My parents trust me now but...

I don't deserve it. I'm still smoking and I have been since I've been caught. They gave me my phone back on friday after 4 months as well as letting me walk around downtown asheville by myself. I don't deserve it. I have not been trustworthy. Should I do the right thing and give them the phone back and tell them whats up? Or should I be happy that they're happy with me and just keep my privilages?

 

If you tell them the truth and say your sorry you might be able to keep your phone as well as privileges. Of course we don't know your parents but sometimes telling the truth and admitting you are wrong gets you out of trouble (in this case that is).

 

depends on your parents. on the plus side, you seem to be afflicted with a conscience, which is somewhat rare these days. if i were you i would either quit (thereby earning your privileges back) or i would give the phone back and tell them why. i had cool parents, but i have to believe that any parent would have some respect for the return of something undeserved.

you dont say how old you are, or the reason behind your parents being upset in the first place. if they are just blindly against weed then you might be SOL, but if its because they are worried your grades will slip, or that you wont be productive, then those issues you can prove otherwise on. do dishes, take out garbage, get good grades, dont get in trouble, and how many new arguments can they throw at you?

 

not saying it's the best advice for you, but if it were me I'd just tell them that I smoke and they need to accept it and wait out the long punishment until they didn't care anymore

It worked when I told them I was gay lol

 

They actually punished you? lol Did they ground you or something, hoping it would turn you straight? hahaha

 

The 2nd one. You should do what you want to do. You should let them be happy but they should let you make your own decisions. Soon they'll get over the fact that parents do not have def control and it's an illusion. Just be safe and wary and they'll be happy knowing you're safe. Not because they're controlling you but because they love you.

 

Yeah, and I would pretend to have a girlfriend and go out with her when I was really going to meet my boyfriend. The punishment got worse and worse every time until I just decided to stop lying. After that I was allowed to do what I wanted and see who I wanted. Could have been because they thought I was a lost cause at that point. I stand firmly in the belief that honesty is the best policy

 

lol At least they accept it now. It's fukt up that you got punished for it though, but also kinda funny. lol

But yeah......I agree with you, and your situation is a perfect example. The OP might as well just be honest about his smoking, because they will find out eventually. Just don't rub their faces in it. They don't like the fact that you smoke, but they'll eventually be able to accept it, as long as you don't let it negatively affect other areas of your life.

 

idk man, if they took your phone and grounded you for 4 months, i dont think i'd want to even be honest about them. that sounds like the type of parents that wouldnt even appreciate the fact that you came forward and let them know the truth and would probly just punish you worse this time.

 

I guess your age matters a bit too. It would suck for them to send you to rehab over some weed. lol We don't know how old you are though.

 

you said they are finaly trusting you again. why mess that up? it sounds like telling them the truth would only cause more problems once again. but if you think telling them is the right thing to do. then their is your answer

 

Thanks for the replies everyone . I appreciate it.

I'm 16 years old. They're not against smoking weed as an adult but they don't want it in their house. (which is understandable, i guess). They will send me to a drug counceling if i tell them the truth. I think they would appreciate the honesty BUT I know that they would ground me again until God knows when.

 

I thought that's what rehab was?

 

I guess it could be. I've always considered rehab to be super serious and hardcore. I'll edit though

 

Ah well, at least they aren't gonna give you the dreaded "Time Out" or put you in the inhuman "Naughty Corner" for ten minutes!! :hide: Fair Dinkum, some parents don't deserve the drug addicted self-centered kids they have been blessed with.

I hope you don't mind me passing this thread on to my youngest daughter, Mandy?

Mandy is currently 15 months clean and sober after a lifetime of doing every fucking drug known to man and prostituting herself for 15 years to get them. The trouble is she is now, at 41, a paranoid schizophrenic with Hepatitis A to Z and just about every physical and sexual disease you can imagine. In particular, Mandy's liver is so fucked she has a life expectancy of five to ten years, if she is lucky. Mandy may want to come on here and tell you how, at fourteen years of age, her mother and I and the family doctor - the current head of the AMA - tried to educate her on the danger of using "harmless", "recreational" drugs. And how, with the blessing of the Police and the PC ridden Establishment, she effectively divorced us at 15 years of age and went to live with her druggie boyfriend.

 

that's nice and all but we are talking about weed here, not anything serious. It's completely possible to smoke weed and not end up a disease ridden prostitute

 

This

 

g-r-o-a-n!!!

 

I'm sorry about your daughter. My heart goes out to her and your family. I wish you only the best.

However; I would like to say that your post was a little uncalled for. I'm not addicted to drugs. I've been smoking for two years and have never moved passed marijuana, nor will I ever. I cherish the relationship I have with my parents as well as the ability to live my own life--however I am at a loss as to how to balance both and was hoping someone here could offer some insight (all posts exluding yours has done so). I am not as self-centered as you have wrongfully accused me of being.

That being said, if your post was adressing a concern for my well being- then thankyou but your concern is not neccessary.

 

Almost word for word what Mandy told me at your age. Then it was Don't worry, Dad, I wont EVER do speed, narcotics, heroin, etc, etc.