Dont Think I Can Have Kid's

Okay so here is my problemo my fiance wants to have kids with me we have spoken about it long and hard and id love to have a child to. We are financially stable my other half being a security guard and myself starting to study child care and we have been trying for 5months and no luck but im unsure as to if i can have them. First of all some details about me.

I am 18years of age (Ben my fiance is 24 has a child who is 3 named Corey- umm dont know if this counts but he has testicular cancer, but all gone now and that was years ago) & got engaged (its a long engagement so dont get nasty to me coz of age its my choice) recently to my boyfriend ben of just over a year and a half (i used to be on the pill) but past 5months haven't been. Iv had two blood test's and my cortisol level is high, wont change. My monthly only last's for 3days usually starting on the 14th of every month which doesn't seem normal to me heavy one day light the next two. Btw cortisol level is linked to stress. I have tried meditation. Oh and we have sex about 3times daily haha so no problem there! hes not a dud root coz as specified above he has a kid already.

I love kids and really want one of my own, but outlook not so good seems i wont. Give me your thoughts and ideas? anyone else having similar problems or has a cortisol problem like me. I would like to know my chances or how long it took others to get pregnant. Thank you all in advance for feedback!

 

i dont know a great deal about this subject, but i can add that you shouldnt ever give up hope as a girl i know was told at age 17 that she could never have children due to some sort of pelvic blockage or something, she went through depression after being told this and she has had unprotected sex with different partners ever since but 1 day last year and very much to her surprise her doctor announced she was pregnant and is now the very happy and proud mother of a very much loved 6 month old daughter, i know the situation is different to yours but there is always hope.

 

A few of the things that I have read say that you may actually want to cut back on the sex that you are having. Due to the a mans refactory period (i.e. the amount of time it takes a man to produce more sperm). The more often he ejaculates the less sperm is in his semen. One of the things you may want to try is cutting back to once a day.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

birth control doesn't completely flush your system for 6 months to a year, so you may have problem getting pregnant from that. if this is important, you could have a doctor check you out, there they can give you medication to help boost your fertility, as well see if you bfs cancer did anything to prevent him from having children.

 

Hes already got a 3yo son so im assuming he is okay with having kids.
Yeah i have read less sex is a good idea lol will have to try...
The doctors said that coz of my cortisol level it is very hard if not impossible for me to have kids, i dont know of anyone else in the same situation coz its rare that people my age have high cortisol levels But im definally thinking getting a second opinion off another doctor would be great and then see what i can do to boost fertility. If all else fails im sure there is other options i just wish my body would hurry up and accept it.

 

Do yourself a favour and speak to your GP, or another specialist. They will be able to give you the answer, if you are concerned.

I wish you well, though.

 

Some things I noted, he's had ball cancer... Now while, if everything goes good the other testicle will pickup "the load" for the missing one. pun intended... remember stress is no good. However, Most doctors suggest sperm banking before treatment for cancer. There is a risk to lower or lose your sperm count from treatment.

I'd start with him firing blanks...make sure his sperm count is good. I'd go here http://www.menstruation.com.au/periodpages/howdoiknow.html and make sure your doing the deeds during the best time. As mentioned above, being off of birth control long enough and giving the little guy time to refresh and make more are 2 serious factors. Just one of you being a little off could be a big factor. From what I've seen in life...don't want it so bad... it'll happen right away then... it seems those who want it the worst have the most trouble. Pressure and stress confuses their swimming strokes also. Keep the mood lite, your only 18.

 

Not to quibble, but the refractory period is the time period where after orgasm, it is impossible for a man to achieve another orgasm until that time period has elapsed. It should also be noted that a man can achieve orgasm even in the absence of sperm.
Sorry about that, just had to sort it out.

 

Thanks my bad.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

This is clearly something you need to speak to a Physician about. There's a lot going on here with your fiance's past testicular cancer, with your just coming off the pill, etc. We could all say it could be "this or that", but it's all just guessing. There may be something wrong with his sperm, something wrong with your ability to conceive or there may be nothing wrong at all. Consult a physician if you're really concerned about this. Good Luck.

 

If you have a regular cycle then take the number of days and subtract 14. (eg 29-14) That will give you a rough of idea of when you ovulate.

This only works well if you are regular and also if you ovulate at that point.

I did not ovulate based upon that and ovulated at 21 days into a 28 day cycle.

I found that out by using Basal temperature. Take your temperature every morning before you get out of bed. Chart it and it will raise slightly on the day you ovulate.

That is a good day for sex and so are the next two. Well, to conceive anyways.

Any day is a good day for sex.

Good luck.

 

There is a rhythm technique used for birth control, it seems like the inverse might work for someone trying to conceive, try to focus your sexual activity around your time of greatest fertility.. (looks like its described above ^ must have missed that post before writing this one)

I know this is going to sound ridicules but it seems that woman conceive in groups.. When one woman gets pregnant, in the work place, or within the social group another tends to follow. It can't hurt to get involved with a class or group for expecting mothers (if nothing else you might learn something useful or interesting).

 

okay thank you all for your information

 

It takes on average 10 months to conceive. However because b/f was treated for his cancer he may be sterile or have a low sperm count, or have deformed sperm. He needs to speak to a Dr. about it and get things looked at - especially if he has had radiation treatment, as he may carry a risk of passing on genetic defects to his children.

 

Try doing some Yoga or some other activity that makes you healthier and helps you to regulate your stress levels more.

 

Okay haven't been on this for awhile and now i feel stupid coz little did i know that last time i posted 26th of October I WAS PREGNANT! my due date is July 16th 2011. I found out November 14th making me about 5 weeks at that stage. (Oct 9th last girlies)

Me and about 3 other friends fell pregnant about same time I had less sex than used to so i believe his spermies had more baby juice and well now 2moz i will be 19w & 6days and i find out the gender. Thankyou all for your help.

 

well congratulations

 

thanks

 

Congratulations! I wish you all well.

For next time:
5 months is nothing to worry about; it can take up to a year for a healthy young couple to conceive without it being a concern.
Furthermore, at 18 you really do have plenty of time.
The pill takes 6 months to clear from your system, so you musn't expect instant fertility upon stopping your pills.
Medical professionals are your best bet for this kind of advice
You do not have to add an apostrophe to make words plural.

 

Yay congrats!!!