What constitutes Bisexual?

Like many on here, I had "gay" thoughts about men from time to time as I was growing up. Always wandering what was wrong with me or ignoring those certain desires or fantasies if you will. Ironically I had those thoughts only in middle school and after I got out of high school. Even tho all through high school I was a jock and played football. It wasn't about suppressing any desires at that time. Those feelings just weren't there. Seems odd to me. Anyway, out of high school, my mind began to wander back to the idea of doing things with guys. I would watch gay porn and get off on it. Not the sensual stuff, just the pure kinky sex. About two years ago I figured what the hell and tried sex with a guy for the first time. I liked it. Like most people on here, I love to suck cock. A big juicy cock in your mouth is an awesome feeling. But unlike a lot of the threads I've seen recently, it's not the only thing I enjoy doing and I don't stigmatize everything else. If you're going to suck a man's dick, why not try all of it instead of having a phobia of everything else involving man on man sex. I enjoy giving and receiving head from a man. I enjoy being a bottom most of the time but can be a top if that's what the person is wanting. I've only had sex with one guy, albeit a number of times, but only with one guy. A gay friend of mine. Not a relationship just casual encounters. However I don't have any feelings towards guys just desires for sex. I don't particularly like kissing guys or anything emotional at all. I love pussy, I like dick. So what actually constitutes bisexuality? Is it the ability to be emotionally attached to both sexes? Is it being attracted to both sexes regardless if emotions are involved? In my case, the desire to be intimate with only one sex and just wanting to fuck the other? Is that bisexual? Does that make me bisexual? All comments are welcome as I believe I am among friends.

 

I think i might possible be bi, i dont care, i dont overthink it. Its just whatever lol

 

It's not about over thinking it. It's about coming to grips with who you truly are. If you don't know who you truly are, then how can you make your way in the world without self-doubt. It's about an inward discovery that can cause a lot less baggage emotionally later on in life.

 

Do you need a label? I don't. I don't consider myself anything other than a old married guy looking to have some experiences before I get too old and die. Me and thousands of other guys feel like you do. I have no desires for kissing my friend, cuddling,etc., but I really enjoy sucking his cock and enjoy getting sucked by him.
I would think a Bisexual is someone who Needs to have those emotional feelings, other than just cock play. I wouldn't call myself bisexul just because I have sucked a cock. Strange, but the way I feel about it, is like sucking his cock, is being able to suck myself, but a lot easier. All we do is give each other bjs and go about our business. I'm still hooked on hourglass figures, but can't go there.
Enjoy it and don't worry about lables. If there had to be, maybe there should be a new name for guys who feel like us.

 

Bi-curious, you're at a cross roads, not really sure. I see it this way, do men turn you on? do women turn you on? then it's simple, you're bi and there's nothing wrong with that. It's beautiful really, accepthing both genders equally. I'm bi, it took me a long time to accept it.

 

Each of us may have slightly different definitions and for sure our thoughts may change over time. A man having thoughts or just finding something about another man interesting is not bisexuality in my opinion. To me being bisexual can only be when you've had some sort of sexual act with both sexes, not at the same time of course.

I had thoughts about boys/men when growing up and still remember some of those.

 

for me, i never really get turned on by men, but it's more of a sheer curiosity. I like to try new things, expand my horizons. But whenever i run into the bisexuality arena it is really tough for me to accept.

My dilemma is, like i said, i don't really have any sexual feelings towards guys thus far, but i can't tell if i open myself up to it will it suddenly come flooding in or something?

Overall i'm really turned on by women and intimacy would definitely lean towards the female side.

 

I think we make too big a deal of the whole thing. Some folks - sex-is-fun, apparently included - love sex. That is the diagnosis. No parental/societal/religously imposed bias. Take sex when available from either gender. Return to the pre-Judeo/Christian freedom of Greece and Rome, when every man had wife, courtesan, and "boys for fun." We've gone sooo wrong since, forbidding warmth, fondness, love, sex from whomever comes the offer. Blah!

