Is it Is it Possible to Fall in Love with Someone here on Hip Forums?

I'm sure there's been success. I met a girl last year in HipChat, and I never even considered the idea of having deep feelings for someone you talk to online, until it just clicked, and it was mutual between us. We let the cat out of the bag, talked all the time. She was in So Cal I am in NY ... We met in person a few months after our infatuation, in Detroit, while she was visiting family. My dad drove me, and my parents knew full well of the choice I was making being involved with her. I figured they were skeptical, and I'm sure they were without telling me, but they knew it would only be right to let us figure it out in person. I was so nervous, and have been of low confidence my whole life, but we hung out all over the Detroit area for a day and two nights. I mean it went surprisingly well! It was really fun, affectionate, and heartfelt....

However I was having psychological/emotional issues with the whole thing a month into even talking to her. There was a period when none of it seemed real, but we got into Video chatting like all night every night and most of the day, and I gotta say that was probably some of the funnest part of it. Videochatting with her all the time. I just think it was too much for my mind/heart to really take in, and have faith in, and even though I wanted it all to work out so badly because I knew I truly loved her, I had never been in love let alone with someone all the way across the country. That's not what ended it though.... I think we just had too many differences despite all that we had in common. She was becoming a very devout christian and had a very strong morale based in her past experiences with love. I think because of that she really thought about it, and didn't want to go after something that wasn't going to be forever, and I wasn't Christian. I supported and grew to view Christianity as very positive, except the idea of there being one savior, and only one true path to god. And this was something she insisted on, so it bothered me greatly, and I will admit it bothered me so much I would bother her with it constantly, and was never going to fully accept Christianity. But I still think that perspective is wrong, despite being kind to people, she was still going to see me and anyone not a follower of Christianity as lost souls. I think she became really attached to the Christianity thing at the same time I became really bothered with the implications it had in her feelings towards me. So it all ended in childish arguments, that I was greatly responsible for inciting, but she also would keep it bottled in that her feelings were changing.

I mean I don't know why I'm ranting on about this. I think the internet could bring two people together in true love, successfully in the long term as well, but it's not going to work every time. And a lot of when I look back on the whole experience, it contributed nothing to my confidence, because it seems such a foolish thing being in love with someone so far away, and try to plan a life on it, and it turning out to be a sort of sympathetic love from her. In fact the fall out happened so quick after we met in person (2 weeks) that when I found out she was involved with someone back home, It seemed pretty obvious that started a little before we met in person.

I mean remembering it all is kind of sad, or pathetic rather. I really feel pathetic about it, because I've never shared love with anyone successfully, and the one time I sort of did it seemed pitiful. It seemed like a girl involved with an attractive boy, and gave what pitiful love she could due to how pathetic and weak of a person I seemed to be to such a strong christian.

That is totally just my personal experience, I've read true stories of success even on other hipforum threads. I'm certain love can happen anytime and anyway if you let it.

I don't let it, and sometimes I question if my whole experience has set me back with relationships and love, and I think it has, because it definitely has not contributed anything, even though it could have. Failure is as failure does, and it crashed, and crashed hard, nothing was salvageable. Quite soon after the failing of the relationship, I also experienced ego death for the first time, and emotionally had a falling out from myself, and in that period of time I learned the most I could about the depth of my soul that I ever could...

But I wouldn't say any of that helps me today.

 

I met a guy on here about 5 or so years ago and we eventually started talking on the phone almost nightly pretty quickly. I was in NC at the time and he was in upstate NY. I moved in with him and the relationship lasted about 6-7 months and we are still friends, although due to some chaos in each of our lives, it has been a couple of months since we last talked.

Met my first bf online (but we actually lived very close to each other so even though we met online, we were able to do the face to face thing easily) and we were together for almost 2 years. Didn't find him on this site though.

Anyway, the thing is, any medium that allows likeminded individuals to meet up and exchange idea and opinions is ripe for flirtation. Especially online, where people feel like they can be more "true to themselves" than they have to be irl. The degree of anonymity the internet provides lets people put themselves out there in a way the real world and real situations hinder. I have never looked for love online, but I have found it. I have found it without the aid of the internet too.

Currently there is someone on here that I am crazy about. We msg each other daily (when schedules permit) and have video chats occasionally. Sometimes we talk for hours at a time. He lives very far away, which really sucks, but I would absolutely love the opportunity to visit him, just to see if what we have online would translate to "real" life. Recently I had a guy hit on me and try very hard to get my number whilst drinking at a bar with a friend of mine. I didn't give it to him nor did I encourage his flirtation simply because I didn't feel right about it. The simple truth is, whether it's crazy or not, my heart already belongs to someone and there's no way around it. He is smart, funny, kind and sexy, the attraction is definitely there. It just happens to be online and that doesn't invalidate the emotions involved.

 

I met my boyfriend on a website early last year. I moved here, in Kansas, from Georgia to live with him a few months later. We've had a few rough times, some more than others, but I've never regretted it. I've seen and done things that I would have never gotten to do had I not met him. He and his family are more like family to me than my own choses to be.

So yes, it's absolutely possible.

 

I love all tour girls & hippie chicks hell yeah, & of course the sex is amazing

 

i've met people online and dated them before, never on here though. it seems like there's no one here that lives nearby lol.

 

I've done long distance from meeting people online before/keeping intouch online but it never worked. If someone lived close to me, say less than an hour's train ride, they were gorgeous and we had everything in the world incommon, then yea, I'd certainly consider it. It's just when people start relationships overseas or long distance. I have little faith in those, just due to my own experience. But if people want to start super long distance things that's up to them.

 

"I Saw Othello's Visage in His Mind (1.3.253)" - Desdemona (Othello)

I believe it can happen, but I need physical contact and I don't think any relationship online would last long for me. Friendships are good though, and should it work out that two people come together, then great

 

yeah.. but as soon as you do,,, they get banned..

 

Don't you have a wife? lol

 

i think it makes more sense to fall in love with someone over hipforums than dating websites. Here you get an idea of someone's personality, their personal philosophy, their morals, their life goals, all without the pressure that a dating site would put on people.

I think online dating is a little bit like playing roulette though. you can have everything in common with someone but you never know until you meet them if theres chemistry there. A friend of mine talked to a guy online for two years and thought she was in love with him, but when he finally flew out to meet her there was zero physical attraction there. Thats gotta be a letdown.

 

Of course its possible for it to happen... It happens all the time...

However, just look around and see how many people pride themselves on being a different person online then they are in real life.

If you can meet someone who is real, and who they portray themselves to be online, then yes, it not only can happen, but it is likely to be a better relationship then any started in the typical fashion (bar hookup and the like)...

 

I met my husband on a facebook application version of hot or not! haha Totally not mine or his thing but luck and randomness brought us together.. from opposite sides of the world.

 

Nice Post, I Wish You Both All The Happiness In The World....:love:



Cheers Glen.

 

i met someone through a prank call once when i was 16. he dialed my house randomly and talked to my mom while i listened in on another extension. I thought he was so funny i *69ed him and we ended up meeting and dating. If that can work, internet relationships can work.

 

Wow, you did that within 10 minutes of knowing him. My kinda woman!

 

lol i was going to say, i *69ed him and then I just 69ed him. but that would have been a lie, i was a prudish 16 year old lol.

 

Is #69 The Callback # Where You Live..?..



Cheers Glen.

 

It is here.

 

it is indeed..maybe i should have clarified that lol

 

It's 1471 here. Not that interesting.