My boyfriend won't smoke with me

Basically my boyfriend who I've been with for about 4 months, won't smoke weed with me. I smoke a few times a week, sometimes more, and he smokes every day. I don't know if I actually care about smoking with him but every time I've asked he's kind of avoided answering it directly. And last night he texted me back "I just don't want to be high around you a lot. I don't like it. So we can every once in a while.".... I don't really understand. After that I told him we never have to smoke together if he doesn't like it, and he said he was fine with that. But it's weird.. he's the only friend that I don't smoke with. And I'm pretty much the only person he doesn't smoke with either. I'm honestly kind of sad about this whole thing. He loves weed way more than I do, and he doesn't want to smoke with me... I don't know what to think. How is this even going to work out if he doesn't want to smoke with me and he smokes every day? I don't know, I guess I'm just venting but it's a weird situation.

 

maybe you kill his high

 

Maybe it kills his boner and he'd rather bang you when you're around. ...That's probably not it, though.

 

I don't know.. I guess that could be it but I think it's more about him feeling like awkward or paranoid around me when he's high and I don't get it. I guess that could be considered "killing his high" but I don't think our relationship is going to work out if we can't smoke together. He smokes every day, how can we work out if we can't smoke together...UGHHHH

 

Hahaha.

 

your going to let a plant ruin your relationship?

 

I am because I worry more about how he feels than how I feel. We don't see things the same way. Smoking is a part of his life, more than it is a part of mine. He would just be better off with someone that he "liked" being high around.

 

Lovers who smoke together stay together. That's how that saying goes, right?

 

do whatever you feel is right :cowboy:

 

Yeah I guess I'll just see what happens. But he definitely cares more about the fact that we can't smoke together than he's telling me.

 

Maybe he doesn't want your relationship to take that direction. I can't tell you how many friendships I have that are now almost entirely centered around weed since that is what we do when we're hanging out. He probably doesn't want to have your relationship become centered around weed because he really likes you for who you are regardless of everything else, which is why he only wants to smoke with you every once in awhile. It doesn't have to be that way of course, but things take direction like that pretty quickly, and it's hard to reverse it.

 

Thanks I hope this is the reason. I know how that feels and I have a ton of friends that smoke with me every time we hang out. It blows after a while.

 

If he wont talk to you about it and work through it... dump him...

This is NOT about weed... this is about your partner NOT sharing the parts of life that you both find enjoyable... whatever the reason, its an indication of worse things to come...

 

So, because he likes her SOO much, he won't talk to her and share how he feels with her, to the point that she has to seek advice on the net about it?

That is not love or even like... That is, "I enjoy telling people I have a girlfriend, I just wish she would quit bugging me"...

 

This could be true.

 

This is what I'm leaning towards. You are supposed to be with someone that naturally makes you feel high on life, he probably doesn't want another smoking buddy.

 

Well thanks for the input but you don't really know my situation completely so there's really no use in calling it "not even love". It's not that big of a deal, I think I'm just going to wait it out.

 

You come on and ask for advice and then tell people they have no clue what your life is like?

Fuck off child, and stay with him... it doesn't matter who you are with, it will have issues until you grow up.

 

he sounds like kind of a dickhead, but i dont know him so i dont know. but i will say that its very odd that he is doing that.

 

Nah, I wasn't trying to be a bitch. I wasn't saying that you "have no clue what my life is like". I was just saying that I didn't really explain my situation entirely. But there's no need to get angry. You're right, I was asking for advice, and I knew to expect this kind of comment. It was just a little out of line for you to call my relationship "not even love". I don't really give a fuck.. haha