Okay so to start I'm only 23. I have always had a low sex drive, my first time was a week before I turned 16 and have gone spaces of a year without sex to having sex every day at times. Never except in very rare binges have I wanted to fuck more than twice a day. When I wasn't getting laid I'd usually masturbate twice or three times a week. I have not had sex in 2 months and I have not masturbated in 3 weeks. The last year or so, largely because of my ex-girlfriend cheating on me which I no doubt can see being a depressing result on my sex drive, I have read more and more about the art of love and seduction. And frankly I find myself understand sex in society better and becoming very impartial to it. I have kept myself occupied certainly, I play sports, eat right and of course watch films and read books. I get drunk with friends and go dancing and do talk with women but have not gone on a date in 2 months. Is it perhaps normal for certain people to just look past sex as a necessity? P.S. My ex cheated because she was frustrated in that I spent more time practicing tennis ( pro tour last summer ) than seeing her, I did not have sex or masturbate for 5 weeks when I was practicing 3-5 hours a day.
maybe your "asexual." it is hard to say. i can tell from your post, that there is a good deal of psychological stuff going down with you. i'm not even going to try and touch on this! it is way, way, too complex to deal with on the internet with. my suggestion is, that you see a psychologist with certification in sex therapy. it would be a good ideal, to see your doctor as well, and tell him what is going down with your sex drive. none the less, i can see in your op, that you do have psychological shit going down with you that is interfering with your sexuality. good luck to you mate! i'm pulling for you!
Personally, the more I come to terms with what sexuality is in essence, the less it continues to dictate my behavior. Just because sex is the prime motivating factor in life for most people doesn't mean that you have to look at it in the same way. If your sex drive being diminished disturbs you, then by all means see someone. Just be aware that there is nothing inherently wrong in not feeling the urge to act upon sexual impulses, or even not having impulses in the first place, outside of potential biophysical reasons.
That's the thing, I was curious if I need to have the urge to masturbate every 3 days or something, cause I don't. And I'm not impotent because I can easily get an erection if I want one, and I still have tricophillia so I do get turned on by women with beautiful hair, but although I may pursue them I'm not...how do you say, bent on fucking them? I really don't want to waste my time seeing a sex therapist because I don't have trouble having sex, I just see less and less desire to pursue it. Basically it's like this: If a woman really hits on me at a party I'll most likely go along with it, but I'm not going to go out of my way to bang any broad at this point. And like I said I haven't masturbated in weeks and don't feel the need to watch porn, at all.
