My other thread got me thinking. With sex comes risk; sti, pregnancy, upsetting another group or individual, guilt, bunny boilers, even falling foul of the law if you are doings something illegal. We are driven to various degrees by evolution and desire and sometimes we make some bad calls that can set of a chain of events ending in expense, hurt and or loss of liberty, even life! Hey look how many crimes of passion there are! I think I'm pretty sensible and pick my options carefully, but sometimes do something stupid. So I just thought it would be good thing to discuss; What risks have you taken? Does risk increase the pleasure? Did you ever have sex you were ashamed about afterwards?
The very idea of risk is based in Fear of consequences. Fear prevents us from feeling pleasure and being truly content. We can of course take steps to reduce the risk of negative consequences. Those who get off on fear, while getting enjoyment, are missing something in my opinion.
Good thread. I myself think of risk related to sex, constantly. And I think risk's a part of it, and I often wonder if it isn't better to catch an std or get someone pregnant (even if I regret it afterward) rather than playing safe my whole life and not knowing what I'm missing. The risks I have taken have been stds and violence. I have been in pretty scary places in my life looking for women. And, yes, that does excite me and increase pleasure for me (in a sense). I have had maybe 10 sexual relations which I regretted. Primarily because the women were not attractive. But even those, I do not regret in the larger sense. I am happy to know what it is to regret a sexual experience.
But why do you regret? Didn't you get pleasure from the sex? Didn't she? Why bring your ego into it? They weren't good enough for you, is that it? If you weren't able to get pleasure out of the experience because you couldn't get over yourself, then you're the one with the problem, not her. Stop being shallow and just be happy. If one of the ten "unattractive" girls knocked on your door right now and wanted to make love to you, would you turn her away?
Yes I would. They were ok for one experience. I can look after myself, thanks for your concern. :sunny:
In an ideal world, we could all be fucking each other without hang ups and without the dangers, but would that be lacking something? Does the risk add something, is that why people to turn to more extreme acts? "In olden days a glimpse of stocking was looked on as very shocking now heaven knows..... anything goes!" Like the song says, a little was once shocking and titrating but now everything is on view and it's not .
That's why I wouldn't/couldn't imagine taking risks. Luckily I have someone who satisfies me in every way, but if something happened to him, I still can't imagine having sex without relationship/trust. I am def. on the anal side of cleanliness and low risk and hate dishonesty in my life. Because of those ideals, i can't imagine being with someone where those ideals were not present. How do I know what kinds of diseases or psychotic ideas this stranger has. No thanks, I'll stick with toys or my hands until I felt safe enough with someone for sex. Richxxx....In an ideal world, we could all be fucking each other without hang ups and without the dangers...why is that an ideal world, necessarily? For me, I would rather have the long term trust and support of somone emotionally, without sex, than 5 minutes of a mind blowning orgams with dire consequences and no one to share my happy/sad moments of life with.
