I'm wondering if i'm not really bisexual/bicurious at all, but if i'm just curious about anal sex if that makes sense. Is it worth experimenting with a dildo or butt plug or should I just try it with a guy? Also if I was going to buy a toy, any tips?
You want to look into the world of your sexual fantasies here? Are you visualizing having anal sex with another guy or with a toy or both? The technology has been greatly improved since the days of home-made dildos but having sex with another human being is still something very different from having sex with a toy. Some will tell you to start with a toy and work your way up... This may or may not work for you. Some people are more physical about their sexual lives and the others rely more on their mental states. You may find a toy to be very uncomfortable, if you are alone, impatient and lacking a playpartner. So, take it slow and easy, and be prepared for a few bumps on the road, too KD
it might be that you're just into anal sex and not bi at all. although, i guess that combination really must suck and not in the good pleasurable way. even if that were true, and it's just anal sex you want, there is nothing better out there in regards of anal sex than a real human penis. no dildo or butt plug will ever compare to the real thing. or the real person doing it to you. that's part of the excitement that goes with it as well. so, of course, try the dildos and butt plugs, they have their moments. but you won't know what anal sex is until you do it with another guy, in flesh.
That's how I was at first too. I had been experimenting with toys for years, but was never comfortable with the idea of having sex with a man. Then recently, I was introduced to my new girlfriend's bi-male friend, and the two of them are really good at making the whole thing seem more natural to me. That first time was great, and I definitely agree that toys do not compare to a real cock. I guess my point is that I didn't like to use the term bisexual to describe myself either, but as I got more comfortable doing sexual things with guys, it got harder to deny it. I suggest you don't get hung up on the labels. If you want to know what a real penis feels like, find out.
So are you saying I shouldn't mess around with toys first and should just find out if I like having sex with men instead? How should I go about that? I mean I doubt I'll be as lucky as you and just get introduced to a bi-male friend by my girlfriend. Personally I'm not hung up on labelling myself at all, I just think I'm a quite sexual person and sex whether it be with woman or man seems to turn me on.
well unless you know someone who is bi and you fancy then probably best to take yourself to a gay sauna than mess about with sites like craigs list etc. - just make sure you use condoms! Simon
No, by all means play with toys first. I did, and it really helped prepare me for the real thing... But its no substitute for the real thing... The real thing is good... You should try the real thing... Beyond that, I can't give much advice. You're right, I lucked into my situation, and I'm still really new to all this too. I hope others can help.
yeah, me too, I practiced with a cock-dildo first to get used to it; for the first time IMHO it is better if you are on your side and he enters you from behind - that way your sphincter (?) is relaxed and not strectched. Good luck, Simon :sunny:
so if i buy a toy to start with, any advice on what I should get? I would have thought just a normal dildo but the sites seem to be a lot more about butt plugs and anal dildos.
