How to avoid developing feelings for your fuck buddy?

Any one have any advice on how to not develop feelings for someone you just fuck and smoke with?

 

Dont expect more to smoke and fuck

 

ask him to marry you

 

Feelings are unavoidable. Acting on them is the choice.
You must accept that you can not act on them. And if you feel that you can not control your actions or the feelings are too much for you to handle you must tell him and break it off.

This type of relationship is always very temporary, because women tend to complicate things quickly(within a few months). Just be open and don't set your self up to get hurt. Remember that the relationship will be 'Better' if you squash the need to act on the emotions. This is very counter intuitive, especially for women, but things will move more smoothly if you learn this early on.

Edit:I would like to point out that men will fuck up the fun with their emotions also, not just women.

 

I feel like you know me, I forgot I had the option to not act on what I was thinking

 

Why do you want to avoid escalating the relationship? Me, when I have feelings for someone who I'd rather not have a relationship with, I take a break.

 

yeah man. it sucked.
but i set myself up to be hurt i expected it to change like in fairy tales xD he also lives really far away now so idk wtf i was thinking

 

Go with the flow, girl - don't fight it.

 

i agree completley.

 

Pick someone you won't develop feelings for.

 

the feelings are true, why lie, for sex? youll only make it worse in the long run for yourself

 

It's not worth ruining. The sex is my main concern and it has been really awesome. The best thing I can do is have fun and of he likes it enough, he'll settle down. I need to start trusting wonkas advice.

I do like both sides of the advice. To confront it is easy but i might not get a relationship outta it. Just adknowledging the fact I feel that way is harder but I always try the "easy" way so maybe it's time I suck it up and just shut up. Haha

 

I thought that's what I did but he grew on me

 

The way I interpreted what you typed is that to you, "settling down," is a relationship that involves a guy just having sex with you.

When I think of settle down I think of "settle down" as in a committed healthy monogamous relationship where the two care for eachother in every way, not having sex be the foundation of the relationship.

Maybe you meant something different by "settle down?"

I don't know. What I do know is that a partnership of just sex is a partnership of just sex.

 

At first I thought I could just have sex with this guy but then I got to know him. But he just wants sex and to smoke with me. Settling Dow. To me is securing a mono relationship with me. We are both free to have sex with however but I just recently learned that he is only having sex with me currently.

 

Hi Veroness, u don't say if u are in another ealtionship as well - tho since u call him a fuck buddy I tend to assume that u are.

Useful reads for handling different relationships and dealing with feelings are:
Tristan taomino's "Opening Up"

and one i just got that is less 'way-out'

"Love Unlimited" by Leonie Linssen & Stephen Wik.

Good luck,

Simon

 

and to grow on what OLF wrote:
Intimacy is a necessary part of our daily lives. We can go for a week or two without it; after that, it is like several days or a week without food.

Learn to trust that what you want truly is intimacy, and this is /one/ basis of a relationship. Like a stool with 1 leg, it's an important leg though..

Intimacy is often misinterpreted as 'sex' literally humping in one form or another. Sex is our biological 'mandate', our spiritual mandate is intimacy.

-FITS all rights reserved without recourse.

 

fuck up with me.i wont allow u to develop feelings

 

I think this is very important:

But also,

Don't confuse exclusiveness with commitment.
Don't confuse intimacy with want for a relationship.
Him only having sex with you could mean absolutely nothing whatsoever.

Read into his nonverbal language all you want; but don't forget that all you can be sure of is what is blatantly stated.

 

first of all. dont pick a guy that is confusing. or fucked up with his views on things. worst type of guy to sleep with. they start to gain feelings for you and its all over with. i just been thru it.

get a guy that can respect that hes getting sex from a chick, not one that can think and take advantage of getting it anytime he wants

dont ever let the guy put you down. he aint worth it then. find a down to earth guy, thats ok with fucking, smoking and leaving.

i had a great one for 2 years. best 2 years of being single. we both understood what we wanted and we never fought or anything.

and if you know you are starting to gain feelings, use it on a guy that deserves them, not your booty call