I like to like at me in the mirror sometimes. I'm don't think I'm the hottest guy in the world but know that I'm very attractive to many. I actually wish I were bigger, taller, etc. I would say I'm the kind of guy I would be attracted in terms of looks. If I had a clone of myself we'd fuck all the time. But I don't masturbate to me in the mirror or anything like that. Who else is a "narcissist?"
I don't see anything wrong with being happy with your looks. it's a lot better than being unhappy or fussy over little things. You don't wanna go overboard with it though... like be a jerk to others because of it or drown in your own reflection xD....but I'm sure that's not the case. I'm pretty happy with me, I just have ACNE. It's slowly going away, I can't wait. Stay in good health. take care
mirrors are great things - I have a bed with a mirror above it! nothing wrong with jacking off in front of the mirror :sunny: Simon
Liking yourself is very cool. Mentioning it to the others is less so. People are prone to misunderstandings when it comes to anything no matter how remotely related it may be to the self-praise. This is more often than not seen as some sort of arrogant selfishness. Enjoy yourself and your good looks. Just do not mention it to the others. You look good. Great! Hook up with the hottest looking dudes and let everyone else see for themselves how hott you are. These is where deeds speak so much better than words. KD
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I think you're beautiful (inside and out). :sunny: You know, Janis Joplin never considered herself beautiful. But she was. Society has a rather warped idea of beauty. Nobody (in real life) really looks as good as all those models and celebrities we see in magazines and on television. I personally prefer folks that have a more natural look. Just my 2 cents. QP
True, and that's why I consider it warped. Inner beauty is important. The rest is artificial, and cannot overcome the ravages of time. You can spend a fortune on a myriad of surgical procedures to make yourself more physically appealing. But we're all gonna get old and wrinkled. That's just life. So why fear it? Michael Jackson is an an extreme example of how artificial beauty is a mistake. He looked quite handsome while still a young man. But as he started to get older, he spent an insane amount of money to fit society's idea of beauty. And look what happened? While Janis Joplin rarely even wore make-up... let alone subjected herself to the "plastic" surgeon's knife. Michael was beautiful as is. Sadly, he became a tragic victim of what happens when we start to believe all the bogus garbage about how physical perfection is possible: As long as we are willing to spend a fortune on what boils down to a fantasy. As a gay man, I've never allowed myself to believe physical beauty is more important than a person's intelligence and personality. In fact, I frequently turned down sexual offers (during my youth), because the individual hitting on me was little more than a beautiful clone. I was always more turned on by the creative types. And they seldom (if ever) allowed fashion to dictate how they should look or dress. Yet they were beautiful. Imagine that. :sunny: QP
I think with me, its only natural to think this way. I dont think any woman would want her body to have the physical attributes of a male, so I think It'd be very weird if I had no issues with that. A lot of "normal" women are insecure about their looks and bodies, (which is something that annoys me greatly to be honest) for me, that feeling is a lot more intense, because I feel like a stranger in my own body. A woman's body should not look the way mine does, so to me my outer body isn't "me", its just a shell of flesh and blood that I walk around in every day. So with me, it really has nothing to do with wanting to look like a celebrity or a model, or even a beautiful woman. Just having a normal woman's body would be enough for me. You are very sweet though, and thank you.
I hear you, IS. :love: And I understand that what you seek... far exceeds merely wanting to be beautiful. In fact, you wish to be what you naturally feel and are: a woman. So I have no problem with surgical help - in your situation. Your wishes are far from superficial. It goes way, way deeper than that. Just know that I am on your side. But I don't think it is healthy (or realistic) for folks to buy into the whole fashion industry thing. Actually, it's more about being exploited by big business: Buy this $125 perfume/cologne, and you will instantly be loved by the world! How about these $200 designer jeans! Just slip them on, and you'll never be alone on a Saturday night! Some people actually believe this crap. When all that is truly required.... is basic hygiene and a decent pair of thrift store jeans. QP
Thank you QP. :love: The problem is, surgical help can only go so far, and most of the secondary male sex characteristics I inherited as a result of mistreatment of my condition, cannot be reversed. Im stuck with them forever. My outer body is not "me" because I am a woman, but my body has male attributes which it shouldnt have. So Ive never seen my outer physical self as "me". I dont really care about being beautiful. Being able to look like an ordinary, average, everyday woman which is what I am on the inside, is all I want. But I know it's never going to happen. I always feel a great deal of jealousy when I see women outside, because I know that's the way I should be, and it hurts that Im not. I know you are, and its really appreciated. Yep, I completely agree with you there. Ive never cared for fashion, I just wear what I feel comfortable in. I know full well no matter what clothes or perfume I wore, Id be in no way physically attractive anyway. lol I dont buy into the media portrayed version of "beauty" which I think too many people, especially women, buy into.
I'm quite narcissistic, though in the right way. It's important to love yourself- if you don't, nobody else will.
For the longest time, I hated every aspect of myself. Including my personality. The ill effects of my condition, hatred of my physical body, and being surrounded by people being very negative towards me contributed to that. I think it is possible to love yourself as a person, while hating your physical self. Because that is basically the situation Im in. I dont just hate my physical appearance because it repulses me, but also because its always prevented me (and always will prevent me) from having any of my basic needs, goals, and desires as a woman met. So I think it would actually be a bit warped and illogical, if I actually liked that aspect of myself. But I do like my inner self, it took me a long time to come to that point though.
I really hope that when you say basic needs, goals and desires that you are only talking about sex and not real life goals
Of course Im not just talking about sex. I dunno why you'd think that all my goals and needs boil down to sex. In fact, thats pretty low on the list of things Ive never had that has caused me mental distress due to it's abscence. Unless you believe that sex is the only part of a relationship that matters. I have been held back in all aspects of life, and not been able to do anything Ive really wanted. Anyway, what about sex, emotional needs, and relationships isnt real life?
I'm quite narcissistic, I have to admit. When I walk by a mirror, I stop and look. There is a full length mirror by my front door. I pose a bit, and I lift up my shirt sometimes. But It's not like I go and boast my egos on others. I just feel good about myself, and it's an air I carry around.
Sorry, this quote just sounded a little like "wahh I'll never get anywhere in life because I need a man to find me attractive to accomplish anything" When you say "any of my basic needs" I assumed you meant everything you need to survive, not just one aspect of your life. When people use the word "any" in that context one would think they meant all of their needs. My bad for being so literal
Not being able to find a loving relationship, is just one of the hardships you have to deal with, when you physically resemble, and are treated by most around you, as a gender you actually are not. I didnt mean "all" my needs, but apart from the very bare, basic essential needs, (a roof over my head, and food in my mouth) I meant everything else. And that has nothing to do with not having a man, and everything to do with having a repulsive body, and not being able to live a normal life as the gender I am.
