Just wondering; has anyone ever noticed noone ever truly falls in love anymore, especially in media? Love today seems to be more of a social status thing. Opinions?
i've seen the change you describe above in media for sure. BUT in real life i've seen many beautiful relationships form between people who REALLY care about each other. The type of couples that other couples or individuals wish for. It's funny you say this because I've been wondering if more poeple are starting to find love...i've had a feeling it's been increasing at a faster rate than normal..but then again what do i know?
I don't think its cause people don't truly fall in love anymore, I think its more about people being afraid to fall in love, or having to many bad relationships. Look back 100 years where people would fall in love with the first person they meet wait till marriage before having sex then have 10 kids grow old and die. Now a days we have to many options and distractions and too much sexual stimulation. But If you want the real thing, its out there you just have to keep look'n.
Great opinions, what I think is that people just go out with eachother just to talk about it basicly. I think people should learn to wait for someone they actually connect with.
I personally think it may also have something to do with the fact that life is a rather complicated journey. The way I see it, falling in love in itself isn't any less genuine these days than it was before. We fall in love when we do...which, I believe, is the part that's easy enough to recognize in most cases. And if that love fails? Did it fail because it was not genuine enough? I don't necessarily think that. It's just life, sometimes flukes happen, but we often require opportunities to explore. And the realm of love is quite a place to explore. Media does what media does, and that creates one version of a particular story. But that's only one version, and there are at least two other versions out there. Remember, there are three sides to every story. Besides, to each one's own when it comes to what kind of relationship one is after. I'm not one to look for a relationship purely for the sake of being in one, but some of the people just might have a legitimate reason or two behind their decision to do so. Again, their perception of what's legitimate may not be something you or I could necessarily relate to. For that matter, you might not be able to relate to my perception of what's legitimate either. But the point is, we're all different. Anyway, that's my opinion. I DO see what you're saying, though.
This girl wrote this for me: the modern day perception of love can be completely wrong. most see it as it isn't. most feel it as it's not. but it's out there. it's real. love is not an emotion. yes, it is good sense. but it's so much more. it doesn't matter if you've been heart broken, it doesn't matter if you've crashed and burned. it doesn't matter who you've loved, how you love. you can give the illusion of love to anyone. you can easily make anyone feel, like they're 'in love.' you can cuddle, you can kiss, make love, hold each other. you can give the sense of being loved. it's easy. that's where most people stop. well, they don't stop. they just give up looking. they get the illusion that that's that. y'kno? love, is when you find yourself, in another. when you can have your alone time, with your other. it's not just, if you guys have similar tastes, similar sounds, similar interest. it's whats there. what's deep. what you can feel. i mean, ah. this is hard. but i'm trying. love, is when all walls are completely tore down, and it's just, the two of you. raw, and naked. down to the very roots. and you realize, that it's just, it's always been, just the two of you. and it will always be. something you can never, ever turn your back on. nothing you could even imagine to hurt. nothing truly hurts with love. it's all just lessons. lessons with yourself, lessons with them, lessons with everything. just, seriously. when it's you, and yourself. when it's them, and themselves. when you guys, are one. when everything is shared, every feeling, every itch, every bruise, every heart beat, every breathe, every smile, every everything. you are them. they, are you. people will give up looking for themselves, when they get the sense of love. naturally, the human brain, will stop being interested in a person around 18 months. this is a main cause of why so many people get divorced, and ruin the beautifulness of 'marriage.' they realize, that they are not with themselves, they are not with the one whom they love. they 'fall out of love' because, frankly, they just had the sense of love. but, when you're with your soulmate. it doesn't matter if you're legally wed in any religion, any way. you already are. you're already tied down, you're rooted down, with the complete, and total bliss of your partner. of your love. your souls are truly one. just one soul. not that many people, can truly experience such joy. such, perfection. because they're afraid to either, let themselves go, or be true to themselves. it's such a shame. 'cause love, is the greatest thing ever. the greatest state ever, the greatest feeling, experience, everything. when you can truly, surrender yourself, give everything, give your all, and never, ever, ever give up, for someone. when you can be 2 miles, 5 miles, 500 miles, away, how ever, and you stay totally true to them. not just, 'ohhh, i didn't fool around with this guy at the bar., etcetc' but when, you can't even be yourself. without them there. when, you don't just miss them, but you miss experiencing everything with them. when being with them alone, is better than any drug, any feeling, any movie, any food, anything. just you and them. when you can sit there, and just be in the calmest, perfect, place, just by looking into their eyes. when nothing, could ever compare, to the feeling, the bliss that is everywhere, when you're together. And with that, I'd like to introduce Andrew into this. He is my heart, and soul. He's my everything. And he wants everything that I do. He understands me on a level, that no one, could