lately i have just been feeling progresively more and more bad. iv always had a problem with very low self esteem and bad self image, but it seems like its getting worse. like everything thats been happening lateley has just been a hammer blow to my self worth. i can definately attribute the way i feel about myself to the way i was treated just about every year of school i went through, having been told countless times how ugly or gross or dumb i am. how no one wants to be around me. it was always like water pounding away on a rock to me. i tried to ignore it but its just been pushed into me and i cant help it! when something wrong happens in my life my mind automatically plays back what those people said and it just hurts. i dont know what to do, i dont like to talk about it because then i feel like im being whiney or that theres people out there with worse problems than mine but this just hurts me. not just emotionally but physically i feel like im sick. i feel like everyone i know is better than me and that i suck. i hate feeling this way!!
I am sorry you feel that way. How old are you? Feeling this way while in high school is completely normal. It may not seem like it but even the popular or best looking students that seem to have a lot of confidence are dealing with their own insecurities, I can promise you that. I can also promise you that as you get older and find out more things about yourself, your self-esteem issues will slowly go away. I know that doesn't help you now though. Is there any sort of activity that makes you feel alive? It could be anything..making art, music, writing, some kind of sport, anything that challenges you and makes you feel good about yourself? I suggest you find something like this if you haven't already. Doing something for the sheer enjoyment of it can be really fulfilling and finding out you're talented at something is the best way to build up self confidence. High school is not real life. Kids are bitches and the ones that insult you only do so to cover up their own insecurities. It will get better, I promise.
I can relate. During all my schooling I was the shy odd ball all my early years of school till my last year in high school. People would go around calling me names and picking on me. I hated it. You gotta stay strong though. Like Meliai said, high school is not the real world. When you start feeling down, start thinking of the good things in your life. We all have things in our lives to be thankful for. If you can think negative thoughts then you can also think of positive thoughts too. Don't feed off the negatives thoughts, feed on the positive ones. Ether the positive thoughts be a old memory or something that just makes you smile. Sometimes it helps to talk to other people to about what is upsetting you too. If you do need to talk then you're more then welcome to PM me and I'll listen. Also writing down the things that are making you upset sometimes helps to. You just gotta stay strong though. Things getting better.
im 19. iv been out of highschool for almost a year now. i thought that i would feel better once i was out of that place but i dont. thanks for the advice though. ill try that.
I'm sorry that you have been through so much hardship. Life is really unfair. Hopefully, you can find a positive social environment to participate in. You could also try therapy. Hope that things get better for you soon!
Yea dude , see your still real young yet . Unfortunately little bro . the world is full of mostly assholes . I went through the same shit , most of us did . Unless they are some super douche jock or some shit or bully . But around 35 or 40 they got their own mental shit going on . With being like bald, toothless and 300 lbs. What comes around goes around . I got fucked with horribly too in h.s. . If these assholes could really only see the emotional abuse they put on others , it's fucked up . And it scars some people for life . I also hope you don't let it become on of those people my friend . Cause you got your whole life ahead of you . And the sky is the limit . Your dreams , potential and possibility are only held back by the limits you put on yourself . I've seen to many good dudes go wrong , cause they get locked up inside their own head . I know what it feels like to have no self esteem , and feel like you're no good and shit .And i want to tell you time erases most of that . It took me years to grow into my own skin . It took drug addiction , alcohol , anger , homelessness , jail only to finally realize that it was self destruction i was trying for . I was still letting them win , still I was hating me . I'm almost 41 y.o. now and today I love myself . I LOVE WHO I AM , and I love life . It's the sensitive kids that suffer the most , and by reading your post i believe you like me are intelligent and sensitive . I also believe you may be suffering from depression . It's treatable with medication , i myself took it for many years . I don't now though . I still suffer with it , but it's manageable . You may want to talk to your doctor about it . Many people have chemical imbalances and most will suffer some sort if even mild depression episode in their life . SO don't be embarrassed if you think you are having a prob with depression , to talk to your doctor . The biggest thing is getting out of the house meeting positive people . Just getting out around others is a good thing . Cause if we sit home to long we tend to stew to much in our own shit . Get a job , go to movies , coffe shops, conventions , concerts, bowling ,ANYTHING that gets you out of the house and around others . Get a hobby if you don't have one . Golf , tennis, bike riding what ever . Interactive classes are great way to meet new positive people . Hook up with others who share your interests . Also exercise is good for lifting your mood . TELL YOURSELF EVERYDAY , I'M A GREAT PERSON AND I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY . Try not to worry about what people think . Just force yourself to get out around POSITIVE people . AND PLEASE ,STAY AWAY FROM ALCOHOL ,AND DRUGS CAUSE THEY ARE MAINLY DEPRESSANTS AND WILL ONLY BRING YOU DOWN , AND DEPRESSED . You don't need that shit in your life . But man you're going to do just fine . 90 % of life is showing up with a positive attitude . When i got rid of the negative , it was all positive . Life is all about what you make it . Good or bad . It all starts in the mind . What's in the past is in the past , you cant change it . And you can't dwell on it . But today and tomorrow are all up for you to make , however you want to. It's a great big world out there little brother , get out there and spread your wings !
thanks guys i really appreciate it. knowing theres people whov been there and made it makes me feel better. im gunna start working on those things youv all suggested.
People who has Low Self Esteem is increasing. I must say that,cases like this shouldn't be taken for granted!
Man, find something u're good at or something that makes you happy, your career goals, physical goals, creative goals whatever..put all your energy into that...the next thing you know you'll be turning around saying "wow, I am pretty cool". Even if you don't do that, you are cool...everyone has something that someone else wants...part of the human condition my friend. Your mind is unfortunately stuck in a cycle of negativity...let's break that cycle. First thing you gotta remember is that you're not alone, we all feel that way sometimes...(no matter what your age or talents or supermodel beauty). You're here for a reason and most bullies or people who judge, mock or belittle are ignorant,fearful and/or struggling with their own insecurities. Unfortunately it makes people like that feel better to make someone else feel worse. But hey, you're better than that...don't even give their comments the time of day, then you've already got em beat! Not saying "knock it off", but rather live kinder, gentler and more respectful than they do...in the end you are not only ten times better than them, you're infinite! We can only pity them (oh yeh, and the media doesnt help either). Whenever you feel blue, just take a deep breath, think of all the positive things about yourself, and all the beauty around you...from the patterns of the leaves to the intricacies of snowflakes, surround yourself with only beautiful and positive energy...then my friend, nothing negative can touch you.
