I Am Back, But A Little Less Gay Than Before

So I have come to the realization, since the last time I was here, that I am not gay but bisexual. I still find myself more attracted to men, but there is something there for the ladies now as well.

I find that when I am ascertaining my level of attraction to a man, it is moreso based on looks. I am not superficial, but this is just my first impression. When I'm looking at a guy for the first time, I look more at what I find sexually attractive.
However, when I am doing the same with a female, I find myself looking more at how she carries herself. Little inklings into what her personality will be like, once I get to know her a little better.

I wonder why this is.

 

I had a good friend that was Bi, it confused me at first. When we meet he was dating a pretty little blond gal and then the next time we ran across each other he was with a guy which confused the hell out of me because at the time in my mind you were either gay or straight. As we became better friends I asked him about it.

The way he explained it to me was that to him it was more who the person was as opposed to what sex they were. It took some time and alot of patience on his part but it finally made sense. I've since lost touch with him which is a shame because he was one of the nice's most caring person I ever knew.

 

You're versatile =P

 

Haha. Yeah. I meant why I look for different first impression appeal in the different sexes

 

Love The Title Of The Thread, Made Me Smile....



Cheers Glen.

 

One way of looking at it is that a couple years back you probably where bi-er than you are now, cos you probably did try seek out guys for feelings and relationships as well as sex.

What you are saying there is that nowadays that you grade guys sexually, ie just objectify them, whereas the girls its more about how she carries herself - her status or her personality, feelings, views - you know all that gay shit

Keep going that way, only bothering with guys that give you a stiffy, solely objectifying them,compacted over time, and you might find the opposite happens, you end up gayer than ever before

Some girl you think you are into sees that with her you'd rather sit down over a cup of coffee and talk about your feelings and hopes for the future ,then sees your ears go red when the hot waiter smiles at you - well she aint going to go by the labels, the shit that comes out of your mouth, she's going to go by your actions

And even if that label wasnt up to what everyone else sees, it still aint up to you, its up to what makes Mr Happy....the most happy

 

I'm beginning to view homosexuality as an 'ability' rather than a 'persuasion'.

I was thinking about this:

Imagine if gay sex was an identical experience to both a 'straight' and a 'gay' person
The only difference being that gay people had a more thorough psychological constitution which could endure the fears that a straight person couldn't.

Now, I'm not a homo-supremacist....but..
oh wait I am.
nvm =P