ever get to. A level no one even has. He knows me, Alexandra. LXD. He's apart of me. He's always with me. No matter the distance. He's always with me. The love we have, is always there. Always has been. Glowing like a thousand northern lights. He's more than my best friend, and he's even more than my soulmate. He's my soul. He's my heart. My rhythm, my emotions, my words. He is truly, the greatest part of me. And plus, he brings out all the greatest parts of me. You know? He understands my spirit. My soul. He understands what I want out of life. He understands where I want to go, how I want to go. And he has my back, 100% of the way. He pushes me, in ways no one would even dare to. He understands, that I, can truly do anything. He keeps me up. He keeps my hope, in a hopeless world. He has truly saved my life. In more ways, than anyone could ever begin to understand. And I thank him greatly for it. He's my heart and soul. My happiness, my everything. Beyond everything. And I'm sorry if I've repeated on that. But it's true. The love we have, it's soo much more than just love. It's an eternity of love. Two old souls. Two, very, old souls. Older than the mountains, and the valleys. In an eternity of love. Stronger than any tree, any rock. Something that has always just been. And always will be. He makes me the happiest girl, ever. He makes my heart the happiest. He always fills it up, with the greatest loving. The greatest words, and feelings. He makes my mind the happiest. He pushes it, and listens to it. And understands it completely. My soul is the happiest, as well, because of that boy. He respects it. He holds it high, and takes care of it when I can't. When I feel like, there's too much going on saying, 'no,' he's the one saying yes. He takes real good care of me. He always has, And I'm not really sure where I'd be if I was never re-united in this life with him. I mean, honestly, it was always bound to happen. But the thing is, it's been a year, since our souls have been put back together. Since our hearts became one again. And it's time for us to truly be with each other. To take care of each other. To truly be there for each other. To keep us warm, and sane. To start on our adventure. To start our life. Our relationship. There is truly, no one who would ever keep me as safe as that boy will. There's never going to be anyone else, who will love me like he does. Who wants me like he does. Who wants this life that I want. There's nobody who will truly watch, and protect my back as he will. There's no one else who I'd want to spoil, as much as I do with him. He is truly, my everything. I want to be there for him, through thick and thin. I want to be hungry, and dirty, and hairy with him. I want to marry him. And raise a kid with him. And become children of the world with him. I want to fly with him. I want to fly far, far away with him. And never come down. And you know what? I'm going to. question awnserd? i have the love true love, real love. love that goes beyond words. i hope someday everyone knows how amazing it feels when a girl writes that for you...
Love has been erased from the screens even more so than positive male roles and cigarette smoking. And most romance songs are about how sexy abusive behavior is. So? That's not reality; that's entertainment. People don't get enough love at home, they don't realize how great it can be; and almost all media these days is aimed towards teens or middle-aged women. Love on screen makes teenagers roll their eyes (unless it has to do with porcelain-skinned stalkers), and it would make the middle-aged women hate themselves for being such a shitty parent. Forget about what "they" want. And watch better shit, while you wait for them to get their shit together. I recommend comic books (but reruns are pretty groovy). Resurrected superhero visiting his only living relative:
Male teenagers that is. Your comics example is masculine love, for lack of a better word. And that's because the masculine definition of love; that is, friendship (whether sexual or not), is erroneously not called by the same name as Oprah Winfrey love. To me, it is a good thing that the two emotions receive different names; it separates the men from the boys...or rather, the men from annoying, needy, hysterical, out of shape teenage girls and old hags. Or, maybe it's not an error that they receive different names but simply that they are misnomers; Oprah Winfrey love is really emotional dependency. And the comics you posted is actual love.
the problem with love is a persons inability to accept it is anything other than grandiose and sweeping statements it could be about the less that is said. i love you can mean a lot of things. i love you can mean 1,000 red roses and a romantic meal in paris - but so can walking in on your partner on the toilet and not batting an eyelid. we see love everyday, just fail to accept it's simplicity.
Or, maybe allowing the loved one (and yourself) his or her time alone. Or even, his or her time with other people. And then being able to be alone - or, attend to your own needs - in the presence of the loved one; without interference.
well, i wasn't defining love on one thing. this is an example of simplicity - you are a clever guy and can surely see that all that you have mentioned otherwise constitute similar measures. boing flip! :biggrin:
i see, that's cool. sorry - i thought you were saying otherwise but i tried to pay you a compliment anyways, because i think you often make the based posts around this sort of thing. thank you for agreeing, i agree wholeheartedly with you also.
I don't think love is really an emotion, and I think that's the problem with most young females. Love is a bond; with a ton of emotions attached. But I do agree that English desperately needs more words to describe it. I think the whole bad romance obsession and people mistaking limerence for love is part of what makes so many "not believe in love", or whatever you wanna call it; so, I definitely think you were right by calling it a mistake. No, I meant all teenagers. Girls want romance (and as you said, dependency) not love.
