Can't Get No Satisfaction: A Man's Story...

So, I've been dating this girl for nearly 2 months and it has been perhaps the most disappointing 2 months of my life. I love spending time with her, going to shows, going out to eat for lunch, and just being around her. She's great, however when it comes to being intimate with her I'm sorely disappointed and typically "left hanging," (although it's typically quite the opposite of hanging) while she goes about her business and falls asleep.

We've had sex at least three times a week since we've been together, but I can count the number of times I've been allowed to finish on my fingers. Is this normal behavior, and if so, why the hell would a woman do that to a man? I've never been with a girl who wouldn't let me finish or at least even try to help the process along...

Other things that bug me about the intimate aspects of our relationship is the lack of oral sex. I know a lot of people don't like to give it, but I've never met anyone who doesn't at least like to receive it - that is, until I met her. I personally love a good 69, but it really bothers me that some of my favorite things to do in the bedroom are out of her comfort zone.

The last thing that bothers me is that I pretty much have to do all the work. She initiates sex almost every time, but when it comes to the actual performance, she wants the old fashion missionary position and she will not get on top to save her life. Unfortunately for me, that's probably my favorite position and I definitely get off better that way. I've communicated all of this to her and it still doesn't seem to matter...

What the hell can/should I do?

Any advice from anyone would be greatly appreciated!

 

move the fuck on and let her lay like a corpse for someone else. she's a selfish lover. probably still young and inexperienced. she has to learn the lesson somehow. maybe she could just wake up to you busting on her face every morning and then she'll get the hint.

 

What I'm noticing here is that all of your complaints revolve around sex. If that's the only thing that matters to you in the relationship, you should probably let her find someone better. You probably shouldn't bother moving on and wasting more peoples' time.

 

If shes lying there...do what a necrophiliac would do...

Seriously, find someone better.

 

If you had paid attention you might have noticed that the sex is my ONLY complaint with the relationship. Thanks for your positive and enlightening response, Wiseman...:toilet:

 

have a beer, take a load off.

 

bring it up gently. communication. she may not even be consciously aware that she's stifling you like this until you actually tell it to her face.

 

or a finger up the butt.

 

I'm going out on a limb here. But Honestly it wounds like you two would honestly be better off as friends. It sounds like you have semi compatible personalities but have different desires in the bedroom which can only lead to frustration and dissatisfaction in the long run.

It also sounds like she is in that young head game playing head space that women in our society have been conditioned to play. The old "Keep him hungry" game. One of my first serious girlfriends was 16 and always used to tell me "I want you to want me". A lot of times these games can escalate to the not returning phone calls game or the I want you to be psychic game. In all it makes me glad that I'm 35 and in a commited relationship with someone closer to my age.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

If you spoke to her about it, I think that she's being rather selfish.

During sex, you should move from the missionary position, lay on your back, and let her know that this can be an opportunity for her to get used to being on top or trying something else that's new. She might be nervous about doing it wrong, so she might need some assurances.

It seems a little odd, though. You're 26 and have had experience before her, does she not have much experience? Seems odd that she's at a very low level of comfort when it comes to sex...

And how does she not 'let' you finish? I'm just imaging some crazy-psycho-bitch yelling at her boyfriend "you will not finish today! BUAHAAHAHA!"... sounds evil o.0

 

Excellent advice.

 

It seems like it's a pretty serious issue to you, even if it's the ONLY one... :2thumbsup:

 

bitch won't let him cum; that is pretty serious as far as a relationship goes.

 

Well, when you phrase it like that.... ;D

:afro:

I've got just the thing for you, bro. I don't think it'll clean the house or make you a sandwich, but it'll satisfy the rest of your needs:

http://www.fleshlight.com

:love:

 

It sounds like she's insecure. Tell her she has a rocken body or something. I like the porn idea. Maybe shes less inhibited when she's drunk too.

 

I suggest weed. Lots and lots of weed.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

I agree with this guy. Right on, man! :2thumbsup:

 

Is she a shy person? Is she shy about sex? Is it new to it?
You need to think of those, and have a talk with her.
Talk to her gently and let her know you arent sexually happy with the relationship even though you like or love whatever her very much and want to work at it.

If not, or you dont want to talk about, move on. 2 months is nothing, you;re acting like your tied to the chain your not. Break up or else it will become worse. Like guys getting married when they arent ready and cheating or whatever else.. So if you dont want to go through thaty crap or take her to the next level, just break up. You dont NEED to be with her, maybe you two are better of as friends?