Fuck the Hot girl; Marry the Ugly.

This is my first ever post so go easy please
At the minute im a college student, so its kinda like being in high school when it comes to girls. The way i see it, at my current stage in life, people seem to base relationships on reputation, so girls or boys have to be good looking so they impress friends and family with the person. (This isnt what i base things on, this is what i think people base things on).

But to answer your question from a personal point of view. My answer would be a certain extent of jealousy and protectiveness. When i picture myself with a girlfriend, and i see all these guys (including me) having a good look at pretty girls, checking them out and thinking.. yeah id have sex with her etc. I think to myself, if she was my girlfriend i wouldnt want that. If all the guys were looking at my girlfriends breasts and thinking that about her, id be fighting all the time, argueing with her over it and getting annoyed and feeling insecure about other guys being around her. Also, with something someone else said, we think they can do better and will do better at the first chance they get. So thats why id personally go for a little under average - average looking girl rather than an over average girl.

 

Well i would say check out my post but you already have :] Its that whole lacking respect for themselves thing. If they stand for nothing they fall for anything. Its also a maturity thing. Girls that spend their lives in that fantasy modeling crap dont understand the real world in general. They think theyre above all and that they deserve more. Im not saying ALL of them. But i think you know what i mean. Im only 21. Definitely NOT thinking about getting married yet but if i did i would rather have a girl thats soooo down to earth and can be honest with me and themselves than the most beautiful material girl in the world. Its real. And its true the pretty ones are fun to fuck but its hard to respect them and have a real love connection with them when they fail to respect themselves. ITS THE BEAUTY ON THE INSIDE LMAO.

 

Some women tend to do the same thing. They marry the not-as-good-looking guy who is stable, has a good job and who will probably make a good provider and father. Some cheat later on because they may be bored with their normal, average husband who works too much or whatever.

It's just natural to want someone who will be a good parent, a good provider, and a good partner.

Often (not always) really good looking people can be arrogant and vain, because they know they're good looking. But try having a conversation with them, many tend to point out the flaws of others.

Many know the attention they get and that in itself inflates the ego. Humble people are easier to live with in general.


One thing I've always found funny is the idea that "good looking" people are more sexually desirable.

The idea that a person will be better in bed because they're good lookling.

They might be easier to look at, or more attractive to see, but that's about it.

 

I don't think just because you've noticed a pattern with a group of your friends that the rest of the world works that way. Men don't cheat on their wives just because their wives "let themselves go" it's also because they love attention from multiple women and don't necessarily want to give up having sex with other people and the whole sneaky other women thing is appealing to some. There are lots of different reasons. Maybe someone you might view as ugly is actually alot deeper and has more in common with these guys. Just because someone is beautiful doesn't mean they have everything going for them. It's naive to believe that because you're sexy that you are above women who have great characteristics. Because this "let themselves go" thing doesn't have to be permanent. It's better that they marry someone who is everything they want and just has a little extra fat on their ass that they can work off at a gym later then to marry someone who is nothing but a shell of an individual, mascara and foundation. Anyways, I don't think the world works this way. I see alot of people who marry beautiful women not just because they're beautiful but because they're kind, considerate and what they want in a person.

 

Relating all these posts that men posted. They rather be with a regular girl with mainly a good, and down to earth personality. Hello? You already set your look standards, which is average, thats so sad! I find it low how some men claim good-looking females are more "cocky" in terms or because they themself have jealousy issues. Might as well use your looks to your advantages now before its gone!

 

yeah but then what happens when its gone.

 

stop being cocky

 

I've experienced this also. Until recently I had beautiful thick hair to my waist. I used to doll up every day because that's who I am, but people thought I was fake and easy when I'm neither of those two things. I generally get more respect for dressing and looking more casual, both from men and women.

And likewise (and at the risk of sounding like Jerry Springer's Final Thought), whether I'm a couch potato for the day or dolled up for a night on the town, my head is still my head.

 

I think its one of the most important things a girl has to learn, that the insecurities of the male of the species are far, far more immature than those of the fairer sex

Still, you are going to do the same, your not going to try marry a guy every waitress gets all giggly at every time you go to a restaurant

 

Exactly. :2thumbsup:

 

And its not really the guys you have to worry about.

