The double standard is put in place by society to repress female sexuality and to reinforce the idea of male dominion over the female. Imagine how great life would be if people just lived and loved openly without hangups!
I think women have these image to live up to which is being loyal to one man. And I dont think there is anything wrong with having sex or having it as often as you want to as long as you do it with the person you love?
Men are dogs compared to women - I think if I associate a women's sexual energy to that of one of my buddies who is a dog and sleeps with anything then chances are I'm not going to be attracted to you. I think the other thing that matters a lot is the fact that if you are a moderately attractive female or better then you pretty much have sex on tap whenever you want due to the nature of the male population. This doesn't really go in reverse unless you look like Brad Pitt. So I think if you are a woman who sleeps with a ton of guys chances are unless the guys you are with also get laid that easily they are probably going to resent you for it. Also for a lot of people sex is supposed to be important, intimate, and something very private they don't share with just anyone - so to go against that doesn't necessarily mean you are a bad person or anything - it just means you don't think of it the same way as those people - and chances are they are not going to be attracted to you.
I have no problem with "sluts". I like the cut of their job. I just hate liars, and sex and lies makes a terrible combination. There is a difference between a good time and useing people.
I agree. Get off with some toys or yourself. Why do you have to have sex? There are so many dire consequences to just randomly fucking around. Not worth it IMO. That's not to say every girl is going to be a virgin, because they can have multiple partners, until or even after you find a relationship, but if you are taking such risks, and showing yourself not to be even a little selective or emotional, I don't blame a guy for not necessarily wanting to be with someone like that. Guys have feelings and standards too. Not every guy is out fucking whatever pussy walks in front of them!
I don't think it's right either. I don't think it's right to call men or women whores, sluts etc. I say if you enjoy sex and you're safe about it then don't let anyone tell you what you're doing is wrong. Because contrary to popular belief women do want and enjoy sex as much as men. Of course this isn't EVERY WOMAN or EVERY MAN who want sex often. I think equal rights should be established on this matter. And that goes for the haters as well. If you're going to be calling a woman a slut maybe think about why you're doing it and why it's wrong. Or maybe get out and live a little.
This, women don't have near the same desire for sex as a man. Its not even close the times I have been turned down for sex vs. The times I turned down sex/fooling around. I don't use the term really but resentment definitely builds after awhile.
I`m reviving this thread because, in an attempt to understand why I turn down the attention of certain women, I had an insight a couple of days into my own definition of a slut: it has little to do with sex. a) Commitment sluts: these are girls who will idolize me if I commit to them, and treat me like dirt otherwise. It doesn`t matter if I am tall short, brown haired or blond, smart or dumb: if I commit (likely, as early as possible) I get to have them; b) I`ll call an attention whore a slut (usually accompanied by some kind of gold-digging); c) I`ll call anyone who can`t say "no" a slut; This is a mental image, I keep these judgments to myself. In the end, my definition actually affirms a woman`s right to her sexuality and independence. Her right to both a "yes" and a "no", and that`s exactly how I feel. The only women whom I avoid are women who make me feel interchangeable. In other words, since they won`t ever say "no", if I do the work of approaching her (which, she is liable to leave to me) she`ll fuck me. If it`s someone else, she`ll fuck HIM. Something I can honestly say about myself is, I have been with a fair number of partners but each of them was special to me in some kind of way. Additionally, I have refused the attentions of at least as many people as I have been with. In fact, I prefer experienced women so long as I feel like I exist to her.
Hey nevaeh For your age you sound very mature and rational. I completely agree the hypocritical double standard society has when it comes to male and female sex drives is a thing of the past. It's an easy way to shame women into a lower category of what they are allowed to to, a simple way of finding insults for females who are strong enough to get what they desire. As a gay man I'm always amused how I'm allowed - nay - am expected to have sex without artificial boundaries, yet heterosexual woman are constantly oppressed. I do believe that over time this hypocritical double standard will fade and men and women are both 'allowed' to have as much sex with whomever they want
I'll agree with that - A slut is very often she which a.n.other is either envyous of (popularity/ attention) or jealousy(spurned or out of league of compatability - 'would be' lover) Slut, Slag, Slapper = I feel what all want between the sheets (or perhaps any other 'inappropriate location) -or that just me then
Sweetie, double standards have been around since the beginnng of mankind and will never go away. slut and whore are just words, they have no power over you unless you give it to them. The only opinion of you that matters your own. No matter what you enjoy doing there are others who will disagree and try to cut you down for it. Be you, enjoy what you do, and piss on those who don't like it, it is their failing that they can't accept peoples right to be who they want to be, not yours. Don't let it get to you. I understand where you are coming from, I have been in love with sex since I started at 13. I am also bisexual and fetish freak. That adds up to a lot of name calling and negative perspectives for a girl. it has always been more socially acceptable for me to fuck multiple other girls than multiple guys, chew on that one a little while. Fortunately for me, I am a bold one with extremely strong self confidence and i was able to ignore what people said. I have noticed that at least in my case, when people dont get a reaction, when they see they can't hurt you, suddenly they don't have so much interest in trying, except for a few morons. Someone calls me a slut, I smile and say "and i love it". I guess my point is people calling you a label doesn't make you their definition of that label, only you can do that by accepting what they say you are instead of what you say you are. Don't let it worry you and you will be fine.
I think slut is a term of endearment. Either that or people need to quit dwelling on what other people say
I have to agree with Be So Gone, it is your life. Live it the way you want to and not the way someone else thinks you should live it. Just remember to use protection. Sex is a great thing and it is the ones who think different that have problems with being open and honest about trying new things, or they are the ones that have a hard time enjoying it to the fullest because they were told that it is dirty and good girls or boys don't do that. If parents would be honest with their kids about sex then we might not have so many people with hangups about it. Just think that if our parents had told us everything when we were children and we felt we could ask them anything a lot of people would not be in this forum asking so many sex questions.
I do actually like using the word sometimes. I think it's pretty cute. It makes me think of a girl just letting go and really enjoying sex. "whore" seems to have far more negative connotations for me. People think of words in different ways.
