I slowly feel my old lady and I drifting apart We have been together for 6 years now and have been through a lot together. Now we moved back to her hometown (Miami) and I don't have any friends or family here. I feel us slowly drifting apart. Its sad, but the thing is I'm not sure if I want it to happen or not.
I definitely know how the moving away from all your friends feels, I felt pretty lost when my boyfriend and I got to california. I still do, but eh
I would agree with The Imaginary Being and try talking to her about it. Have you tried to find ways to reconnect with her?
The beginning of any move will be hard. Especially meeting new people. Don't get down, get out and meet more people If things don't get better and you've given it your best shot, then definitely talk to your lady. You two seem cute together, I hope whatever your decision that you're happy with it. Best of luck.
I feel this way because we never have sex anymore, we never talk to each other, she never helps me out with anything ever meaning around the house or the little things that count, I feel like I'm doing all the work. You guys are right though, I need some more friends, but I don't trust anyone enough to make new friends (I'm kinda paranoid because I've been fucked over so many times before). Has anyone else been through this before?
Can't say I have. But you recognize that it's a problem for you to make friends. Although it may be hard, making friends can be one of the most rewarding experiences and I encourage you to try. Have you mentioned your peeves to your girlfriend? Does she know you feel this way?
May I ask more about your situation? You said that you just moved to her home town.. How long were you together? Where were you guys before? Was it a very different environment? Were you living together before? How long have these troubles been going on? How soon did they start after moving there?
We have been together for 6 years. We just moved to Miami about 3-4 months ago from central Florida because we both lost our jobs and found new ones here in Miami. Within the last 1-2 months is when i started noticing this. The environment where we lived before was completely different, it was a hick town.
:grouphug: I have been reading for a long time and your lives have been in a state of upheaval for a while now and that tends to cause a little bit of unsettling in any relationship. A lot has happened in a short period of time. You have been through some really tough times recently and perhaps you need to find time to just be a couple again. A date night and reconnect as lovers and mates. Sometimes it is a lot of work to get back to what should be so simple. Life has a way of throwing in curves and the work you do to stay together make the curves a ride not a derailment. Take some time for the two of you and try to reconnect on that level. I hope all works out for you, you are a nice lady.
Like you, I am a bit of a loner myself. The first time I moved was pretty darn traumatic, It took a while but when I got off my butt and got interested in the community things changed dramatically - and for the better. Force yourself to do it, hun. You have an advantage in that There are lots of people coming in to the Miami area. Meet them.
Going anywhere alone here freaks me out!! I think mostly because of the language barrier, it sucks. I grew up in a tiny hick town and now that I'm in a big city it scares me, which is really strange because I was never like this before and I've lived in Tampa before.
I've been in your situation twice in my marriage and both times were times of get stress. I won't bore you with the details other then to say I know how you feel with the move, we moved across the country to be here in Florida by her family. I felt like a lost puppy, no friends, new job, no family. I even had to move away from my 2 oldest daughters. My first advice to you is to be honest with yourself, do you want to be with her and it sounds like you do. Be honest with her, tell her how your feeling. From what I gather the two of you have been thru some rough times and the move probably helped her a great deal with her stress where as it sounds like it's really just added to your's. If I remember correctly your one of the special one's that we call red head and having been with mine for 21 years I know weather she knows it or not, she has the abilitiy of letting the whole world know when she's not happy and not just by bitching which trust me she has no problem with either. I guess just be honest with her, take some time to be a couple, ask her to help you learn about Miami. Make some friends which is not something I have a very easy time with, it's easy on here but in the real world I'm a very shy person. If this is something you both want, with honesty, alittle give and take, and some work, it will all work out. Maybe not by tomorrow but it will. Good luck
I love love love Miami. To me, the difficult part about keeping a 6-year relationship going in Miami would be ignoring the hot women there, oozing and spilling from every corner. Wait, I think that goes for every other city I've ever been in.
