feeling depressed cuz Im not in a band

ok so I really love music. And I WANT to be in a band. but it just never happened. I spent all of my highschool years plucking away at the guitar, 13 hours a day at times, and yes. I got very good. but was never in a band, so it seems like it was all just for nothing. it just depresses me how many songs and riffs i wrote that were meant to be played in a band that never manifested. the only performances I ever had were playing with highschools band at the talent show... i just feel very unaccomplished in that manner, and just feel down seeing as im already 18 and my days of being a teen musician are almost over. I was in the local punk scene for a while, but just as a showgoer not a musician. that just makes it worse, seeing all these musicians in bands. it just made me incredibly jealous.I don't even care what it is. crusty ska core, or folk, I just want to be active in music. It's who I am! I love music! I'm finding out it is really who I am! but like solo stuff? ok first off, playing my mando by myself is boring and dry. acoustic guitar? fingerstyle? too tricky. I just want to be in a band! i either want to be in a crusty skacore band or a bluegrass/folk band. only problem... I SUCK at meeting people, so I just don't know how to meet musicians out there...

 

hmm....go to a local show, compliment a musician on his playing, and ask if he wants to jam sometime? he might have the time to get a second band started or introduce you to someone who also wants to get a band started.

 

Seriously man, you need to stop it with this shit...

Your life is up to YOU to change... nobody else can help you....

Look at what you said about music;

You already know what it takes to get better at something... apply that same idea to making friends... Of course you suck at it... you rarely try to do it... If you spent half the time you spent plucking on your guitar, getting out and meeting peole, you wouldn't have these problems...

Hell, if you spent 10% of the time you spend on bitching about not having friends trying to make some, you wouldn't have this problem.

I am curious though about something you said...

Think about what this says... You didn't learn music because you love it... you didn't learn it because it helps you find out who you are... You did it, JUST to be in a band apparently...

Is that right?

 

no. i started playing guitar because i loved it. just for the music. its only recently that I'm wondering where it ever got me

 

Then remember that when you start thinking it was for nothing...

 

Why don't you play some live solo gigs for now? The bay area should have tons of places you should be able to play. Maybe some people will approach you if you're good.

 

This is unrelated sorry, but I couldn't help but notice that you say you're 18 and your age under your avatar says 28...

 

:guitarist::rockon: You'll find a band!

 

You don't have to be a teenager y'know..

 

Man, I've known you pretty well over the years, and you're always jealous and wanting something you don't have and others do...Soo Bad...especially sex. I know, because it's caused you much perversion, and this sort of behavior. To be honest it's thinking like this that gets you jack fucking shit, and probably rips things away from you. I know I am in a similar situation, I can't get girls, relationships, pussy whatever...I also wanted an organized group of friends doing music because I had those friends, but nothing ever manifested. But still I play my guitar virtually every other minute, and find fulfillment out of creating my own music and playing others'. If you can't find similar fulfillment through just playing then I don't know what the fuck. You need a spiritual overhaul, and frankly this shit pisses me off because you remind me of the worst aspects of myself, especially on a dreary day such as this. Excuse me for being harsh, but I have been open to you regardless of such bullshit, like harassing the chat room, and even harassing the girl I was in love with last year.

I'm not the most mentally healthy person, but it's pretty clear you need to wipe the slate clean, and start with what you do fucking have. I have at least been able to do that and come to terms with my shortcomings, and I assure you it's not that hard. It only asks you pay attention to what already is...and once you've put yourself through enough bullshit, sat in enough dark rooms begging for death, and pouring tears of self pity in the wide abyss you can say fuck it, and chill out.

 

Also since I have no life, I'm always around to talk to, if you want another long dark haired freak outcast to vent to.

 

wow. please be my friend plant head

 

oh I didn't make clear...I was MokshaMedicine

edited and hopefully a mod doesnt find this, just thought I'd let you know

 

hopefully a mod doesn't find this? why would that matter if they did? there's nothing in violation with this thread

 

RAAAAAAAAGE

just fucking do it.

as gay as Nike is, their slogan is fucking awesome

JUST DO IT
who gives a fuck?

go be some weird dude on the streets. weird attracts attention. just be friendly while youre at it.

 

and your days of being a college musician are just beginning. assuming you're going to college. if not it will be slightly harder to find a band, but still very doable.

 

im in college. freshman year

 

You Tube my man!!!!!!!