Maybe from the failure feeling of past relationships, now i get a thought that i dont care about it anymore, i still fell in love, but not care about future anymore.......... same time i m a christian, so i must make sure if i still need to find a life partner for marriage, i m so confused what will be my life path..
I'm never going to marry because some book makes me feel that I should. Live your life how you want to, don't feel forced into anything.
life is the moment you are in. i usually don't think about the future at all when i start seeing someone; theres no need to bring that kind of stress to a new relationship. if you meet someone you like, focus on what you like about them and how they make you feel. Everything else is periphreal. eventually all those good moments with the other person will add up into something that feels like a committed relationship. There is no need to put stress on it by forcing it before it reaches that point. as for your religions views and needing to find a life partner, if you dont know who you are or what you believe you should figure that out before you start looking for a serious relationship. If you know who you are and have a strong value sytem in place then you should also know exactly what you want in a partner. Therefore you wont even have to look; when that right person comes along you'll be able to recognize that they possess the same values as you.
Just go with the flow and enjoy yourself! Can't always plan for good or bad things to happen. Make the most of life while you're here. It may not be easy, but it's best not to dwell on issues..either forget about them or deal with them head on! x
Who told you what you need? Do you need a relationship? Only you can decide. Screw what others think.
well, this sounds a bit commonplace, i guess, but.. you can foretell what's going to happen to you, you might meet someone when you don't even expect it. you'll just have to wait. don't think much about these things, just enjoy life as it is. i've read a quote somewhere that says happiness is like a butterfly, if you chase it, you will frighten it away, but if you wait, it will fly on your shoulder. or something like this. about marriage: a year ago i was telling everyone that there's no way i'm going to get married... and now, here i am, in a relationship with someone i love more than anyone in the world and we will get married some day. i just wanted to say there there is hope, and i hope this made you feel better
I'd just like to add a condition to this statement... That is true... IF the person doesn't settle along the way for whatever is available. Many people will say things like, Well, I don't want to marry this person, but they will do for now... or They really aren't my type, but I'm tired of being alone... or They treat me with no respect, but its better then not having anyone... ALL BULLSHIT... If you settle for someone who isn't your type, and someone whom is your type comes along, they will take one look at who and what you are with and run away as fast as possible... There have been people lately in a few threads here who have been saying those things like that and wondering why they can never find a truly good guy... It's because any good guy in his right mind would see the shit that this person is going through, and the games they are willing to play in order to get what they want from someone that doesn't offer it willingly and they say Fuck No, I wouldn't touch that shit with my worst enemies dick...
but not this world OP-I'd settle if I was you...you can always change her into the person you want...chances are you will never actually meet your soul mate...just think...what would Jesus do:mickey:
She really did a number on you eh? There are many 'soul mates' for any person... and who that is can change as quickly as the person decides to change what they want out of life. As for what jesus would do... First he would have to find a way to go from words on paper to a real person... then he would face the same things that we do... Either choosing momentary happiness by settling, or looking for lasting happiness by staying true to himself.
