I have recently been talking to a girl. We talk every day and late into every night. We've hung out twice. We seem to have a lot in common. A few days ago, we made out for a few hours. We both really opened up to each other. I have never, ever been one to 'play the field.' I think I am A late bloomer. I am just becoming able to talk and hang out with girls with no confidence or anxiety problems. Is it uncouth to hang with another girl? I am sort of torn. I really like this girl and I think she really likes me. But, I cannot seem to stop doubting myself and thinking that she may not like me as much as I like her. Even though, she HAS BEEN a bit more expressive in her interest than I have. There is a girl that wants to hang out. I am not sure if I should just hang out with her or say that I am currently into another person. I will admit, I do not have the greatest knowledge of relational rules and boundries. Thanks for any advice.
Do you care enough about this girl that you would feel guilty for hanging out with another girl? If so, then that is your answer. If you're not yet at that stage though, then I see no reason why you shouldn't hang out with the other girl. Let your conscience tell you how you really feel about the situation.
I don't think that you are really 'playing the field' if you talk to another girl. You say that you are a late bloomer-this may help you understand some of your feelings with the other girl. If it comes to something more than conversation then you have something to decide.
You bring up a good point. But, I find it hard to make decisions because of the almost infinite influences there are. I would say I do feel guilt when I consider hanging out with the other girl. Another problem I am having is hanging out with this girls friends. I am apprehensive about doing it. I feel like it would be to judge me and I would be analyzed the entire time.
the first thing I would say is that you might want to repost this on the relationship forum. second, ask for the advice of girls about the same age as the ones you know. they will probably have the most accurate read.
No confidence or anxiety problems anymore? Probably because you're starting to grow some man balls. Though asking questions like these are making you sound like a chick. I think you're having a sexuality identity crises. But seriously want my advice? Just fuck the girl and get it over with, if you like the way she gets you off then stay with her, if not move on. You're problem is your putting the pussy up on a pedestal. I have a question, have you ever found men remotely attractive?
I don't have a problem with putting anything on a pedastal. I know my "problem." That is why I know the solution and it is slowly not becoming a problem. The issue I have now is knowing relationship ethics. This girl and I are emotionally invested in each other. This is why I am having conflict. If you have had issues in your life that cause you to pretend to have interest in someone just so you can fuck them, don't take it out on others in order to feel better.
In this life some will embrace us and some will not, regardless of what we do. The proper ethic for relationships is to care for them as though they were yourself because it is in relationship that we find out what we have to offer. The measure we give is the measure we receive. It is solely up to you how you care for your life. If someone tries to tell you that you should behave a certain way, they have set themselves up to be your jailer.
It sounds like you know what you want to do. You might also want to ask yourself how you think she would feel about you hanging out with another girl or for that matter how would you feel if she also wanted to hang out with another guy. As far as hanging out with her friends. Of course they're going to put you under the microscope, that's their job, just relax and be yourself, she seems to like you so she's probably been telling them good things about you. So there's my 5 cents worth of advice, good luck.
Don't even acknowledge crumsNcookies' post. He's a bitchboy and his opinion doesn't matter. I agree with all of this.
Stop wasting your time and tell this girl exactly how you feel. So then you can know for sure how much you guys both like each other and if she does not like you that much then you can move on and stop thinking about her and know that you can date other women. You have nothing to lose and if you do not start telling women your true feelings you are gonna have a hard time finding a good relationship. the more often you do this the better you will get. if you never start you will never get good.
