Hi, I just posted this in the bi forum but maybe this is good to put here as well.... so here it is. I am a bit confused about myself so I want to hear your opinions.... This might be silly but really I am nearly 30 and haven't figure this out yet! I like guys. I have more guy friends then girls. My sexual partners were all guys. Not many but, anyway, I have been attracted to guys. The thing is I am also attracted to gay females. like short hair, boyish looks, clothes. and I too am like that. Short hair, jeans and t shirt since I was a kid. But I never had ANY experience with girls. nothing. and I can't imagine myself doing anything sexually with girls. maybe it's because I never had a chance. maybe. once close, but anyways. This attraction has been happening since I was a teenager, on and off. I am not in US, so this kind of thing is never discussed or had I a chance to find out. but when I am in the US or Uk, I get that a lot - if I am straight or not. so I'd appreciate your opinion, thanks!
Hey there, first thing- breath! I know it seems like you have to "figure" out what to call yourself....but really it's just another name. In my opinion...it doesnt matter what you call it if you have an attraction for somebody there is a reason. Gender doesnt matter. I'm a masculine lesbian....and I only call myself a "lesbian" because I have never really had a sexual attraction to a man, but it isn't so black and white for everyone. I'm not so ignorant to think that there isnt a man out there that I could be, it just hasnt happend yet. I hope my ranting atleast makes you think! :2thumbsup:
I agree with the person above me. You are what you are. Regardless of whatever word you're going to call yourself, you're still going to have the same attraction to the same people. Keep in mind that sexual labels are, like all other labels, just words. Words are just sounds you make with your mouth. They are arbitrary and ultimately meaningless, just sounds. The best advice I could give you would be to go with the flow. Feel whatever you're feeling as freely as you can. You don't have to identify as any sexuality if you don't want to - I don't anyway. I know it helps you feel part of a wider community and like you belong and stuff, but you are you. Maybe at a later date you'll feel comfortable identifying as a certain sexuality, once you've had experiences with women or a serious relationship with a man or whatever else. But for now, I'd say just relax. You are YOUR sexuality. It's unique and there may not even be a set word for it yet! You're just you.
