porn? As in, they tend to go over things that women find more attractive (as opposed to visuals that men generally gravitate to).

 

as i write this i got porn running on the dvd player.
i've got a 19in. television which, i use for the porn.
the porn is running almost all the time.
it does not interfer with whatever i'm doing.
for me almost all porn is somewhere between the two extremes of being: put me to sleep boring, to gut busting funny.

at the present time in porn history the best porn is in anime.

 

I think I might just watch more porn than he does. Haha. I only care about him watching it when our sex life is lacking. Lately, it hasn't been a problem.

 

i love porn i also love being with women that love porn being that i am bisexual and i prefer the comfort of being with women yet i prefer sex with men i find watching gay porn with my x girlfreind just brought us closer cause we could share the love for other people beauty and sexuallity with each other making our relationship stronger now the 2 of us broke up and were still best freinds and closer then ever.(and she still watches porn with me when i visit my hometown)

 

It's better with the sound off.

 

I especially hate the ones where some jackass behind the camera is talking or trying to give instructions. Ugh, way to take the realness out of it.

 

Well, lemme first make sure that my definition of porn is understood. Pornography, to me, is not a woman making an erotic film for her husband or lover, etc. Pornography, to me, is not SuicideGirls. Although those things do technically fit the definition of "porn." When I use the term, I am generally referring to San Fernando Valley type stuff, the Gonzo type films, etc.

I just dont like it. I take a somewhat anti-pornography feminist view of it...and I agree with most of the things women like Catherine MacKinnon have had to say about pornography.

I dont care if anyone else chooses to watch porn or masturbate to porn, etc. This is just my personal stance, and this is the stance both myself and my partner take on pornography

 

I, as a woman, have a love hate relationship with porn.

In a lot of ways, it's really helped me - but in a lot of other ways, it's really ruined a lot of things for me as well.

I first started getting into "porn" around age 14 - and it was all erotic fiction (not romance novels, pure erotic fiction). From there I started getting into the visuals.

I'm very much like a guy in the aspect that I'm a very visual person. Also I was basically a lesbian up until I was about 18 so porn taught me a lot about what to do and how to act sexually with men.

However, it was bad as well in the sense that it has sort of ruined the way I view sex - or at least how it should be. I mean, maybe "ruined" isn't the right word . . . but I can't help but think "Oh do guys REALLY like it when girls moan like that? Or do this . . or that?" or whatever

i have seen all kinds of porn - professional, amateur, role play, whatever . . but there also seems to be something missing. very rarely is there any kind of foreplay - its always just -fucking. don't get me wrong, i love just fucking!

But I'm a libra and one of those people where 9 times out of 10 I have to have a connection with the person I'm fucking.

So yeah . . I used to HAVE to watch or read porn to get off! But now . . . it seems to do the opposite. In fact, more than anything it just bores me.

I've decided to take a break from it and start finding my OWN way of doing things sexually and not relying on porn to "teach" me

so yeah, that's my viewpoint

(also, my boyfriend watches it and i really don't care. I'm not jealous at all. he is very open about it. i probably wouldn't like it if he hid it, but he doesn't and has no reason too).

 

Hey Voileen, It seems that you; at some point, had a concept of what sex meant to you, what you enjoy the most...I get it ,that when the time came in life, when you wanted to experience sex with men; That was a change. Did you watch porn to learn how you enjoy sex with women? or did you just feel your way??

Voileen, Pornography is the way an industry netted folks into spending their money on our natural interest in sex...look, the type you’re referring to here, that lacks foreplay; is made for palm play for men. The sounds and movements are the women showing off so they can capitalize on getting paid more; for more fucking. There are other many, many types of porn to choose from..It's there for your entertainment. You may find, porn made exclusively for women and or couples; to be up your ally. A lot more sensuality in these; than the ones made for men....I do indeed, hope for your sake; that you depict how and what your sex life means for/to you! And no longer choose to believe porn is for sex education.

So bring on the porn!!! and let us all know what kind you pick!!:devil:

 

I probably watch/read it more than my husband, but we are very emotionally healthy realists who are pathetically in love. It's just a fun turn on.

I see so many posts where people take porn as gospel. WTF? it's entertainment and totally unreal!

I know lots of guys, too, who have become addicted to porn. Spending family time and money....not good.

So I feel is can be good, but for the most part and for most people, it probably ends up being a negative in the world.