is this stupid?

is it dumb that this bothers me? cause i kinda think its dumb but then again i feel like i have a right to be upset... so heres the deal... one of my best friends is going abroad for a semester, and he leaves sometime this week. ive known him all through grade school and we've been friends for a long time. my parents consider him their adopted son, and he really is like a brother to me.
im a twin, and my twin sister is equally as close with him. maybe a little more than i am, mainly cause she doesnt really hang out with ANYONE but him. (hes gay so they basically have a will and grace like relationship, theyre basically dating without the sex). but even though theyre really super close, i feel like im one of his closest friends as well.

so anyway, his sister is getting married, and he invited my sister to the wedding and not me. is it dumb that im kind of upset about this? me and my sister both know his family equally well and all. plus hes leaving right after the wedding so it'll probably be the last time my sister gets to see him.

he also is going to dinner with her (my sis) tonight, and they were talking about it all in the car when i was just with both of them, and i have no idea if im included in their plans or not. its just weird that he does these things with just her, its like theyre going on dates with each other or something. i dunno its just weird and it bothers me way more now cause im on break from school and home and hes like the main person i hang out with when im not in school.

it just kinda sucks, am i overreacting? or was it weird of him to only invite her?

 

does your sister dome him off while she wears a baseball hat to cover her hair?

 

I don't think you're overreacting. If you're his friend too, then you should be invited to dinner and to the wedding. I think you're completely justified.

 

if he's truely gay then wouldnt he invite you to the wedding? (assuming youre a guy)

 

yeah, this is dumb.

which is why i didn't read it.

 

what? no im not a guy

 

ok then hes definitely gay or just really stupid to not invite both twin sisters on the date when given the chance :2thumbsup:

 

Exactly; any normal dude would try to double the pleasure :2thumbsup:


Hotwater

 

does his family know he's gay? maybe he's trying to fake a date with your sis.

 

If it's his sister's wedding, he does not control the invitations.

It is customary to bring a date, but not 2 dates...so he is justified and you are over-reacting.

 

Man, when my friends' siblings get married, the whole group is invited. Or invites themselves. That's the way it's always been, even before it was marriages and was just...hanging out. lol. It sucks you got left out, but if it's a situation where they can only have so many people, then there's not a lot you can do. It sounds like your sister is somewhat closer to your friend than you are. You can try to make an attempt to change that, or you can focus your time on a friend who has time for you as well.

 

I was just going to say; having gay friends is the move...for guys, too.

 

If you talk like that around them, I'd say thats why you didnt get invited

 

obviously i dont talk like that around them.
but they compare themselves to will and grace anyway so i would really just be agreeing with them.

and yeah his family knows hes gay

i understand the whole thing like he might only be allowed one guest or whatever, but i know his whole family and his sister and its not like my sister knows his family better or anything, i would have thought if they were inviting either of us they would have invited both of us

 

Oh dear god do they, cringe

A) If its her that mainly says stuff like that and he just agrees with her, then my money is on your sister being the one that made this rule

B) If he's the one that says stuff like that, then my money is on fake gay and he wants to get her hammered and shag her when you aint around

 

hes defintely not fake gay
my sister just doesnt have any other friends at school so she only hangs out with him. and they both sorta say stuff like that. but my sister is weird, like she likes to have her friends separate from mine, so she doesnt like to include me in what they do if she can help it

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

maybe you are invited by the family if you are as close with them as you think. but maybe he's only allowed one date and lots of friends are getting left out. weddings are expensive, and it's not up to him.

 

JUST TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL! It ain't complicated. Be sincere and say you were a little hurt by not being invited to his wedding and everything. Not to make him feel bad, just ask to see his answer. He may be completely oblivious to how you are feeling right now, and he may even think it was assumed you were invited to at least the wedding. Talk to him and just be honest and sincere. Good luck.

 

^^^his sister's wedding