 

You're putting too much thought into it. One day you can be straight, the next day you want to suck cock. You are whatever you are at the moment. It's what ever you're in the mood for. It's not complicated and it's not particularly important. Don't try to define yourself, it creates limitations in your mind.

 

I agree - who needs labels? I'm married and love both sexes, sucking, licking, topping and bottoming. All good if you enjoy it. Whatever you don't enjoy - don't do it.

Simon

 

I believe I am, without a doubt nowadays. I have had 2 separate relations with 2 different women, but those were over 10 years ago. I haven't been with a woman since, so, I hid who I really was all this time. I have feelings for both men and women. I guess you can call me a "NOT PRACTICING BISEXUAL"...LOL!

 

I would have to agree what you do is up to you. If your not comfortable with labels then don't label yourself. I myself am bisexual I know this based on the fact that I have had experiences with both men and women and have enjoyed both equality. My attraction to both sexes is about the same but I do lean more toward men. Just be yourself and live you life how you want to live it. Good luck and hope this helps some.

 

My experience is 100% heterosexual but I get extremely turned on thinking about other women, and if circumstances ever allowed me to fuck another woman, I'd jump at the chance and I'm convinced that I'd love it... Am I bi?

 

^ I would say your curious. You never know what you like till you try it. Go find someone to play with, then you can decide if it is right for you

But really its all about what you consider your working definition for being bisexual. If you consider strictly speaking that you enjoy having sex with men and women to be bi, that is one definition, but some people say that they are not emotionally attached and that its just sex, and claim to not be bisexual. I enjoy sex with both men and women, but I am different in how I treat my relationships with both, and I find I need to be more emotionally invested in guys to enjoy sex.

 

Are you turned on by both sex's? Yes? Then you are a bisexual.

 

Its just a label. Everyone has their different idea of what bi is and some people think bi sexuality doesn't exist. I consider myself bi though because I checkout both genders lol. Maybe girls more then boys

 

Wow. I really like this place )

I have been straight all my life, and I love being with women. But I also have a dark, naughty desire for some gender-bending fun. Like some here, I want to have a cock in my mouth, and I would also like to dress up and act femme for a guy one day. I have told some of this to my GF and she was surprisingly cool about it. I think if it were to ever happen it would have to be with someone I trust who I find has similar desires. I've gone online but it seems that men just want to get to the deed. I now appreciate how women must feel....Women want to do ALL we want to do, but want a man to take the time to put them at ease, make them feel as if next day their tryst isn't going to be front page news. In short...make them feel safe! Well, guys just seem to want to whip it out and be "serviced". Nothing wrong with that, but maybe a bit too fast for this bi-curious hottie!

 

I know exactly where you're coming from jerseyboy. Women are incredible but what defines my own bisexuality is my intense desire to be with men. I would love to both suck and bottom, but I don't really see it ever happening largely due to the moral issues it brings up. Could I really ever potentially expose my wife to AIDs or other STDs or bring about that kind of hurt to my entire family? No matter how many times I analyze it, the answer is always the same.

As I get older, I feel more of a need to be expressive about my gay desires. If I'm lucky enough to get the house alone, I will frequently go for the dildo. It's incredibly pleasurable. I also love to admire the male form. So yeah, in my own mind, I'm bisexual and happy to be so. I have also found that my "gay side" is more caring and sensitive and helps me be a better father and husband in many ways. My wife even jokes about it. But as far as acting out my fantasies with an actual man ... doubtful.

 

I've been a bisexual for four years. I can't hide it anymore. I love anal stimulation, I love a good emo dude, but I also love girls. Sometimes I switch back and fourth between watching shemales, lesbians, and gays.
I plan on having sex with at least one guy before I die, so I must be bisexual.

 

As I always say to people who ask me why I'm bisexual:

I fancy people, not sexes.