I almost made my girlfriend cum again!

Duck, has your lass always shared a bed with this brother? For how long has she slept with a sibling, male or female?

It may not necessarily be a pleasant thought, but there could possibly be a little psychological issue behind it. This just means that for whatever reason, your lady is apprehensive to cum. Perhaps the thought is weird to her or makes her feel guilty, perhaps because of her sleeping arrangements.

Just because those arrangements change (her sleeping at your place, her brother sleeping on the couch), doesn't mean that the issue goes away. A drug addict who quits using drugs is still a drug addict. She may still have odd feelings towards this even though the sleeping arrangements vary.

Perhaps she's able to be intimate with you, but having an orgasm has a negative connotation with her because just as she has to share a bed with her sibling, she wouldn't think of masturbating as long as he's there. Every adult has a libido. If you had to share a bed with a sibling, what would you do with yours? Repress it.



And Vanilla Gorilla, I usually agree with your posts on these subjects, but frankly I have no idea what you're talking about in most of this thread, and the parts I do understand are just you expressing how you don't understand why men don't understand women.

 

Then you become very bothered very easily.

I was not rude or judgmental in my response to you.

I did not imply she was a freak.

I suggested that she be checked by a doctor to ensure that it is not a medical issue.

I suggested that she may possibly have an issue emotionally that might have caused her to repress or make it very difficult for her to orgasm that might require counseling to help deal with.

That you consider this something that really bothers you, causes concern.

I am relieved that she has seen a doctor.

Good luck to both of you. Wishing you the best possible solution you can find.

 

Was she a victim of sexual abuse as a young child?

 

I think always.

I mean, I'm not saying it's wrong; but again, I don't think it's necessarily the case. She has quite a great libido outside of cumming =P

No.

 

i don't see how this is bizarre. he didn't say she couldn't come with him, he said she's never came, ever.through masturbation or otherwise. Also, I feel pretty safe in saying that the majority of women who aren't able to climax, be it with their man (unless their man just absolutely sucks in bed) or by themselves can't do so because of a psychological issue. It could be something as simple as they aren't able to relax and let go. thats still a psychological issue that needs to be worked through.

 

My thoughts on this are a vibrator might just help your situation. There are lots of websites that give awesome discounts to first-time shoppers, you can get a really great, far from intimidating vibrator for as little as $10. I have issues orgasming (with someone else, I'm fine on my own), too, I have some repressed memories from childhood I suspect might hide the reason behind it, but I can tell you with sincere honesty, it's something in my head that blocks me. But don't think making her cum just once is going to break down the wall and leave her open to do so every time from there on out. I have been with the same partner, as you probably know, for 5 years, and I still don't always get off. In fact, I'd say it's fairly rare that I really do. And it's absolutely nothing to do with him, it's completely me. But I'm working on it, and trying desperately to do so WITHOUT having to revisit the repressed memories. I don't know what happened in that black cloud and I don't WANT to know. I'm not saying that anything like that may have happened to her, but there is some reason she's holding back, and I'll bet you the guesses here about her sleeping arrangements are probably right on. But be patient with her and try really hard to not let it get you down. It's probably not you, and the only thing you really can do is keep trying and just understand. She probably feels as bad as you do about the situation, if not worse.

 

Thank you for sharing your experience.

I was thinking similarly (about the vibrator) and the reassurance is helpful. Will do as soon as I get some money to spare.

 

You lot do have a tendency to pay a lot more attention to the girls you want to fuck than the rest, in fact some of the rest, poor things, its like they are invisible. So sorry, not so much not understanding them, more so paying attention to different things


You see Jessica Alba in real life and you'd probably pass out cos all the blood would run south. I see her, and it would be like having my own 5' 6" Barbie, dress her up in cool clothes, she's so pretty

You see one sexually aggressive, say like Jenna Jameson, and you probably try do 100 crunches first. I see her and wouldnt be able to eat seafood for a month

You see one like Ducks girlfriend, and you'd think what a sweet girl, you give her a smile, her ears go red, she runs her finger around her collar and you wouldnt really get why she's doing that. I see her and it would be like the Dinosaurs in Jurassic Park - ok, stand very still, dont look her in the eye, dont look her in the eye

 

We're not all that way of course. I understand what you mean, some men have the tendency to only go for certain women. Some women have the tendency to go for certain men. That's the way it is.

That is hardly a commentary on Duck's situation. It sounds like he and his lady have a legitimate concern, and I'm not sure that some men's inability to pay attention to some women is really what will help Duck.

It can take many different things to bring many different women to the point of orgasm.

 

Ok, it keeps getting better.

So lets see, so far we have:

A) She has psychological problems, i.e she's crazy
B) She's a Lesbian
C) She needs a gynecologist
D) Little brother made her asexual
E) She was kiddy fodder

Of course it has to be a negative reason, and it has to be something wrong with her

As opposed to:

A) She really just prefers the self love
B) She's a walking orgasm machine
C) She just tells him that so he keeps trying
D) Ducks sucks in bed
E) Ducks Dad is more gentle (That ones a secret girl joke)

 

Well, I really got you on that one; he's been dead for 8 years! =P

I know how most relationships are these days (though I don't know why people even bother with most relationships these days); but we're the more traditional courted forever before dating, lover is companion and best-friend type.
I write her cheesy love poems, she yaps about how much she loves me on Facebook.

We won't rule out D :daisy:

 

Whoops, sorry....21 I just assumed.......

 

don't stop!

hook your finger and hit her g spot, then lick her clit, then go back to the g spot, then do both.. then fuck the shit out of her. and if she tries to push you off because it feels too good, hold her down and fuck her harder!

you can do it, just be a little rougher.

 

Buy her a vibrator. Tell her to masterbate frequently for three weeks straight, several times a day. Then tell her not to touch herself for two maybe three days straight. Tell her to embrace the feeling before climaxing even if it feels weird or uncomfortable, embrace the weirdness. Before you bang her stare deeply into each others eyes for ten minutes straight, it sounds stupid but it helps. Go slow as possible in the beginning then fuck her brains out. Tell her you want to bathed with exploding liquide from her va-j-j.

 

good post. definitely start out slow and intimate, lots of kissing and SOFT touching. then progress slowly into fucking her brains out.

and yeah, get vocal. tell her you want her to cum all over your cock that usually gets them excited.

 

It was a good post idioticnumbskull, however your "banging" advice presupposes that she will have climaxed with the vibrator. (I think anyway)

I don't think her first orgasm will come from sex, no matter how hard Duck tries.
I do agree she should play with her vibrator (if she has one or agrees to get one) until she figures out how to orgasm. She can experiment and discover what her body likes and what feels meh. She must also get past the point of build up where she usually tightens up and just let go.

I think maybe if she puts down and old towel or blanket, she may feel more comfortable letting go. If she can forget about any external influences for a copy of minutes, she can relax enough to get over the hump.

Good luck Duck-just be patient and she will come around and you can help get her off over and over again.

 

i stand by my original recommendation:
she needs to take her sexuality into her own hands. stop the co-sleeping with any family members and set aside personal private time for herself.

oooo ooo bathtub, that is the solution. bathtub! she should position her falala under the faucet at is it running at a medium pressure. that is the best orgasm maker right there.

masturbate, masturbate, masturbate, and then relay the new found info to her man, Duck.

 

The faucet is a really really neat orgasm for sure.

 

bathtub faucet is the consensus, duck.

 

faucet