Found dead man. Need help coping..

this thread coulda helped you...

http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showthread.php?threadid=413870

 

After WW kayaking for a number of years I would have to say finding a body is my second biggest fear other than losing my own life. Pretty much every year 5 or more people are pulled from the Potomac near me. I think about this all the time. Never boat alone people.

 

To find a dead person is like a punch in the face because --there it is- right in front of you-it's how you'll be some day-- hopefully later. Fortunately our brains have the capacity to forget the horrible incidents that take place around us/around the world, on a daily basis. People would be suicidal without the ability to move on from such constant reminders of our mortality. Time will heal this mostly up.

 

sorry to bring it back up, but let me just say that im sorry that you were the one to find it, i would probably have the same kind of reaction as you, i cant imagine anyone would be ok with finding a body, and if they werent at all upset about it then they have serious problems, no amount of internet or television desensitizing can prepare you for the dead body of another person right there in front of you. sorry bro

 

I've seen two people die of heart attacks. The one was my great uncle when I was 3; me and my grandma saw him on his morning walk and we were waving at him, luckily he was walking down the street away from us; but that's pretty rough.

The other was an old bicyclist on Centre Ave., me and two friends were stoned as hell, so we got away from there as fast as we could.
Both times left me feeling shocked and numbed afterwards; but I was not up very close either time.

Over time it will fade and get buried, just like any memory. And there could even be some positive outcomes, such as helping you to appreciate life more or care for others' well-being more.
But it sucks.

PS - I almost never watch the news but heard this story =P

 

i guess everybody heard about it. idk how. they just did somehow. but yeah its helping me appreciate life a lot more. its already been buried thats why i hate even talking about it anymore because then i have to think about it again, but thanks for all the support everybody

 

Sorry to hear about that man. I hope you're feeling a bit better by now. Did they ever figure out the cause of death?

 

Aw dude, I'm sorry you're having such a rough time and sorry if asking about it has fucked with your head. I hope you can come to terms with it, and don't take them not thanking you the wrong way, though, I'm sure they're probably having a pretty hard time themselves. Maybe with time you can feel more at ease. *hugs*