be yourself and have friends?

I think i been realizing along with my friend, mj, that i would probably have more friends just being myself. but people don't seem to accept me when i'm being myself...any thoughts

 

Change yourself to a self more friendly

 

Hello,

ain't it hard work to not be yourself and to not slip out of the role?

Regards
Gyro

 

Friends who don't know the real you, or wouldn't like the real you, aren't really friends. I am always myself, if people don't like that - then it's probably best they aren't my friends.

 

I'm always myself, but I'm a very likable person. And the parts that some people wouldn't like...well, if they don't like it, that's just too bad for them. Like my biting sarcasm and cynicism. Thank god everyone at work just thinks it's funny, I'd hate to have to pretend to be someone else at any point ever...except maybe when I'm dealing with my grandmas...I try to be a lot more pleasant and sugary. Haha.

 

Regardless of the type of person you are, you will have more true friends if you are yourself.

And who really needs any more fake friends?

 

well, one of these two thoughts is incorrect. at this point, i couldn't tell you which it is.

 

I try to act in the way that falls natural to me at any given time, and if that means someone doesn't like me, it doesn't worry me in the slightest. At least I know people like or dislike me for who I really am. I like being honest, and I stopped worrying about other people's expectations a long time ago.

Saying that, if you're a total douchebag and don't have (in your own opinion) a single redeeming quality, you might want to consider changing your self. Not for the benefit of others, but for your own.

 

@TipsyGypsy Yep that's pretty much my whole attitude to the situation.

 

Be yourself, and maybe a little more outgoing, and you'll have all the real friends you need.

 

If you are not being yourself, then who are you being?

 

Hello,

just another nameless walking carbon unit. Hm, dutchblood87 hasn't told us what he thinks that is wrong with him. Maybe he likes to throw up during lunch for fun or such. Then he should indeed change his behaviours. But if he is only 'strange' in some sense then it's good like it is.

Regards
Gyro

 

Gyro, this has always been one of the most baffling things for me, in the thing we call life.

There may be nothing wrong other than perception of either others or self. We change perception of others by just being, we also change perception of self by the same means, being.

Until we accept who we are, with all the warts we have, then the self is not accepted by us. If we do not accept ourself, the who is going to.

Funny how it works.

Wanna see the wart on my nose?

 

Hello,

true spoken, Heat. The wicked thing is that you often can't perceive that if you need it most.

Well, if everyone would be as sane as we are, the world would be a better place .

Regards
Gyro

 

Whatever somebody else wants you to be.

I know a lot of people who like fakes. They prefer to be told what they want to hear, whether it's real or not.

 

In the end you can't be anyone but you and sooner or later you will find people who will truly accept you for who you are.

I tried real hard fitting in and being exactly like everyone else when I was a kid. Strangely doing that didn't make people like me any better. It was when I said screw that and started being nobody but myself that I found true friends who to my surprise liked me for me, just the way I was, no alterations.

 

If your not yourself, then your bound to wind up at least somewhat resenting the self that you have created. And who wants that? Just be yourself, and let the universe take care of the rest.