trust

Is it possible, after someone has cheated on you, to ever trust them again?

 

in a nutshell, no.

but if you've built a life with a person sometimes its worth it to at least try.

understanding the reason for cheating can also go a long way in regaining trust. Some people cheat because they just want to experience somebody new. Others cheat because they are not receiving some kind of emotional or physical need with the person they are with. I think it would be easier to forgive the latter than the former. If its a need that you weren't meeting, then changes can be made and trust could perhaps be built again.

 

well basically we were rowing, and my partner thought that i was cheating (which i was'nt) instead of talking he decided to cheat on me. it's very hard to get past! but i would like to try?!?!

 

I think there is something deeper than cheating in your particular scenario. The fact that he distrusted you for no reason, that he cheated on you out of spite. These things speak volumes about his character. Is he really worth it?

 

yeah i know what you are saying.. well i have been with him since i was 16. i am now nearly 20. we have alot of history. i must think he is worth it if i am wanting it to work. i always said if i was cheated on then i wouldnt give that person another chance, but now it has happened it's different. i have never cheated so i cant get my head around why he would do it to me?

 

always give a second chance imo.
express whatever you're feeling to him too.

 

No, I don't think so.

 

a person that has cheated CAN be trusted again..

...just never by the person they cheated on[or with]

 

if you want to

 

Are you sure of this?

To the OP: Why did he think you were cheating after being faithful for 4 years?

 

there's always amnesia.

 

How did you find out he cheated on you? He told you?

 

i'm not to sure.. we drifted apart for a while and was arguing.. so i use to go to my dads sometimes to get away from it, and i think he might of thought i was going somewhere else?!

 

And no yazzz the other woman told me and then he admitted it.....

 

Yeah so he wasn't going to tell you. I personally wouldn't ever trust anyone after the initial lying - I know this cause I couldn't get over some lies in the past and that wasn't even to do with cheating...

My advice is move on. Remember that one day you're going to meet the guy of your dreams and he's going to look at your past (if you tell him... in my opinion stuff about past relationships always ends up coming up eventually) and be like "what kind of self-esteem does this girl have that she would put up with that from a guy"

 

ok thank you for everyones input