i dont wanna be like my her...or date him

ok a lot of things have been going through my mind for the past couple of weeks...

one is ....we in the end do we end up becoming our parents?

two....(girls) do we end up falling for a guy like our dad?

three....i dunno i just didnt want to have two.

well what i'm getting at is...ive been with my boyfriend for several months now and i've noticed at times...he reminds me of my dad!!! it freaked me out a little but it wasnt that he looked like him or anything...just i dunno...they way he did things...it reminds me of my dad. and it weird but my dad would wear kackies (?) to work...and my bf does...and i dunno they way he touches me and rubs my face when we're about to go to sleep...and they way he hold me in his arms...i feel so safe just like i did with my dad...thing is...do we end up going for guys like our fathers...or does it just happen that way....?

second...my mother had two abbusuve relationships...with my dad and still with my step father...my dad was just an asshole and my step dad is a druggy and a drunk. she takes shit from them and keeps her anger in but lets it out on the kids and mostly me. well i dunno of we do end up becoming out parents...i'm a little scared. my boyfriend is a little hot headed...hah just like my dad...he can be an asshole and get really upset and blame me for something i didnt do...ohh and when i say i'm going some where and hes not going he get all like...ohh where are you going!?!....who will be there!?!? i mean he gets all paranoid over nothing... well one night he yelled at me in front of my friend and it was over nothing....later that night i told him not to ever do that again and he grabbed me by my arm and he just had this look in his eyes and it was like he woke up and he let go real fast... i ran inside and he came in and said he was sorry...i mean relationship is starting to get really serious....but i swear i dont want to be my parents...i dont. but the thing is...do we really become out parents????

 

First off, please excuse my spelling:

We become our parents in the since that we all have love enough to reproduce and show love to the next generation.
Now, becoming our parents in the since that we act like them is absurd. We are raised in the manner they see best fit, but if we become them, it is because we respect what we were taught and we want to take their model as our own. But, then again, this is up to the person.
So, it is all to the person how you turn out.

 

sounds good my parents are chill

 

Learn from the mistakes your parents made, they in turn will serve a better purpose for both you and your children, some day, no matter who you're with.

 

I think you're parents are veryimportant in instilling you with values and certain world views

However, it doesn't mean you're predestine to fall the same fate as your parents. Infact, you know what you don't want to happen so you can avoid it better.

Just evaluate yourself and your situation carefully and you will be wiser for all the mistakes of yoour parents.

One of my favorite lives from a song is Red Hot chili peprs, "I don't wanna do it like my daddy did, I don't wanna give it to my babies kids."

PEace