Taking it to the next level - pleasure for her?

So I'm a lucky guy - last year my long term partner decided, for whatever reason (maybe she's being surfing the Internet?) to let me enjoy some backdoor pleasure beyond the odd slip of the tongue during oral ;-) So far I think we haven't quite made it into double digits of anal penetration which I have certainly enjoyed and has been largely uneventful in terms of ick factor or any kind of pain. She has even said, voluntarily, that it "feels quite pleasant" or "not unpleasant just kind of weird" and a few times she has said "you should finish up soon if you're going to" which is obviously code for "I want you to cum but I'm really not enjoying it so much".

I'm always very conscious that this seems like a mostly one sided activity in terms of pleasure and it keeps nagging at my mind that some women claim to actively enjoy anal, or love anal and even have anal orgasms. Heck some even say they prefer it over vaginal sex. While I'm not looking for my gal to become some crazed anal sex goddess who presents her ass to me every time we hit the sack I'm am wondering if there things that can help us take it to the next level in terms of mutual enjoyment?

Is there some magical g-spot for anal, or are there interesting positions that are usually more pleasurable, when you're enjoying anal is it fast, slow or getting thrusts in a certain location (directed towards the vaginal wall or just deep inside) or is it just a case of getting really comfortable and exploring whatever works for her?

For those women enjoying anal on a regular basis I'm wondering if anal was a "love at first butt-fuck" kind of thing, like "OMG why have I been missing out on this all my life" or something you learned to really love and get the most out of enjoyment wise over time?

I know, so many questions and I should really talk with her more but she's very quite about sex issues so its always been a case of try stuff and see what works. If there were some interesting tips to try out I might be able to surprise her with something pleasurable one day.

And yes I also know that having her let me slide my cock inside her sexy ass and fill-er-up so to speak is a pleasure no guy should bemoan. All I want to do is make sure she is maximizing her pleasure too and really we as anal neophytes I have no clue what might work or not and I don't want to risk any pain or discomfort in the process of experimenting.

Thanks in advance for any feedback!

 

Every girl is built differently, so different nerve clusters are in different places. Just as no two guys will hit those spots (vaginally or anally) the same way for the same girl. I've had partners where we just had a 'perfect' fit, by chance. That's nice, but there is no way to know in advance.

Try having her use an Hitachi Magic Wand on her clit while you are doing her anally. This is fun for vaginal, too. Highly recommended.

 

My wife is just not into anal. She will let me do it if I ask, but says she really does not enjoy it. Wife says she has never really felt any good feelings from anal. Maybe all women just do not have a "magic spot" in their ass.

 

Went for anal again last night after reading this post. The strange thing is that my wife loves having her butthole played with and said it feels really good. But she gets no pleasure at all from having my dick up her ass.

But, she is a wild women with other sex acts, so I guess I should consider myself a lucky man.

 

I enjoyed anal sex the first time I did it. But there was so much foreplay before hand and he was gentle. Maybe after a few times my brain associated it with pleasure. Or maybe I liked it all along. In any case, I love getting it in the tush.

 

My wife enjoyed it the first time we did it, but it was in a hurts so good way. Over time We have learned to eliminate the hurts part and now she just enjoys it without the pain.

 

It is different for girl to girl, for sure. Some of my past partners didn't like it at first but then began to like it. Some of them liked it the first time with them never having done it before. My last girlfriend hated it her first ten or more times but now she prefers it to vaginal and we have twice as much anal as vaginal anymore. There are three keys to it: easy on the entry, let her use something on her clit, and make sure she is RELAXED (usually through an orgasm prior to the anal).

 

either you like it or you don't. i dont like when the guy is too big. if something hurts i don't do it. i'm not gona do something just to 'please' the man.
but my last serious bf was perfect size and went in gentle and it was soooo good, & i dont say i like something if i dont. {whats the point? then u have to keep pretending to like something you hate.}