Ok, so I know I am in my 30s and I should probably know this already, but I have never really dated much and I have NEVER been in this situation before. Anyway, so earlier in the week I hooked up with a guy (much younger than me) and slept with him pretty much right away. The sex was really good (yes...he enjoyed himself) and we talked for a long time after the actual act. I had been talking to this guy online for almost a year before I actually met him. He had been keen to get together for a while, but I am pretty shy when it comes to meeting new people and had put it off for a long time. My new years resolution was to be a bit braver this year and so I bit the bullet and invited him over. Anyway, as I said - the sex was really good and lasted all afternoon and he didn't run out the door as soon as the deed was done. So now it is 3 days later and I haven't heard a word from him. I sent him a text the day after just asking if he had survived his first day back at work after holidays, but he never replied. I am not at all emotionally attached and I am not looking for anything more than an ongoing casual sexual relationship with the guy. As he left he kissed me very passionately and told me he would talk to me 'very soon'. I realise that this is possibly just something he said so as not to be an asshole, but it really seemed like he meant it. I don't know? I just figured that I would have heard from him by now, or that he would have at least replied to my message. I want to sleep with him again - is it ok for me to just call and suggest he comes over? Of if he hasn't called should I just assume that it was a one off thing and move on? I don't feel bad about what happened, I had a good time, I know he had a good time and like I said, there is no emotional attachment here. I guess I just want to know how to tell him that this is only about sex and that I want more of it without sounding desperate! Advice?
Just do it. The worst that will happen is he'll say no...and then you will know, and not be wondering. If your not emotionally attached as you say, you won't care either way.. and what Aussie male would knock back a root?
I'd give it a few days, and then do it... But I can be too hands off, I dunno, you did text him, he can reply whenever....
then wait a while, and just do it out of the blue.....they dont like desperate, your right.....but they like willing and available with no strings attached. Problem is, a lot of blokes think that their love making skills send us girls into mad throes of "lurve" and "dreams of marriage" and that any contact will give us the wrong impression....
be blunt...use these terms.. .''friend with benefits''.. which is lame. .or my favorite ...''fuck buddy''.......
I think normally I would just call him and say "Hey man, wanna be fuck buddies?" or something to that effect, but I think the fact that he is much younger than me and REALLY fucking hot (I am really, really not) is making me more cautious because I know I am punching well above my weight....you know what I mean?
Also, he knows that I am out of town for a week.....so I think I'll just call him when I get back and see if he wants to hook up.
excellent ask him over for a few beers and sex, but he doesnt have to have the beers if he doesnt want.:2thumbsup:
my besty is my age (47) and seeing a 24 year old......has been for a year. Its FB status, and they both are more than happy. How much younger are we talkin, coz lots of young guys these days go the Cougars. Theres a nightclub in my old stomping grounds in Sydney that is known as a " Cougar catcher" bar
It's sounding to me like you like him more than you're letting on. "Waiting for the call" doesn't sound like casual sex...neither does casual texting. It's also caught my attention that you're speaking for him, "He enjoyed himself." Maybe, but maybe not as much as you think...regardless of what he might of said. The real tester is whether he keeps coming back. My advice, is to be MORE direct, and MORE desperate exactly because he's the prize in the relationship. And fuck his brains out...if he's got a libido like mine, he will keep coming back no matter how desperate you seem. Or maybe he'll come back because you seem desperate. I myself love desperate, totally kamikazi, crazy, sex-starved, risk-taking, slutty women...I wouldn't put it past him so soon.
Good advice! Will do! I don't like him more than I am letting on...just been a long time between drinks is all!
Well I tried to call him today to let him know I had the house to myself this afternoon - no answer. Think I can safely assume it was a one time thing. Thanks for the advice though
