Hi all, I have a bit of a situation. Well, me and my GF have been seeing eachother for around 10 months. We've seen eachother everyday since we've been going out. Recently my grandfather had been taken into hospital with a serious chest infection, so i'v been going to see him often. I never ever go out with my friends, and it just happens that it was my friends 19th birthday yesterday, so I said I'd go out with them, which I did. My GF didn't like that at all, & she got really annoyed, saying that I didn't care for her & that I don't give a second thought about her. This is the woman I've been spending the last 300 days approx with. So I tell her I'm still going out, I never go out. She dumps me. So I go out & she goes out, which I don't mind. But she goes out with the lad that she cheated on me with a long time ago. I found that out thismorning, and I also found out that my grandfather passed away thismorning also. She now wants to get back with me & fix things, but I don't know what I want, my head is all over the place now, and she's pressuring me to make a decision. I'm in need of some advice, what should I do?
Sorry for your grandfather, best wishes xoxo! As for your ex-GF, if you want to actually move further down the live with this girl, you need to talk to her. Tell her, you need your own time, and she needs hers. Your time with your friends, family and on your own. If she throws a fit, stay single. A healthy relationship needs time apart. I cant believe you saw her EVERYDAY for 10 months, thats crazy. Im supsrised you two didnt rip heads off. Anyway, she threw a fit over you seeing your family and friends, thats not right. Dont get pushed by her, it needs to be 50/50.
Aaaaaaaa-MEN! I had a GF that cheated on me once. And that was the last time she did. I didn't hit him or her or cuss him or her or yell at him or her or anything like that. I just up and washed my hands of her. See her in public, and I just look away and keep walking. When she tried to talk to me, I walked away. I found out that was the best thing to do for me to keep my sanity, to keep from wanting to do some really bad things to both of them, and also it affected her the most. If you cuss or hit or yell, she gets a reaction. Something she wants so she can justify what she did to me. But no contact means no response. It's hard to do, but it is best.
I am sorry that you have lost your Grandfather. I hope all the good memories that you have bring you comfort. Maybe now is not the time to worry about the other things. Instead focus on you and your family and deal with mourning and then decide what you wish to do with everything else. Sometimes a clear mind makes better decisions.
You're 18 and you spend every day with your girlfriend? A couple of 10 kgs weights, a metre or so of rope, and a couple of milk crates, that should help you grow a pair
sorry for your loss... my best advice on the GF, just get back together for now. it'll be less stress during the next week or two...once you get beyond everything thats happening within your family and you have a clear head then deal with her. if you'll find strength in her right now, have her there for sure. Decide what to do later down the road. Sounds like your having a rough time, deal with one thing at a time.
Sorry to hear about your grandfather man. As for the broad, screw her. She sounds very needy. Some woman (and men) can play bullshit head games, especially at your age. Hang out with your friends. Any hussy who cheated on you obviously doesn't respect you, so what would it say about you if you just accepted it and put up with it?
LOL! Nearly all teenagers are stuck up, arrogant, thinking they need to teach us older folk about life. Crap like who's tough, who's the best, who's bad, who knows it all. Blah fucking blah. Fucking kids. When I was a kid, WE were better by a long shot. We were the best. We were the baddest. We did know ieverything. And now we have these "teeny boppers" coming here trying to show us a new game or two? Wait a minute, that doesn't compute....... :guitarist:
Why do you want to get back with her? Do you want more of this treatment? If so, she sounds like the gal to give it to you, and I heartily support you getting back together. If you don't like being treated like that, then she's not the woman you're looking for.
Don't rush back into things! If she is worth having, she will wait for you to get through this time of loss. She is the one who fucked up and if she doesn't understand that your going through shit right now and need time to think, she really isn't worth your time. If she is willing to be there for you any way she can for the time being and wait for your life to calm down, then she is a keeper.
Thanks for all of your replies guys & gals. I do love her. She was with me through it, but now she's going back over, and starting to not care when we fall out, not listen etc... I'm stuck, I don't know what i'd do without her, but I'm starting to live an unhappy life & expect to be unhappy when she calls or when I go over.
"I don't know what I'd do without her," + "I'm unhappy when I'm with her," = You'll be happier without her. Everybody loses people in life man, there's no getting around it really. You're young, you should be enjoying yourself and having fun, being with friends, etc. You have your entire 30s-60s to be with a woman who makes you unhappy on a daily basis, at least enjoy your youth.
Damned if you do and damned if you don't. We've all been there, or most of us anyway. If you told her to take a hike today, you might be miserable for a while but I promise you, before you know it you'll be fine. Your young and have your whole life ahead of you, enjoy it while you can.
