i have been with my girlfriend for 4 months now and im noticing we are having sex less frequently. the first two months, it would be once a day, sometimes twice or even more. then it started to become once every 2 days. and now we can spend 3 consecutive days together and nothing will happen and when I do try to initiate the sex she doesnt respond and shes not in the mood. when we do end up having sex i always feel like a creep because I really need to force it. however from the start the has always been great. it usually lasts between 30 to 40 min, she comes once minimun, most often reaching three orgasms. But i just don't understand why the sex is becoming less frequent, im not saying we should do it everyday, but after 3 days, im just genuinely concerned. were both 21 and very much in love and mostly its the beginning of the relationship si its supposed to be daily. were not a married couple who have a career and kids. many people have suggested that it might be because shes on the pill and it decreases her libido. can anyone help me out here.
"supposed to be daily"??? WTF you talking about man? It's not "supposed" to be anything. You're hard;y missing out if you go a couple days without
Give the poor girl a break! If anything I reckon she's thinking that you're pestering her for sex especially if you think it's "supposed to be daily." Yes that maybe the case at the very beginning of a relationship but when it starts to develop, really you should be taking more of an interest in each other in different ways.
I agree with above somewhat. And also have experience with the pill taking away my sex drive. I hate hormone birth control. Now I have a copper IUD. It's awesome. Try no-so-obvious foreplay like back/neck rub. Or playing with her hair. Act like you don't need it, and I'm sure she'll solicit you. Also she'll be more horny about 2 weeks after her period starts. It's a natural thing for women to want sex during ovulation... which doesn't happen if youre on the pill. Hope this helps you out a little.
My sex drive was gone when I was on the pill... Granted, I'm off the pill now, but I don't think I should be having sex everyday...we have sex a few times a week and when we do, its special because we aren't screwing every second we're together.
I was with two girls, my ex-gf and my first wife, that had exactly the same experience with it. No more bcp's for us-what's the point in taking bcp's when they cause you to have zero sex drive anyway?
My sex drive is pretty low right now... maybe due to the pill or maybe due to my current fear of men.
Seriously? "Supposed to be daily"? Its not "Supposed " to be anything. Ever think she may wanna try something new? Or that she is tired of you wanting it all the time? I'm sorry but sex is supposed to be something you both enjoy, and it kinda sounds like your pestering her to have sex with you which makes her not enjoy it as much.
the pill actually increased my libido but I've heard it can be extremely detrimental to some girls. And I understand where you're coming from. Everyone is freaking out, but you're so used to having it daily that it just seems abnormal to go a few days without. Makes sense. Don't fret though. If you act like you're totally fine without it for a few days, she'll probably want it more. Don't pressure her though. (unless she's in to that sorta thing...)
The birth pill increased my libido strongly. I used Diane-35, which is pretty strong, but was prescribed by my doctor. It is best to ask a doctor first to avoid weight gain or libido loss. For Diane-35, the side effects mentioned only 1 in 1000 to experience increased libido. I guess I'm lucky. However, most bcp kills it I hear. Now even off the pill, I still want it everyday.. hihi.. And man, put no pressure on her. When she sees you are not so interested, she will go crazy. Give it a few days and it will work! Guaranteed!
I never had any problem about takin the pill, my sex drive stays ok actually, or it's maybe increased...
