Someone very close to me recently opened up about a lot of problems they've been having. One particular thing that I'm really having trouble understanding is they told me (they are 22 years old) they often poop in places other than the toilet (their pants, a garbage pail etc) and have even tried eating it sometimes. I've tried to do some research but I'm just not sure what's going on... They are going to seek help and have plans to get therapy, but I'm just very curious and concerned. Serious input would be appreciated.
i've always associated any kind of poop fetish (not neccessarily a sexual fetish) with the need to be degraded or to degrade others. maybe it has something to do with that?
That was my first thought. I've been trying so hard to help but I'm concerned the problems go deeper than I may ever know. This is someone I've been dating for over three years and I just feel so confused. All of a sudden one day I was bombarded with all of these confessions and I feel like I don't even know the person who was my best friend for so long. I don't know how to handle this ... on so many levels. I'm trying to be selfless and focus on getting her better but it just fucks with my head.
oh the fact that you're dating puts a whole new spin on it, makes it harder for you to take a step back and view the situation without emotion....maybe it would be beneficial for you to go to therapy with her to try to understand her problems. best of luck with everything, sounds like a pretty tough situation to be in.
Well, we've decided to take a break during this time, but we still talk quite a bit and see each other so, to be honest, there's not much difference. Thank you for your input, I really do appreciate it. This sucks.
We've discussed it and she says she honestly doesn't know why she does it but the one thing she's sure of is that it's not a sexual thing.
It could be a form of OCD, OCD is not always what one thinks of, such as washing hands, perfect organization and so on. OCD manifests it's self in different ways, an example is I self injure and some people treat that as a form of OCD, there are many more.
i have run across this before. it is called, lanent lycanthropy. in other words, "undeveloped werewolfism...i bullshit you not! i used to belong to a goth group, over at msn groups, before msn closed down there groups. we had two members of the group who were a couple. they both claimed they were real werewolfs and, they did this same type of stuff and, they never understood what was going down with themselves or, how they could not control it either. they ment each other on the web and, after they ment each other in person; they both had their first transformation into werewolfs during the next full moon. only then did they understand what was going down for all those years before their first transformation... yeah, right, whatever. it is one crazy world, with alot of strange people on it. i'm in agreement with meliai here. think seeing a psychologist about this is the best corse of action. it is hard for me or anyone else here to tell you what is going down with her and what you and her should do about it. she needs to see someone who has experence with this type of stuff. it would also be good if you went with her to see the psychologist.
FUCK GOOGLE AND WIKIPEDIA! THEY ARE TOO SUPERFICIAL FOR RESEARCH ON SOMETHING AS COMPLEX AS THIS! uke: i do research all the time in my job. if your going to do research on coprophagy and coprophilia use infospace and answers.com. :2thumbsup: here are the links to both websites. www.infospace.com www.answers.com
sounds like your ex gf would be Freud's dream patient, Its literally an anal fixation. If you think psychoanalysis holds any weight Freud thought we go through various stages as infants that can later manifest in various ways as adults and reveals certain personality traits. Based on what I know of this theory it would say your gf is messy and defiant.
Isn't that a sign of a personality disorder? The only reason i say this is cause my GF used to babysit this kid that would smear shit on stuff and he was diagnosed with a personality disorder. maybe something to look into.
Thanks for the help. She recently admitted that it goes farther and when she has a particularly bad day she'll "touch it" or play with it and she has confessed to eating it. I honestly don't know if I can handle this....
It could be, when I was younger I was babysat with a kid who used to smear shit on the walls of the babysitter's washroom. Occasionally he'd also invite his brother in with him and play with both their genitals. Pretty sure that's a little more than a compulsive disorder. At least in the case of the kid I knew. I met him later though when he was a teenager and he seemed to turn out alright, he was really nice and friendly. He could have been a pervert in his spare time though, I don't know. Perhaps he was just a messed up child and grew out of it. I'm pretty sure he and his brother had a really shitty (seriously, no pun intended) home life.
Man, like said above at least she is honest with you about it. The kid my GF baby sat would do this when he got in trouble, or if didn't get what he wanted he will would usually do something with his shit when he went to the bathroom. She used to talk about it all the time. I forget why but apparently the kids parents would tell her everything the psychiatrist would tell them. There was a specific reason he would do it, or at least a pattern relating to his emotional state. He has/had many other symptoms though, . Such as lighting fires, breaking things, hurting small animals and other kids, lying about everything, etc. I have also heard this is a sign of being molested as a child, but i am not a doctor. I wish you the best with this, i would recommend getting her some kind of help from a psychologist/psychiatrist.
No, I didn't catch her thankfully she just confided in me. She is seeing a therapist, which is good. As bad as this sounds, I'm concerned about myself in this situation as well. I feel like the person I dated for 3+ years doesn't exist. She does lie a lot, I'm probably no exception and she's been through a lot of shit, she's really fucked up. I love her more than I ever thought possible and want to stick with her but I'm worried that she's going to end up fucking me over just because she's just not .. right. This whole situation just fucking blows. We had a very close, probably too dependent, relationship and then one day she confesses all this shit to me, breaks up with me so she can "get well" (but at the same time strings me along saying she doesn't want to see other people and she knows when she's well we'll be back together blahblahblah) but she hardly talks to me. She used to be the person I'd go to for everything and now she's just gone. She always makes up these fucking excuses as to why she's busy, like I don't notice it's EVERY DAY. I don't know whether she's trying to do this for MY benefit (she's mentioned "disappearing" so she doesn't have to put me through all the shit that comes with her recovery) or whether she just doesn't want me anymore. Sorry to rant. You guys have really been very helpful.
