Should I rethink about My BFs one night stands and break off?

My BF has a very tainted past.. He has confessed to me everything that he has slept with many girls before meeting me.. He also had a past relationship to which he was loyal he says.. But wen he realised tht hes ex was being a cheat even he slept with sme other girl.. I put everything behind me just because he was honest and said that he didnt want to hide anything from me.. Right now there are no probs but I am very insecured about the future and wonder whether he ll cheat on me.. Should i rethink and break off?

 

Don't cheat on him, and I think it'll work out.

 

I think you should give him time to gather himself,bacause with a past like that and starting a relationship with you already doesnt seem like theres will be a bright future.

 

He says he cheated on her because she did it to him first? A revenge thing? Perhaps so, many people do that.

My advice would be to talk to him about it. Relationships are about communication after all.

 

Hey guys first of all thanks for replyin

The thing is that its been more than a year he got out of all such things.. n we have been dating for 10 months nw..
we do have quite open communication.. but ts the insecurity in my mind wrt our future that worries me.. m tryin to cope with it but sometimes I doubt whether i made teh right choice

 

Has he done anything to suggest that he might cheat, or are your insecurities based on his past relationship? People can change, I don't necessarily believe it's 'once a cheat, always a cheat'.

 

Its based completely on his past relationship.. rt nw hes being completely honest

 

Tricky. But, relationships are based on trust. If he's being honest, but you still feel you can't trust him, is it the best thing to keep it going? On the other hand, if he is being honest you could be about to throw away a good thing.

 

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I think if you really want advice, you should post more legibly.

 

i think you should stick with it. maybe he is telling the truth that hes changed. time will tell, things work out for a reason

 

You have to grow up yourself, if you can. Insecurities go hand and hand with love and those strong emotions that get stirred up. I went through a similar situation to this a while ago myself and I'll tell you what I have learned.

The fact that he tells you everything is an indication of him wanting to change, wanting something more real and more honest than what he has had in the past. Often when people want to change they overcompensate to make sure they are doing the right thing which is why he told you everything.

It probably would have been better if he could have just decided to change on his own and been more balanced about telling you all his history so you didn't have to dwell on it - as I had to at one point from too much information - but look at the bright side of things. You know more about him than anyone else ever will if you stay with him.

If he's not doing things that cause doubt, like ACTIVELY doing things now in the present, like texts/calls to women or ex's, etc... telling you he'll be somewhere then you find out later he was somewhere else... you know, typical liar tells... if that's not happening, then you probably don't have anything to worry about.

Just take it slow and don't rush it - there's nothing wrong with taking time to trust someone. That's how everyone should do it in my opinion.

 

Cake.

 

First off, please have yourself checked for STD's, as they show no sign for a while, on a woman, and for some, the man will Never have any symptom.
I know - I dated and lived with a guy at one time in my life (when I was "normal" - lol), and come to find out he had slept with women up and down the eastern sea-board, being a construction worker. Well, needless to say, I told him he HAD to take medicine, too, as he was carrying it, tho' showing no symptoms....
He refused, and I threw all his stuff in the yard! He didn't even want to think about it, since his dick wasn't affected. That may sound vulgar, but it's true. But I knew then I wouldn't sleep with him him anymore. period. It is sorta funny now - about 20 yrs. later. But those STDs are nothing to fool with, and passed so easily, so quickly. The local health dept has to check anybody that asks to be checked, I think.

 

Also, it is one thing to play the field...it is another to cheat.
Cheaters don't change. Sorry. That is the way I feel. People can and do change; but if somebody has cheated on you once, they will 99.9% (my stats - lol) cheat on you again.
Life experience has given me those stats, too.

 

Eye for an eye. Dont cheat and let the relationship do its flow. Dont worry about it, if you want to be with him then let it happen. Dont worry about some girl and him in the past.

I would also go get tested with him just in case, due to many encounters and such. Dont want to end up with something without knowing.

 

I disagree.
I dont think, cheater then always a cheater. If you find the right person, have good communication and trust I doubt it will happen. It does depend on the person and their self-worth of themself, their partner and the relationship itself.

A knew a few people who turned their relationships around from cheating, cheating, cheating, cheating, then they found the right person and wouldnt dare. (ofc the karma thougths came to them thinking their partner will do that ha)

Now a few people who got cheated on, started cheating from serious relationship or ones that meant a lot to them. I knew a guy who was in a good relationship and the happinest, until his gf cheated, now this guy calls every girl "bitch, slut, whore" and just sleeps with them - this is about 5 years later. I cant wait till he gets a few STDS.

 

Ah yes, your input to this thread has been so helpful

 

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