If the other girls hate you now cos you are prettier or have a better figure, get to 40 and you look like Demi Moore and they all look like Jack Black, then they are really going to fuckin hate you

Perhaps even your own daughter. Ever seen that?, when the mother is hotter than the daughter, thats a laugh, talk about developing a complex

 

I don't really trip on looks too much. Like all guys, I like certain physical features such as red hair, but other than that its all about personality with me. Its so hard to find a girl that can avoid the drama that their fellow females thrive on. A girl should be independant enough to be able to make it through life, I also think girls need to become more street smart also. In my experience, girls get themselves into situations that could have been easily avoided with rational thinking. Not all girls are like this though. Anyway, my guess to the original post is probably guys are intimidated by beauty. A lot of times those "hot girls" cost a lot of money and guys don't like that shit because we are generally broke after car payments, phone bills, rent, food, gas, weed money etc.

 

I don't have many opinions but i do have this one i have been on both sides of this also and i don't want to stereotype anybody cause the 3 so called good looking girls i dated that were horrible to me are a small percentage of women in the world. and when i met my wife years ago i seen her and said omg that is the most beautiful woman i have ever seenshe was slightly chubby (i would never say she was fat cause she's not) and had blonde hair and glasses the exact opposite of what i looked for lol. But after we went out and i got to know her i knew how beautiful she was and 3 children and 18 yrs later she still is i was 17 when we met and i learned a lesson that year.All the time i wasted looking on the outside and missing what was on the inside I would not trade my wife for anyone in the world..... As for 2 of the 3 that cheated on me they are way over weight now and one has 5 kids from 3 fathers so pretty only lasts so long without the love for yourself to back it up. Just to add the one with 5 kids is a great mother she does everything she can for those kids and loves them to death. Thanks for reading

 

Well, right off the bat, you have to consider that its the opinion of the OP that her friends are hot.

For me, things that ruin a girls 'hotness'

When it is painted on... In other words, do they wear a lot of makeup? If so, I just imagine what ugly dogs they must be that they feel they need to hide under that much paint...

When it is detectable from the other side of the room... Perfume... same as looks... if you need to douse yourself in perfume to make you smell good, I just can't imagine what you must really be like...

When it is bought from a store... Clothes do not make the man/woman... In fact, they detract from them a huge amount... Not that everybody should be naked (well, unless its warm of course), but that the idea that a person's beauty comes from the clothes they falls along the lines of the rest...

Then, once you get past the surface, what is their attitude in life... do they feel they are better looking then everyone else? Do they feel there is nothing wrong with judging others by their looks? Do they sit around with their friends whining about why all the ugly women get the guys while they are left to themselves?

These things all detract from a woman's (or man's, if that's your thing) 'hotness'...

If you can't be proud of who you are, without spending hours finding ways to make you look (and smell) like something you aren't... You aren't hot...

Now, having said that... to those who think the whole fuck the hot one, marry the ugly one makes any kind of sense... two things...

1) Why would you fuck someone you couldn't be in a relationship with? This is in no way meant to infer that you should be in a relationship with everyone you fuck... but if you can't see yourself getting up beside the person in the morning, why would you put your dick in it (or vice versa for the women)??? Thats fucking INSANE... Next thing you know, you'll be getting married in vegas, divorcing her and then knocking her up and paying huge sums of money... lmao...

2) If you really divide the world into hot/not hot... you're not hot and a pretty fucking sad person...

of course... that's just my opinion...

 

Only non hot people say stuff like that

 

Funny thing about that... you don't see me on this board (or any other) whining about not having a partner and how life is so unfair that everyone else gets the girls...

Wonder why that is?

 

I would say women put as much emphasis on strength and power as men do on looks... and make just about as many stupid decisions base on it too.

 

for one thing, you're not 16.

 

Errrr, I'm quite happy everyone else gets the girls, I'll even do their hair and makeup first if ya want

 

LOL, it would frighten me if you said anything different...