a boy in my school makes me die every time i look at him or talk to him

guys please i need help ,

i dont want to tell him that i am gay or i love him or something , but i just want this feeling i get every time i talk to him or sit next to him or even look at him ,i want this feeling to stop ,

i think some of you guys knows that straing feeling ,
i dont know how to explain the feeling i get ,
its like i looooove him but at the same time i want him to die in a bad way

i think its jealousy

how can i stop this feeling ? it kills i cant stop thinking of him ​

 

Ya can't get rid of it like turning off a switch or something...if you're 16 you're the right age for crushs either boy or girl...it's part of your age and development. It's totally OK to have these kinda feelings. If you don't think the guy is cool with guy to guy relationships then don't hit on him...it'll be awkward for both of you. If you could be friends without getting into a sexual relationship that might be good. And if you were really lucky he might feel just like you do and you could fuck each other till you were blind and silly. If nothing else he can be the star of your fantasy when you wax your weasel. Just remember that what you are goung through right now...your feelings of love and lust...completely normal at your age

 

Went through that, for sure. Still in love in some ways with the guy...

yarapario is right, and once you're out of high school and you have time away from him things will get easier. =)

 

I agree that these feelings are normal for a 16 year old, and that if you think the guy might reciprocate your feelings you should totally go for it. However, being friends may not be the best idea if you really feel this strongly about him. Especially if he's not interested in you in that way. Being friend may just end up hurting you more in the end.

If you really don't want to approach him about it, the best suggestion I have is to find someone else to be gaga over. Someone who you think will probably feel the same way you do.

 

Probably just a jealousy thing, or it could be like you admire him, but you are afraid to admit it to yourself. Hope this helps!

 

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However, being friends may not be the best idea if you really feel this strongly about him. Especially if he's not interested in you in that way. Being friend may just end up hurting you more in the end.


Yeah this part is true for the most part. However there were a few times when I had a major crush thing going on with some straight kid and knew nothing would ever happen except blue balls. I ended up kinda being friends with them and in time the infatuation went away but the friendship held...but you are risking heartache for sure.

 

we are friends .
but i dont think that this suffering will end just because we are friends
i think it will get stronger and stronger
and even if i found somone else . this strange feeling i have for him wont end

 

well nerox, maybe, just maybe, your fates is just bad... You cant stop love him and he isn't gay (he isn't right?) so you guys will never workout... However if you tell him your feelings he might become angry and stop talking to you but you may also fell better for put a end in the story... OR he might be cool and tell you that he don't like guys.

Anyway I think that anything would be better than suffer alone even if you still suffering, but that its up to you.

By the way, sorry my poor english

 

i don't think you should throw away the friendship. a little pain in this life won't hurt. you'll get over it, and in the end you'll be glad you conserved the friendship.

i can't really say what i would do in your situation as i don't live in Syria, and as much as i know homosexuality is illegal in your country, so you have to be careful about that as well. i'm not really aware how risky it is over there to talk about homosexuality, otherwise i would give a different kind of advice, but seeing as i'm not familiar with the conditions of gays living in Syria i'm not gonna do that. you just have to use your common sense, read the situations and people carefully and do what you think is best.

 

dude , homosexuality is not against the law i mean if you are gay the law cant do anything about it

but its the society that will hate you ,,lol

so gays doesnt say that they are gay people here , and talking about homosexuality is not risky ,,

so please say your advice its ok ,, please help

and by the way , i am now posting from the internet cafe , because it not risky ,,

 

well, you hear all kinds of horror stories coming from that area general, so you never know what it's like unless you live there. it's good to hear it's not that risky for you there. it's awful to read about people being thrown into jail and getting tried or even executed for just being gay.

i didn't really have anything specific i was thinking about. i already gave my strongest opinion on this--that you shouldn't give up the friendship. and i don't know if you're even close friends or just casual kind of friends. if he's truly a person you consider being a 'friend' you could try to open up the subject of homosexuality and gays somehow, to see what his opinion on all this is. it might become much easier for you to interact with him once you get his angle on this subject.

 

no, people doesnt go to jail because they are gay, they go to jail if the police knew that they had sex .

thanks for your advice .i will keep the friendship between me and him . its not a strong friendship we are just new friends not so close

and i will try to talk to him about homosexuality to see whats his opinion...

i liked this advice and i will do it ..
but should i tell him now or when we become alittle closer ?

because we are still new friend

 

well, that's what i meant when i said 'homosexuality being illegal'. i know it's not the fact of being gay that gets you thrown into jail, but being caught in bed with another man. that's the proof for it. they can't throw you into jail until they have evidence that you are a homosexual. sex with another man is that evidence.

yeah, i would wait till and if you become close friends. if you bring this subject up now out of the blue it will look weird, not to mention it will give you away.

 

yup, close friend is the first step.

 

I think time will help it.

 

I have a similar crush on someone who came to the car wash I work at. His name is Jordan and he's 47. I'm 38 and can't get Jordan out of my mind.