Trouble eating out my girlfriend. Maybe you can help

So I have probably eaten out 4-6 girls in my day and until my current girlfriend none of them complained. My last girlfriend even told me I was really good at it but for some reason my current girlfriend tends to disagree.

So I try most everything i can think of...... I use techniques that have worked on other girls in the past, I try to be inovative with new techniques, and I try to be simple even. But it dosent please her enough and she always trys giving me instructions but after a few minutes tshe ends up telling me she dosent actually even know what she likes and that I should just go back to doing it how I was way. So basically, my gf dosent know what pleases her and i cant figure out how to please her.

She sais her past boyfriends were good at eating her out and so they licked her puss alot and she wants me to do the same which makes me feel bad because I know how much she loves it and I would love to please her. But Not being able to is discouraging and makes me not enjoy doing it for her andso I dont want to do it for her.....especially when I feel like the entire time she is comparing me to her x's..

Anyway I was wondering if anyone on here has any opinions on this situation or if perhaps anyone could help me out by leting me know of any possible tounge techniques that unanimously seem to work well for every girl. I just really would like to know some fail safe techniques for eating my girl out that are almost garenteed to please her

 

Oh ya, Im also curious if it is normally better to lick softly or with alot of pressure, to have your tounge flat or pointy, to change it up, any positions that might make it easier for her to be stimulated while being eaten out, and just any overall advice that can be given. thanks alot!!

 

So have you tried the counter clockwise swirl with the pointed tongue flicker? Sorry, that was my poor attempt at humor. I think one thing you both have to do is relax, it's not a contest. I'm no casanova but the women I have been with were all different and even my wife likes different things at different times. Work up to it, tease her, kiss the inside of her thighs. Is she comfortable masturbating in front of you, that might give you some clues. One thing I have learned is don't attack the clit, work around it. I wish I could give you the magic bullet but there isn't one. The biggest thing is to just relax and pay attention to the signals she's putting out. You'll get there.

 

Bring your current girlfriend to me and I lick her.

 

I would go out and get a shiny new girlfriend, and not worry about it. Some things cannot be fixed.

 

of course i can help. bring her by anytime.

 

Just sounds like you need to keep working on finding out what she likes. Maybe ask her to try a "more or less" approach. If you are doing something and you change it, either by moving faster or slower, ask her to tell you more or less. It sounds like she's at least getting some enjoyment out of what you're doing for her, you just need to adjust it some to get her exactly what she wants.

 

thanks for the advice. I geuss we should just have some patience and ill get it and then we can starthaving some more fun

 

sounds more like she's interested in her ex's and not you.

that'd irritate me to no end if my girl did that to me, especially if i displayed a want to improve and made an effort.

 

well I slowly lick the inside of her thighs and all around her fanny, then slowly kiss her lips and start running my tongue from the bae of her stomach down across her clit and down her lips; plenty of saliva until she gets wet (if not already) - you cannot have enough lubrication. Always running in this direction. Take her clit between your lips, suck on it gently.

Every girl will have preferences but you should be able to judge by her behaviour.

I often slide my other hand under her bum (nice feeling for both of you) and then you can insert your thumb into her fanny or anus while licking, even thumb inher fanny and finger in her anus.

Whatever turns her on............

Enjoy - good licking :sunny:

Simon

 

innovativeness should be saved for the board from

 

So she wants you to do it pretty regularly and you are willing to and the end result is so that you can find a technique or method she likes so she cums every time? Sounds like great work if you can get it!

I am fortunate in that my partner loves me licking her out and I love doing it so it's our most frequent sexual activity.

First off, there is no hard and fast rule to a certain 'way' or 'technique' because every female is different. Try some of the following though:

Start off by kissing her lips, sucking very very gently on them and licking around and over them, right up to her clit. Lick that with the flat of your tongue. Delve down and lick in between the lips; straighten your tongue and thrust it gently inside her pussy. Keep this up for a few minutes at least before taking a long broad sweep of her whole pussy again. Keep varying between shoving your tongue inside her, licking up and down her pussy and moving up to her clit every now and then. If she is getting close to orgasm, begin to lick and suck with more focus on her clit. Maybe inset a finger or two if she likes that. My girl doesn't care if I do that or not, as long as I'm doing it right with my mouth.

You don't have to do the above in that order, just any old order will do. Tell her how good she tastes too. Try different positions. Either let her lie back and relax or she could sit on your face. Experimenting is half the fun.

Most importantly though, listen. Listen to her sighs and feel her body perhaps shivering in enjoyment when you do a certain thing. Pay attention to that and do things that cause her to sigh or shiver in pleasure. That way you'll gradually figure out the little things you are doing that she likes. And be prepared to be down there for as long as it takes. She probably won't cum quickly. Could even be an hour or so but if you succeed, she will only want you doing it and no-one else.

Good luck

 

I had a girl that acted the same way, I started rubbing her asshole and fingering it, never bitched agian. She loves it

Hope this helps, give it a try.

 

Just a thought, but wouldn't it be more helpful to ask HER?

 

Softly has always worked better for me:2thumbsup:

 

It always varies on my wife. Sometimes she likes it hard and fast, sometimes she likes it slow and soft. I usually mix it up and see what gets the best response. Lately she's been enjoying it when I'm lazy about it, long and slow licks mixed it with some circles around the clit or gentle nips with just my lips. You want to mix things up, but don't change it up every 30 seconds. I usually go with one thing for a few minutes and see what her reaction is. If I can feel her hips starting to grind a bit I know I'm doing something right. I make a mental note of what I'm doing and adjust it just a bit from there. If she gets more into it, I know I'm heading the right direction, otherwise I go back to what I was doing and try a different route. Just try not to go through 20 different actions in 5 minutes, that's just annoying. =p

 

I would set myself up in a permanent relationship with her. Give her financial control,and lots of freedom to do what she wants when she wants. It will work out fine. Don't worry about it.

 

OH wow -- you should come to my house

 

yah baby! lol., sorry its like i'm listening in on a men-only meeting hearing things that get me all excited. n e wayz sorry we're so hard, (just as hard giving it to ourselves sometimes) Seinfeld once said "sometimes i think its easier to move objects with your mind" in reference to making women orgasm. I do all i can to let him know what i like, whether its moans, moves or straight telling him. he was f-king genius anyway, he got me there every - damn - time.

That she doesn't even KNOW what she likes is ur problem right there. if she doesn't know, how will u? but u may end up knowing her body beter than she does if you do like he said above and listen and feel what her body's doing instead of listening to her mouth which sounds all confused