the way he described the story in the original post gave me the feeling he saw the oopportunity arise b/c she was going to be using at this rave.
Stay safe, and remember, if anything funky goes down with your friend, use a love glove. Don't get caught up in the heat of the moment.
I think you're making a mistake. You want your cake and to eat it too, don't be surprised if you fuck up your friendship with this girl. Who's telling you this? A guy who's friendship fucked up with this girl.
Nowhere do I see this. Maybe his friend is looking forward to this opportunity just as much as the OP.
you may want to figure out the actual emotion 'happiness' or something along those lines before you waste time in a relationship let alone a 'happy' one :love: --------- a genius party brah lol :sunny:
Okay let me address a few things. One is the notion that I want to take advantage of my friend. I am not going to shove pills down her throat and then take her into a back alley. I just know there is a level of mutual attraction there so the likelihood that something will happen between us is increased by the fact that we'll be high. Come on everyone knows that. Romance is a two way street guys. I agree with Cherea, that my friend has just as much a choice in the matter as I do. We are friends, I am not going to do anything that she is uncomfortable with. It is unfair to attribute all of the responsibility of a mutual romance to me, and I feel that that stigma wouldn't be applied if I were a lady. Double standards suck. Next is my relationship with my girlfriend. We have genuine problems. She has been really negative lately, and it has put strain on our relationship. Not to blame her for everything, I do not blame her for how I feel. The weird attitude she's been exhibiting has bothered me though. I talked to her about it last night. She agrees we should take time apart. We had a really wonderful relationship for awhile, things just haven't been going so smooth lately. To lunarverse and your lesson in reading between the lines: I don't think my willingness to be in an open relationship justifies anything. Although I do think if my girlfriend and I are taking a break that I don't have a strong sexual commitment to her. Also I agree partially with your second and third assumptions; I do have some objections. I honestly feel that my relationship is compromising mine and my girlfriend's happiness right now. Her and I talked it over and she agrees. Yes I am attracted to my friend, and I would not mind if anything romantic happened between us. But honestly I attribute that to my dissatisfaction with my relationship. So do the naysayers think I should force a relationship that has become cumbersome to both parties, or should I take some time to relieve that burden and enjoy the possibility of sex with my friend who I am deeply attracted to? The Imaginary being is the coolest B)
Sure thing man. And as for your other advice, don't worry. I know that if you're gonna hump, you MUST wrap the stump
Are you kidding me? You go from I'm so happy with my relationship to we've got problems. Every relationship has problems and if you're not willing to put your big boy pants on and work through them then no relationship will work. And you wonder why she's afraid or relationships? Its guys like you that dump her just to fuck someone else and turn around expecting her to be there. You're only taking a break to fuck your friend and everyone knows that. You just don't want to admit it because you're a douche bag. I completely agree with the chick who said you're a douche for taking advantage of your friend when she's high (and I hope you get charged with rape!)
Relax. Isn't he only a teenager? It isn't like he's giving up a house, 2 kids and part of his pension. He's young, dumb, and full of cum. Might as well spread some around before he knocks someone up and is forced to settle down. He isn't a douchebag, he's just young. Besides, if his girlfriend is acting shitty, then why not fuck the hot friend? But I do agree, this won't help the lass' relationship issues.
Yeah I think "certain parties" are taking the issue a little too personally by saying I am a rapist and a douche bag. The very fact that you make that judgement shows immaturity, as I asked for advice, but you feel obligated to scream your opinion at me. You contribute nothing but negativity with this attitude. if you honestly disagree with my choices and desire that I act in a different way, you certainly won't accomplish your objective by defaming me. Don't mention it Imaginary you're the man B)
No all advice is going to be positive. You only see what you want to see as advice. Its not immature to take advantage of a women while she is under the influence of a substance? Oh yes its immature of me to think that, that is morally wrong. Everyone judges to matter what you say you've judged people based on your opinion. To say you haven't would make you a liar. I don't coat my advice in sugar because some people need a swift kick in the ass.
Judgement is an inherent human quality. I do not blame you for judging me. Of course if I ask for advice I want a judgement. But if your judgement is a negative one, at least present it in a helpful manner. I sincerely doubt that anyone will respond agreeably to being called a rapist and being told they are a douche and that sort of thing
The guy doesn't sound like a rapist at all. I thought he explained himself very well, and I can understand where he's coming from. I certainly don't think he plans to do anything to this girl that she's not okay with. That's the main point of contention, and your "arguments" are meaningless if we don't agree that he has the intent you seem to think he does. I, for one, don't.
I don't think OP is any kind of rapist: that's too much. However, I do find myself agreeing slightly more with the females in this thread. All I really read is "I'm happy with my girlfriend, but we have problems." Don't we all? and "I'm attracted to another girl, so I want to take a break from my girlfriend (for our sanity and) so that I can experiment with this other girl." Do you want a relationship with this girl, or is it just about the sex? This seems to be a trend between the sexes: women want a stable relationship with someone they love. Men want to experiment and find the 'perfect woman.' I see OP in this category. What are you looking for in a woman? Is it reasonable? Why isn't your current gf good enough? Have you tried to help her with her issues before blowing her off for someone more 'stable?' Back to the idea of men wanting 'perfection': although I don't want to shoot down the idea of finding perfection, I'm wondering what you're 'perfect woman' is, OP. This girl may get your heart thumping for awhile, but how soon will it be until you're looking elsewhere? Do you see yourself loving this girl for long? Maybe that's what has all the girl's panties in a bunch in this thread: the frustration that men want something that doesn't exist and hurt their girlfriends or exes in an attempt to find it. I don't know why, but it always seemed to me that a lot of men have a picture in their head as to what they want, think they found it, only to be disappointed over and over again because the woman doesn't fit his idea of 'my perfect girlfriend.' Why do men get bored so easily? I know you're young, and you probably don't want to be thinking about commitment, but if that's your angle, I would suggest for you to stop entering relationships and just be clear with the women your with that you don't want anything serious. I feel bad for your ex. Because you were in a relationship, she probably assumed it was serious. Yet when she gets into a funk: you bail in order to find excitement elsewhere. I wish I could understand a man`s brain, because I really have no idea what you guys want from us EDIT: this whole reasoning likely stemmed from my own failed relationships. Thinking I would be a pretty good girlfriend, but not being good enough has created a vortex of chaos of thought within me. However, I do hope you still consider my above thoughts nonetheless.
The girls seem to have taken this a little personally, feeling more sympathetic for the girlfriend. But the fact of the matter is that people break up with girls all the time to fuck hotter ones.