Sticky situation between me, my ex and neighbour/friend

Right, so last year I was with a guy from around June to late December. Our relationship was great at first, but it went downhill when I let him move in with me (he couldn't afford his rent and pretty much lived with me anyway). He got put on an electronic tag, and was stuck to my house from 8pm- 7am everyday. To sum it up, we had a few crazy arguments which resulted in the police coming over, and just before christmas he put me in hospital. After that I sort of forgave him, let him stay but then just before new years we had anoter argument and I chucked him out. Since then we took a week or so apart but have gotten over it and maintained our friendship.

During the time he stayed, I became close friends with my neighbour and invited her over every night to chill. My neighbour and ex hated each other at first, but became friends after a while. I found out that they had made out with each other twice when we were going out..

Yesterday he tells me he is seeing my neighbour and really likes her.. I said to them, do what you want but I'm not really gonna want to be involved with either you. I wish I never introduced them to each other and encouraged them to get on! I feel betrayed by my friend and pissed off at my ex, but I don't wanna lose them.. but argh.. would you forgive for this?

 

leave 'em to it, sounds like they deserve each other :mickey:

 

why would you want to be with someone who put you in the hospital? Let the bastard go and move on, he isn't worth the time of day.

 

Piss Them Both Off, And Move Into The Next Chapter Of Your Life....

Don't Rush Out And Date Somebody Just To "Show Em", Cool It, Live

Your Day As Per Normal And You Will Be Suprised How Quickly Someone

New Will Appear In Your Life....

I Wish You All The Best for The Future...:sunny:



Cheers Glen.

 

for which?

i would forgive the ex for dating the neighbor. hell, there's nothing to even forgive there. he's a single guy who's dating a single girl.

i would forgive the neighbor for dating the ex. a female who has terrible taste in men is nothing unusual, and it would be hypocritical of you to be pissed at someone for doing exactly what you did last year.

i would not forgive him for being a deadbeat, moving in with you, getting placed under house arrest, beating the fuck out of you, and cheating on you. and i would not forgive the neighbor for cheating with your boyfriend.

i would be happy that they are both out of my life.

 

You're saying that you maintained your friendship not a relationship after you chucked him out, so you really can't say anything about him moving on even if it is with your neighbour! Put it out of your mind and get on with your life! That's sound advice from Glen about not rushing out to find someone new to make a point! Take the moral high ground!

 

Hey thanks for all your replies, it's really helped put things into perspective for me. I'll leave them to it and move on.

And I'minmyunderwear, that was like a good bitch slap haha. I know I've been stupid and made many poor decisions. The guy was the type that would be charming sober, but a dick when drunk. I always held back from drunk arguments with him, but when I started to stand up for myself he got violent a few times.. but everytime was "the last time", I loved him and forgave him, accepting that I provoked him to be violent by arguing back. Stupid.

 

Sounds like your better off with them both out of your life!
Lose them lady, you dont need that kind of crap in your life...

 

It sounds like she's done you a favour, if anything.

 

The proverbial alpha male. :sunny:

 

Just an update really.. Ive moved on, cut contact with them and have met new people. Im so much happier, its like a giant weights been lifted off my shoulders. thanks for your replies guys, you were right!

 

Good News, Thanks For Coming Back To Us With An Update...:2thumbsup:



Cheers Glen.

 

Whats "stupid" is that statement darl.....and your only 19....why on earth would you think its YOUR fault...

I'm glad you've moved on...but please remember there is NEVER any excuse for physical violence.